My bestfriend is a *****

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I don't care what she is, I just love her and deep down she's nothing but an angel with a heart of gold. She has always been there for me both when I needed her and didn't need herm and we share lots of happy and sad memories together. Her only problem is that she plays around with boys and does bad stuff of that sort, and now my parents know. They are scared her bad reputation or bad habits might affect me, and so they ORDERED me to stay away from her:fire:. Even though I have more friends, none of them is a replacement to her and I now feel bleak lonliness:weep:. What should I do, as I can take care of myself and don't need those rules, especially since she's not that bad?

[Thug4Life]

the question here is:
Is she realy ur Friend? does she value this friendship???
if so....Why She is Causing harm 2 u?

man reputation is a very important issue....U shouldve done ur part of advising her ...every time u talk 2 her...advice her that the road she is taking is Wrong....If she realy value ur friendship she will listen!
other wise....why bother!
whats more important...Ur friend....Or ur family?!
U choose!

[Arabian Princess]

Drifiting Spirit,
Well it is a very big dillema espeically for teenagres and school classmates.
I would somehow stand with thug and say that reputation is something very very important and you should rember that. At the same time she is a dear friend of yours and you cant just leave her! I would go with thug and ask you to tell her what is wrong and tell her that this has caused your family to be so protective of you. SHe would try to change .. and that would be for the best .. and you could also talk to your parent (after she has decided to change) that she is becoming a better person .. and I am sure after sometime they will accept her as your firend again !

Best of Luck

[ReVeLuTiOnAl^]

DrfiftingSpirit.

I have 2 solutions for you.

First,
I understand from your words that you can't or you are not prepared to lose her. Fine, in order to keep your reputation stable and clean, you need to sit with her when she is in a good mood and tell her first how you feel towards her and her value towards you. Then step by step introduce your topic and start telling her about the importance of reputation, then advice her. Don't show her your anger, nor you should rise your voice, keep calm and tell her step by step gently. Try to show face emotions and eye contact. Then see how the results will be and hence you can decide what to do.

Second,
I would recommend for you to leave her since she does bad stuff as you said.. if you are willing to marry her, then she might not be the right person for you since she is a bad girl according to your words. If you are having her as a great friend, you don't want to lose, then make your mind and rethink about it carefully and ask yourself: what is the point of having a bad girlfriend.. so my advice, leave her. Remember, this is a second solution.

Good Luck.

[Arabian Princess]

I would recommend for you to leave her since she does bad stuff as you said.. if you are willing to marry her, then she might not be the right person for you since she is a bad girl according to your words.
I think reve u got it wrong here, drifiting spitir is a girl and her friend is a girl ..how can they get marraied? :p

[ReVeLuTiOnAl^]

Originally posted by Arabian Princess

I think reve u got it wrong here, drifiting spitir is a girl and her friend is a girl ..how can they get marraied? :p

Hmm.. Sorry then:p.. I get things the other way round these days..

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loOol Reve, no I don't wanna marry her, noway! And you guys think I never tried advising her? Hell she'd never listen to me and says I'm old fashioned. Oh well, I guess I can live without her afterall, since I discovered today worse habits of hers like making things up about me. Allah yesame7ha, I'm not happy or unhappy, I'll just survive. And I guess my parents were were right all along. Bless.

[Thug4Life]

a good descision ! well done!
and from that u will gain blessing from Allah !
after all u didnt ur best in advising her? So what is left!