I cant forgive, I cant forget!

[MamboBraziliano]

Its this thing i have that doesnt allow me to forgive a mistake of someone specially when it comes to mistrust. I cant forgive a person for misusing my trust. I trust all people regardless to their personality till they prove the opposite, but ones they do a single mistake then thats the end of it. They are crossed out of my life forever.

I cant forget also. Wheather mistakes happend in the past or with me. I try to ignore it and it works, but i can never forget how a person hurt me or made me feel one day.

ANyone with the same problem.

Adios

[DorellaM]

I dont have that problem, and actually I can forgive a person quite easily when I remember this here:

"How can I expect God to forgive me of my faults, when I cant forgive some else's faults"

I have a friend who has this same problem....
but she has actually lost all her friends because she cannot look over their faults and realize that everyone is different.

And I also like what Tupac says:

"Forgive but dont forget"...meaning u can forgive, be careful not to get burned again....

Life Lessons...:(

[4-ever-young]

Hey there MamboBraziliano!
I can sort of relate to what you are feeling as i feel the same way..for when someone does something wrong it is always difficult to forgive..but come to think of it we all make mistakes and hopefully learn...but if everyone took this action of not forgiving then we would lose ppl and end up being alone..

It is hard to forgive but i think with time u can find it in u to forgive the person....but what is even harder is to forget "i can forgive but cant forget"

[FaHaD]

sorry mamboB.
i read ur post late..
well friend i hav ethe same problem but i am differnt little bit..
is that i only can't forgive only one person .. only one .... and i will never forget what that one person did....

but u know i let everything for allah, i just ignore that trust i used to give ..

but i am a kind of man who forgive easily ...

[IceTea]

In simple words I don't think any human can't forgive or forget. Espacially feature of forget, Allah gave us this valuable feature so that we continue our life in normal way, otherwise imagin that one of your relatives died do think u will think about him/her the rest of your life 24 hours a day. No after sometime u will forget and yes u will remember him/her from time to time but it will be normal thing and after few years u will forget completely and will be left with some memories only.

[NaBHaN]

to me , it depends on how big the mistake was!! if it was really really big then i don't think i can forgive the person!! but if it was a silly mistake then i forget about it in no time!!

[FaHaD]

ice tea , nice reply i miss them alot...

[Arabian Princess]

MB,
I think this is a common feeling shared by most people. When the hurt get hurt to the bottom, it is hard to let go of teh feeling of hurt because it would at least take revenge (although on urself) which is a feeling every human want to doMy own theory ... donno if right :)

but, you shoud always remmber, life is all about experience. you learn from this person and that person. ALthough this learning process might keep you in wounds, but it is the most effective way to remmber the lesson.

Just let go, forgive and try your best to forgive because this way you will live lighter. It is hard, but worth trying.

[jnoon]

I think most of you are right with what you said about forgetness and forgiveness....
Just think of what would happen if you did a mistak no matter how big or small it is to someone, wouldn't you want that person to forget what you have done and forgive you for it ?????
I believe everybody would. Everyone has the ability to forgive and forget but sometimes it is a matter of time depending on the type of person you are. So why should I keep some sort of hatred in my heart towards somebody who has done something to me which i could have easily done if I was in his/her position....
Life is too short and should be exploited by love and the more we hate, the less room for love in our hearts.

[B S Al Hassani]

Well, it happens alot, especailly when a person desievs a trust.... But I really forgive, like recentally a specail friend of mine had dramatically changed, i really up till this moment dont know what happened?!! Bs 3adi i forgive, coz i want to forget, too...

[sweet life_rose]

I'm forgiving person but it depends what the mistake is, if the person is close to me or not, is it serious or simple and wether can be solved or not

We are human-beings no one is free of mistakes as I imagin my self on their place and think about the reasons which led them to the mistake and what they expect other's to respond it. Try to understand them no one is absolute evil forgivness is strength:cute:

[Endure Whisper]

It's common sense. Think right and you will be able to atleast forgive, if not forget.

[Maysa]

If someone insulted me in any way,

I would never forgive or forget!!

[Fact HearT]

I can forgive, but i can't forget............ i have this proplem what people have don to me i can not for get it .... why i don't know? bu m ok with them but still i remember their mistakes...