It is not new, nor it was. Sometimes men have problems, and yet they don't know. So?

So, (ladies) do you think you accept that your husband takes you (mainly) in place of his mother? (After a while of marriage).

I can say it rudely but I don't want to... *clears his throat* ... "I mean, he doesn't "like" to have sex with you, he is now feeling more comfortable on your shoulder!"

Not married (and clearing her throat) waiting with bated breath for answers! :)

Somehow, I find it really impossible that a guy would marry someone and not wanna sleep with her ... :p

Maybe because he is a 60 years old f*ck that has his spheres unattached.

No thanks, I'll have to pass on that. One of the main reasons for marriage is to be sexually active.

^ or what Phat said ... lol

Men tend to mostly think with their organ. If it's gone then they will be comfertable marrying a "mother" :p

Somehow, I find it really impossible that a guy would marry someone and not wanna sleep with her ... :p
Humans change, life of the single teenager is not the same as of the man of duties and obligations or say a "difficult life".

It may look impossible in the eyes of the unmarried, but ask those who are married about it.

Ouch!!!!!!!!!

And This is why I'd like to know em Completely b4 marrying his *****..

Personally I wouldn't accept that.. I don't wanna be my hubbys replacement "mom"
How creepy does that sound? Lol

So basically you're saying the whole thing about "Sex life dieing with marriage" is true and also coz I am not married I don't understand?

So basically you're saying the whole thing about "Sex life dieing with marriage" is true and also coz I am not married I don't understand? If you remove the word 'you' then it will be correct.

It is a general statement, many teenagers sure have wider prospective and a better imagination. But most of them have the masculine/feminine hormones rumbling in their nerves, less they get concerned with such problems... I think.

To be honest with you, I see most teenagers here are more mature then the older generation.

Who would want to marry someone who is a "mom" to them? A partner is someone you can both depend on and be comfertable with and also enjoy you're life with.

What I get from your earlier post is only the older generation understand this concept. Guess I won't marry someone who's been married before then ...

It's all depends on your ideals lol ... if someone wanna marry a "mummy" figure, then power to him ! =D

To be honest with you, I see most teenagers here are more mature then the older generation.

Who would want to marry someone who is a "mom" to them? A partner is someone you can both depend on and be comfertable with and also enjoy you're life with.

What I understand from you're earlier post is only the older generation understand this concept. Guess I won't marry someone who's been married before then ...
That is not exactly what I meant. I meant that when things change a bit after marriage, I think this is more reasonable to say. I have amended my very first post to bring the point you said to the right track.

Really thanks for the tip. :)

I don't think I'll accept marrying someone because he wants a second mom. Thankfully I married a man who told me that he doesn't want me to be anything like his mother.

I know what you mean Haroun. I think the answer is to take a "father" role from the start and never slip into "son" mode.

As for getting sick of having sex with her, that's a serperate problem isn't it? I dunno what to do about that.

What If , I said what IF, I want to get married to an oldie man for the same reasons Haroundb said?

:p

Humans change, life of the single teenager is not the same as of the man of duties and obligations or say a "difficult life".

It may look impossible in the eyes of the unmarried, but ask those who are married about it.


U got it all wrong buddy, men are generally active beyond their 70s, some 80s. While women will pull a handbrake once they reach mid-50s.

So girls, there is nothing to worry about, we are the ones who shud worry.

All off topics and impolite posts have been deleted .

No, I don't want to marry someone who considers me his mommy after a couple of years of marriage. I don't want to take care of him like a mother takes care of a child, I don't want to pick up after him. I don't want to have to feed him and tend to his needs like a mother would do for a child. I want an equal, so we can take care of each other and it is not a one way road. Most importantly, I want somebody who finds me sexy, attractive and beautiful and a sane man would never think that way of his mother :os

Every man is a kid deep down inside, i read somewhere that men mature fully by the age of 40 or so.
That being said, i would definetly despise being a second mother to my partner, but taking care of him is different than ''mothering'' him, and i don't mean the following him around all the time kind of taking care of him.
Just attend to the child within and be a Wife not a Mother ! ;p

Marriage is all about purely loving your partner, no matter what he ends up to be. Its your repsonsibility to try and help him out in any form he is in. And you won''t be able to change him unless you change your self.
In your case, try to be more open to your partner, instead of complaining about it. Check with him what is his problem, see if you can solve it. Why is he not able to satisfy your core needs. Search for sultions in the internet, medical fileds...whatever you can lay your hand on. Try to implement the medical advices you get to help him from considering you totally like a mum.
If nothing really worked with him, and you felt you can''t live with him any more. Do something about it and decide. Ether you accept him as he is, or you just ask for a divorce. At the end with any partner, you will face challanges that you need to work on both of you. best luck

i would hate it if i married someone who considered me his mom after years of marriage. i know as a wife your suppose to take care of your hubby and all but as a wife not as a mother.

whoot ahaha no thanks
thats not gonna be nice
thats gonna be like being a single mom :p if the husband sees me as his mom
wich means im gonna have to leave him and go to someone who wouldnt see me as his mom or expects me to act like his mom :P

i dont think i can take that!
you cnt replace a mom..

n a wife cnt be like a mom! i cnt see it happening.. but if its about the intimacy.. then its up to the coupld.. to let it die or try to refresh it

It is not new, nor it was. Sometimes men have problems, and yet they don't know. So?

So, (ladies) do you think you accept that your husband takes you (mainly) in place of his mother? (After a while of marriage).

I can say it rudely but I don't want to... *clears his throat* ... "I mean, he doesn't "like" to have sex with you, he is now feeling more comfortable on your shoulder!"

well if he doesnt like to have sex anymore thats means
1. he is having affair
2. or he has serious problems..physically or emotionally whatever but he should be open to his wife..Not just I DONT WANT HAVE SEX :o

I don't want to be anyone's mother except to my daughter. A man can be my partner or he can simply walk out the door and to be sure not let it hit him in the ***** as he leaves (with an imprint of my high heel on it).............

I donno, I find it creepy lol

I don't want to be anyone's mother except to my daughter. A man can be my partner or he can simply walk out the door and to be sure not let it hit him in the ***** as he leaves (with an imprint of my high heel on it).............

ROFL!!!and that what he deserve i cant think of anything else:hyper:

she's only a mom if she looks like one :XD:

besides... i bet the guy wouldn't resist an attractive mom there :p

eww no :os