Wedding Parties....R they must?

[KING_OF_ALL]

Guys,

I need your views and opinions about this point here as some say we have to do a big unforgettable party for the wedding day and others say as much simple as possible!

What do YOU think ?

Thank U

[DeSerTDesTroYeR]

Its a decision made by the parents of the couple..and the couple themselves....

it all depends how they want it to be....

what i think ...is....go simple.....because...paying over such party is a waste of money.....you can always invite people later on to your house..if you want....for example...

its also affected by the culture....as your expected to have a huge wedding party...to a certain standard...well thats just too much...

we should take it logical..and do whats best for us..and i would highly recommend that the married couples make the last call...or decision about it.

[kitkat]

that's my BIIIIIIIIG day
for sure I want a party:rolleyes: not a biiig one but I want one:rolleyes:

[4-ever-young]

salami to King of all

well as DesertDestroyer said it is all upto the couple to decide..and after all this party is for thier sake to celebrate and if they feel that they dont want to then they really dont have to.

But what usually happens is that the parents want a celebration (meaning big wedding etc) so they encourage the couple to have one..

[X-press]

You are supposed to get married once, so your wedding day is special...so why not having a nice celebration with it? If you can afford it, I don't see the problem with it...now it is only one if you still do it for the show and put yourself into debt.

[KING_OF_ALL]

Salami to all of you,

Desterdestroyer..thats exactly what I think..the more simple the more nice it becomes:)

Kitkat..that is almost acceptable but with limitations though:D

4-ever-young..what if the couple doesn't want it and the parents insist on having one. B'caz from what I see; parents just like to talk about it and show off probably:confused:

X-press..it is the day of your life as you said but don't you think that instead of throwing thousands of rials in one go into a party and hear ppl gossiping against it..that money can be utilized in lots of charity duties and make a life of hundred's different including in oman itself;)

Thanx for your inputs.

KOA

[H-Highness]

Marriage is happiest moment of any human being and also is blessed by almighty God, so it will nice for the couple to make it official or announce it.

Beside being a special moment, but I don't agree with anyother who dreaming of having Big big parties. I love small, simple party which consist of very close relatives and friends. As for me party with more than 75 people is just too much, not because of fund matter but to keep the privacy.

I would love to see my wedding party sorrounded with people who care about me and really happy to see me starting my own family rather than inviting buch of 300 people who will give nasty comments ie. the bride is fat and the food was not and so on.

[Cherry]

this reminds me of my brother..!!
he also doesnt want a party for his wedding ...why? because:
1. it will cost too much...!
2. he says that all the girls will stare at him!..(in arab weddings that is..the hall is full of ladies)...
i personally think he'll like that part! :)....knowing my brother!

[Enigma]

it is the day of your life as you said but don't you think that instead of throwing thousands of rials in one go into a party and hear ppl gossiping against it..that money can be utilized in lots of charity duties and make a life of hundred's different including in oman itself

personally I agree with that, I don't think you should overdo it with a huge party with a bunch of people there some who you don't even know.
food gets wasted, money wasted, clothes you'll wear for one night only........
I think you should keep it simple, family and some friends......but it is always up to the couple....their life they do what they want with it.

myself I just want the Imam to do his thing and we'll sign the document and we'll be done, after that we can do something special , just the two of us.
of course mom keeps telling me "what if you marry someone who wants to celebrate, or his family wants to make a big party?"
hopefully I'll end up with someone who feels the same.

[KING_OF_ALL]

It's a good feeling when you have common thinking...Very supportive comments indeed H-Highness, Cherry & runnin' around.

I think now we should let our voice be heard by our parents:D

KOA

[X-press]

Yesterday, for exemple, I went to a simple wedding celebration and it so so much more fun than these big ballrooms gatherings...

...the bride and groom got married through an Imam in the morning....at night they only gathered at their house their close friends and relatives. There was a simple buffet... the bride, dressed in a nice green arabic gown, was enjoying herself among us. There was no camera, no dance, no music but good cheers. We all took pictures of each other and of the married couple...the expenses were minimum (food only) and we had such a good time, including them.

I truely wish most weddings could be like this one. I believe with the new generation, thinks will change here in Oman.

[KING_OF_ALL]

There you go X-press...great example to talk about.

I think I've almost made-up my mind when am gonna get married inshallah. Though I have to convince my partner;)

KOA

[4-ever-young]

well KOA your mind is made up which is good and i am sure ur partner will understand and insha Allah u two can enjoy your wedding

[KING_OF_ALL]

Thank you 4-every-young. But what makes you so sure that my future partner will definitely understands me?

