doing good things

[stigma]

dont you all be in a situation when u do a good thing but instead of others appreciating it, they turn to u blaming and saying things that hurt

[EviliO]

Hmmm...

Yeah it happens actually...But..

What you see from your point of view as a good thing might be not from others point of view i guess!

They might think your help was a way of putting your nose in something that doesn't actually belongs to you!!

But you do feel inside you that you ment it as a positive action toward others!
and i guess...... so it will be!
Most indeed do feel your reaction and it's result after a period of time....

[DeSerTDesTroYeR]

exactly as evilio...said....it could be always a total mis-understanding...:confused: which leads to such situations..

best to do..is be patience..and keep explaining..if not at the same moment..then a little while later when they are calm.

[selma]

Originally posted by devil
dont you all be in a situation when u do a good thing but instead of others appreciating it, they turn to u blaming and saying things that hurt

Devil,

I haven't been thru that situation.
well actually it depends on the subject, people involve and its sensitivity..

Some people do a good deed so as to cover a bad thing that they have done or someone close has done (such as lying, buying things .. get close ...to the people in the situation)...on that they will expect to be apreciated..

I still think that it depends on the situation .. it is hard to tell

[stigma]

i'll tell u later what happened and you tell me,, im in work now and i am busy and cant type for long

[X-press]

Originally posted by devil
dont you all be in a situation when u do a good thing but instead of others appreciating it, they turn to u blaming and saying things that hurt

I haven't really be in such situation, but in something similar where I would genuinely do or say something good, but in return someone will criticize my action and see it in a negative way. At the end, I know that the problem is with that person, not with me.

[stigma]

I am sorry guy .. I am will not be able to post in sabla for two weeks because I have to go for work.

sorry

[DeSerTDesTroYeR]

devil...well best of luck...we will wait for your return....to continue this topic..:)

[stigma]

im back from desert but i forgot what i wanted to put in here in the first place,, sorry guyz,, and if u have any interesting replies please share them so we can all get use of it

[Dr N]

Well devil, just like the others said, it could be a total misunderstanding, it all depends on the situation. If you have done something good and the other person didn't appreciate that, it could be because he didn't get your gesture so I guess you need to talk to the person and explain very well your intentions, tell him that you meant good, have a long and understanding talk, and I'm sure you two will finally agree on a point.

[Morbid_Angel69]

:( Everyone misunderstands me...im soo misunderstood...like Pink! :sorry: