Confused!

[Shahrazad]

I've been thinking about this issue for so long, and i guess it's time to see what you all think about it.

Here we go, I am the kind of person who can't see something wrong infront of them and stand still, i always try my best to solve out problems. Well not really to everyone, but to ones whom are close to me.
Sometimes I talk to myself and say ' Hey Silent tunes, mind your own business!' and on the other hand, i really feel guilty and irritated when I find things screwed up and i have no hands in giving a solution :sorry:

So is this considered as a bad habit, good one, neutral?! :confused:

If you happen to be in a situation where your word would make no difference, will you stay quiet or will you rather speak out ?

In cases where you got no feed back and the problem is still present, will you just simply back off, or will you put more effort to straighten up things?!

[IceTea]

Well it depends on the problem and what advise or solution u are going to offer, I think its something natural in human to interfer and take an action when they see something wrong infront of them espacially if its happining to some of our freinds or relatives. But at the same time its not good to be very nosy and put ourselves in every single problem wheather it deserve or not. Maybe its good to give the people around a chance to solve the problem first before we jump and make the suitation worse.

[X-press]

Originally posted by Silent tunes
If you happen to be in a situation where your word would make no difference, will you stay quiet or will you rather speak out ?

I agree with IceTea that it depends of the problems you see in the other person.

If I am not close to that person, I will definitely not speak out unless maybe if the topic is brought up.

On the other side if I am close to that person, out of concern, I can give my opinion but without trying to solve the problem, unless that person ask me for solutions.

[Shahrazad]

Ops.. this was not meant to be a personal problem, I just wanted to know the members view points on this :), nevertheless, I will be waiting for more comments.

Thanks IceTea and X-press, indeed your points made sense.

Say you had something in you that didn't please others, would you mind people coming to you commenting on your behaviour/habit/etc, or would you prefer them not interfering?!

[Bimzoori]

Well, this is a kinda complex issue to talk abt, as it depends on many factors, to list some: the type of problem, how close you are to the perosn , the type of person, etc..


In general, I'm the kind of person who would speak up if I see something that I dont like ( I have to admit this has gotten me into trouble a couple of times :rolleyes: :rolleyes: )

Sometimes, I I ask my self "am I being too nosy? :lost: ", but I just cant help it...

There are several things that you should keep in mind before giving advices..

first, rememebr to do it secretly and not in public so as not to insult the person...

second, dont give an advice if you dont know what you are talking abt..

third, if you see that the person is not willing to take an advice from you, back up and dont interefer anymore...

fourth, dont try to pressure the person to follow what you say, y3ni, more of a "suggestion" type of thing..

[Shahrazad]

Thanks alot Bimmi :)

Bimmi said:
third, if you see that the person is not willing to take an advice from you, back up and dont interefer anymore...

I can't stay calm seeing the mistake being re-done :( , I will keep talking and talking and get no feed back, that's when i will stop interfereing. (of course not in each and every case, but to very close people!)

[Arabian Princess]

This is a social problem that is faced by many people !!

I personaly like t express what I feel .. sometimes I feel I interfer with people's business .. but I cant keep my mouth shut :( especially to people close to me!

so what do you guys think??