guest in my own country!!!!

[Nokia]

Hi dear members'
Sorry that I have been away from Sabla from loooog time. I was busy with my final year's exams plus project. Thank Allah I just finished my degree I am waiting for graduation. My problem is I have been away from home for so long five years I feel it's a lot of time in these five years every time I go home for holiday I feel like I am a guest and not resident, especially whenever I go home it was always for short time. And now I have to go back and start my life all over. I am wondering how I will adjust my self back to the way I was before I came for my studies. I miss home and want to be there all my life being far from home thought me lots of things and how home is the best place to be. But the problem is how to overcome the feeling of being guest in my own country?

[Arabian Princess]

Nokia,
you problem is very very common. I think every person who has lived so long away from Oman would face the same concern.

But let me ask you something, how did you manage to adjust in a differnt country? wherever you are now .. I am sure it woould have been difficult in the begining. After some time you tend to feel comfprtable there more than Oman!
This is the way life is and one good trait that humans have is the ability to adjust.

Welcome back Nokia and please we want to see more of your contribution in the new sabla :)

[Bimzoori]

Welcome back Nokia..

As Arabian said, just as you got adjusted to your new life when you first left the country, you'll be able to readjust your self in your home country, InshaAllah..
Infact, I think its a common situation, I reckon its called "reverse culture shock", not sure, though.

[4-ever-young]

hey there nokia first congrats on completeing ur stuides...at least that is done...so now u fear that u might not be able to adjust to Oman..wel the answer is give it time..things might seem odd at first and u might even miss the country u were in..but i am sure u will be alright...and just remember all things u used to miss when u were away from oman...and tell us how is goes

[ReVeLuTiOnAl^]

First of all, my warm congratulations for you/// Great achievement. 1 year you are in advance of me.. wish you luck.

I assure you, this is a wide spreading feeling amongst most students who study abroad, i do feel the same as you whenever I go back home... so it is just a normal thing which had to be there.

The first thing i think you need to do in order for you to get back to your normal life in OMan is to start from your own home and family, Yes, make sure that you spend long time with them before you start to go out alot. In your first few weeks, try to be in your home as much as you can, try to be more involved in whatever happens in your home, talk alot, feel free to say whatever you want, make jokes... play with your siplings if you have any...

Once you feel things are normal in home, then go out and communicate more with the society around you, involve with your friends more, go out with the more, visit places that you have't visited for long time...joke with them, laugh, be patient, you may have different thoughts but go with them and take things easy... live normal....

Go and visit your relatives, especially the OLD people, don't forget them, don't say they are old and might not remember me or ask about me, NO... there are always people who ask about you.. visit them when you finish, tell them that you have finished, they will be more than happy for you once they know that you have finished your course and that you are back home for good, hence you will feel you'r not as a stranger any more... Never ignore anyone....

Wish you good luck.. sorry i might not be giving you the right advice..but i am writing without relaisng what i am actually writing as i am practicisng my typing skills!
Anyway... enjoy home.. and Cong.s again and again.

[shampoo]

well u c..i have the same problem , it has been 6 yrs since i have been away from home, it has been really hard for me to live abroad, now iam going to have to wait 2 more yrs to return back home, but the problem lies where i dont feel at home when iam back home, and at the same time i dont feel home when iam here, it really hard to explain, but my situation is sort of diffirent coz i studied high school and now iam finishing uni here. i always think how would it be like living back home.

[X-press]

Nice to see you back Nokia and "Big Congratulations" for finishing your studies and graduating soon!

As the members said, I also believe that your problem is quite normal and that you shouldn't worry too much about it. You will need a bit of time to adjust back to your community, the way of living and the way of thinking. I suppose it was the same when you left Oman to study abroad, you didn't adapt yourself right away.

I also think that it will be normal at the beginning that you will miss the place you left, as you also got used to another environment, met new friends and had a different life probably. So again, do not worry too much from feeling also a bit down after settling back here.

It is important for you to remember that at the end, Oman is your country and that this is where you grew up and belong. Remember the good things you experienced abroad and concentrate on starting a new life here :)

Wishing you good luck and do not forget that we are all here for you, if you have any problems in the future ;)

[Nokia]

Thanks to all of you, I really appreciate your support and advices, to tell you the truth I was hastate to post this problem on sable but now I realize how mush I can gain from you guys to solve my problem, all of you said things which made me look at my problem as normal situation we as human are capable of adjust our selves but all what we need its time. I am still not back home yet, and I can’t wait to be home. I have few things to finalize then fly back home. I hope things will go easily and smoothly when I reach home.