Male+Female=Mixed Life

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I was checking out the Arabic Sabla and hell was I shocked! Almost all the posts are to complain and let steam out about those new mixed government schools. Hellooo, it's just till fourth grade and the students are only like nine years old! Anyway if that's the way the whole population of Oman think, then what about higher grades, unversity and work? In the States where the mixed life is normal, it's about to be stopped in schools but here in Oman where it's 'abnormal', it's about to be increased, that's what they say. I, myself am in a mixed school and would like to know the religion's opinion and what are the circumstances as all that is cultural more than anything else.

[Arabian Princess]

Intresting question Drifiting Spirit,
Well I read abook some time back about this Issue and the writer explained well that the issue of spliting the women completly from men did not exist in prophet days. WHen I mean here spliting I dont mean that men and women should mix without limtation, but I mean in certain areas such as school, work, shop and so on.

In Haj, women and men mix I know it is a holy place and a person there should not think of any earthly feeling, but the conclusion is that they mix. The author of the book stated that they used to buy and sell from each other in prophet days.

When did this issue of not mixing started to apear, when men and women started having songs and women dance on them which made teh religous people hate those mixing areas. To stop thier women from drifiting to that stage, they started making this isolation.

These ideas come from the book, am not responsible of them am just giving you people what some people think.

Let us go back to the topic of basic education, I agree totally that they are kids!!, comon .. boys play with thier cousins, neighbours until they are in grade four and sometimes more. SO why it is at school differnt? I think it could help guys to think of every girl in thier society as thier neighbour and respect her instead of playing around with her. It will take time, but I think it is a good idea to teach each sect respect each other.

but, more than grade 6 I dont think it is apporopriate. I mean at that age girls start to enter adolsonce and it might be dangrous o mix them coz they would want to explore the lives of the other gander and my enter into relationship that wuld make them regret.

[Seniora]

i agree completely with AP, but tottal segragation also has its bad points, for example, most girls, and guys who were totally segregated dont know how to act in the other sex's presence, or they overdo it. i mean the flirting and harrasing happening in malls is partly due this total segragation.

so i think schools should do something to prepare the students, and teach them how to conduct oneself when they are mixed, and try to make a mixed situation seem as something normal, becouase in the future the youngsters would definately have to face it, eg in workplaces.

[Enjoy Ur Death]

salam every one
1st: i agree that till the 4th grade children of the both genders are children , however?
a) not all of them aer polite ... some of them aer not children at all and i am working in ahospital were sometimes i hear or see that very young girl have been abused by a similar age group boy ...

b) if we want them to respect each other then u said by urself that they play with their cousins, sisters and don't forget that their mother is a lady and their father is a getleman , so can't they learn these things at home ?? they act differently in the presence of the other gender and if u go back to the psychological books then u will know that this is the breathing of her/ his sexual desires . this doesn't mean to make relations but to be attractive in the eyes of the opposite gender and i don't think that u would like to train him/ her for this ?

c) separations is recommended in islam whenever it is possible and there is nothing in islam called friendship between different genders that's why their talk, laugh and chat should be less and as u know the thing u learn in childhood is the strongest thing u learn.

d) if smth is not started then why to start it ? u can do all the things u want to make ur children kinow at ur home if u spend time with them. personally, i don't see any benifit from making things mixed. remember that the basic rule in islam is separation and not mixing then why not to apply these rules?

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thanks for all of u

[Shakoosh Kabir]

In England many schools are single-sex. The thinking behind that is partly religious and partly practical, i.e. it is assumed that teenagers perform better at school if they are not distracted.

I must say that in Oman you appear to be rather obsessed with sex and religion. Perhaps it is the heat. In England we have cold showers and cocoa to help us think pure thoughts.:cool:

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LoL Shakoosh Kabir it's true the weather is HOT in Oman but we've got something called air conditioners if you haven't heard of them :p !
Most private schools in Oman are mixed and there's nothing we can do about it. And what it seems like is that students of all-girls or all-boys' schools or universities are more desperate and obsessed with the other sex! So is the solution to stop our society from mixing? Our country is changing and this generation is not scared of trying or daring! Mostly, I think it's the lack of attention or proper Islamic education from parents, but this way or that, is mixing for the sake of education and not anything else haram or not?