KOA

[X-press]

If she loves you, she will hopefully accept as this is just superficial...Do what makes you both happy, as that day will be your day ;)

[KING_OF_ALL]

Shukran x-press...may the all the skies are clear so that your prayers are reachable;)

Thankyou 1ce again.

KOA

[IcouldBEany1]

As for me, I would love to have a very simple party BUT i can do nothing about this coz my mother told me that when it comes to my wedding then i have nothing to say. its all them, she and her sisters but me there is noway to interfere:weep: and i can say nothing about it although ill try my best to convince her but at the end its their decision:weep:


Inshalaaaah khaair


ME!

[KING_OF_ALL]

Icouldbeany1, dont under estimate urself..as you can do a lot in trems of convencing ur parents of what you'ed like to do with your wedding and other plans as well. Dont be afraid to talk about it..and try it through politics...dont just dive-in caz they may not like it. But try to be smart and innoncent and inshallah you wishes will be their comman:D

KOA

[IcouldBEany1]

Inshalaaah i will try my best and a9lan i was going to try my dear BUT the last decision is not taken by me but my mom:D


Thank you anyways dear KOA and ill still try my best!!



ME!

[kitkat]

well if the one I will marry was someone I love
it's ok for me to not have a wedding party if he asked me for that
but
if it wasn't someoen I love
I will make a party then loOoOOlz
it may sounds funny but this is ME :rolleyes:

one of my friends in Jordan.. went in a tour to many places in euorpe and USA insted of the wedding party
and she told me that she really had fun and she was happy for not having that wedding party..

but still
when ever I think about it I feel like
:weep: I want a wedding party with the white dress:weep:

I better stop thinking of that

:rolleyes:

[Navigator]

Hii there ,, It doesn't have to be a big one !!! But since you have the money and you 'r sure that you are not over spending then it's ok . But to have a loan from the bank just to make such thing i don't think it's worthing ,,coz The happiness is just few days,,and then What ?!!! You will end up paying the bank !!!! :lost: :lost: :lost:

[DeSerTDesTroYeR]

The Big Day ..ha//:rolleyes: ...why is the wedding the big day??......i personally ....dont really consider it ..like that....

The wedding day is a new chapter to your life (your = the married couple).... a new boook....which combines 2 ...into 1......you need a Big day ..and event to secure that?....nah...

why cant your big day be when you inshallah have your first child....then second.....etc....

marriage...is more of a new road you turn to.....was there a stop point?.....ya...but your not supposed to stop there too long...beside... waste of money...is just not healthy...:D ...weither you can afford it or not......people will talk?.. of course.....parents want to show-off their children...and how wonderful parties they can make for them.....of course again.........(not all though)

it all depends.........hmm..well.....again.........i say...go simple.....invite relatives........dear friends........no need...for a big Bang....

actually inshalllah..............i'll ask my future..wife...to wear...Omani dress on her wedding day...instead of White dress.....as the Omani dress...she can cover her hair...normally.....but with ...white dress....its kind of an add..on...if there is any in the first place.....:rolleyes:

[kitkat]

lOolz DD
let us wait and see if u are going to have a wedding and if your wife will wear Omani dress
OKK bro:rolleyes:

[BliNd_MelOn]

Hmm...As for me...I wouldnt want to get married soon...I still have time lol!!
But I alwys protest against wedding parties..and spending lots and lots of money on this one night...sure its special...but it doesnt have to be expensive to be special..It is by the nature of this day...

I"m not very fond of wedding parties...My family knows this..I dont really like going to them either...I just dont like watching people dancing around and songs and all this stuff....
My dream would be to have this big "reception" in some garden with flowers and roses all around...and swans...lol...too much to ask? I dont want to book some hall to dance in!!
Even when it comes to the dress....I dont like fancy ones!!!!
just simple and white...not "puffed up" with long "tail" which i can barely move in...and also forget about having a massive makeover!! no heavy makeup done at the dressers! and hair would be simple too....

I always liked the way Christians get married..I like the "going to Church" thing...It's just peaceful , quiet..and more holy!! and then later after that I'd have a reception at my parents place or at his, with a dinner buffet and then we would leave for our honey moon!! lol And that would be it!!


Thats my opinion....Weddings should be simple and sweet...something to remember...:color:

[kitkat]

hey blindy I will make sure to reminde u of this post in your BIG DAY OKK:wink: :wink:

[KING_OF_ALL]

Good thinking guys....keep it up all of you and think about tomorrow though dont be too mean on yourselves;)

I hope the hotels wont lose in their business:gap::D :gap:

KOA