Mainly goes to the women:

What if your husband supports you fully and provides you with everything you need.. but then the attractions of life keeps hunting you and you want more.

You know your husband can afford it but he just doesn't want to give you more (keeping in mind he supports you fully with your needs).

Examples:
- you want to travel to 3 countries, he takes you to one.
- you want to have dinner at a fancy restaurant, he takes you to a normal restaurant.
- you want a diamond set, he gets you gold.
- you want a 7 series BMW, he gets you a 5 series BMW.

You know your husband can support your desires fully but he just won't do it for reasons you are not aware of and you're too shy to ask him why since he's the one paying for it and he's atleast giving you something instead of nothing at all.. But again, attractions of life burns you inside and since you know he can afford it, it hurts that he's not doing it your way!

:: What do you call this kind of behaviour (husband's actions)?

:: How do you tackle this issue in a respectful way to end up getting what you want?

:: Anything else to say about this?

i think the girl should go to work and gets her own diamonds.
if the husband is intentionally stingy, she can find a new one.

Not sure on this one because I am not married but quit sure you might get some biting remarks from members.

I am not much on material gain so my answers would be different.

i think the girl should go to work and gets her own diamonds.
if the husband is intentionally stingy, she can find a new one.

What if she works but doesn't make as much money as he is so she can't afford the luxuries as much as he does?

What if she works but doesn't make as much money as he is so she can't afford the luxuries as much as he does?
so he keeps himself in luxury and gives her second rate stuff?
big no no.
two people in a marriage should be equal. then again if he's contributing to the bank account she should be contributing as well. then they can get equal stuff.

I don't know.....for me I would look at putting extra money aside for say retirement, children's education....I am not much into jewelry. Maybe a bit of a tomboy here lol....if he is buying really nice things for himself...like ultra expensive and he buys her second rate....I would start wondering if he has passive aggresive tendencies.

I just saw Mini's reply and we both almost said the same thing! :D

Why would I be shy to ask him? I would tell him something like "Honey, for my birthday, I have already chosen what I want and booked it. I will provide you with the details closer to the date of my birthday" lol

But yeah, why doesn't she just work to get what she wants. Even though he can provide her with everything she needs, he is not obliged to go the extra mile. Perhaps with the rest of his money, he would rather invest it on other things than cars and jewelry. And if it is as Endure said that I can't afford the luxuries that I desire even though I work, then we can work out some sort of arrangement. For example, if he is willing to buy me a 5 series BMW, then I would suggest that he contributes that amount to the purchase of my 7 series BMW and I would pay the difference.

PS: Girls, if you know your men can afford it, take advantage of your birthdays and anniversaries! There is nothing wrong with asking for what you want :D

^ I am not saying he keeps himself in luxury and gives her second rate stuff. He doesn't mind degrading what he can afford as long as he doesn't meet her demands.

maybe she should aim higher. ask for something bigger than what she wants so he can downgrade exactly to her wish level.

^ Haha. Maybe!

And Lym, advice taken and done ;)

It seems to me that she wants to show off with what she has which I am totally against. If she wants all those fancy things she should get it with her own money and not get angry when he refuses to buy them for her. I think the husband should refuse to buy her all these things so that she remains grounded and starts thinking about better things in life other than diamonds and pearls.

This thread is evidence of why more and more men are just not getting married.

^ LOL! Yes, could be a reason!

This thread is evidence of why more and more men are just not getting married.

Ahhh too bad, there still some of us good women out there! :(

I'd give, give and give.. But she should keep in mind that there's a limit for everything.
I mean, it actually becomes stupid after a while.. What if she just came from Paris and after 2 days, she asks for a ticket to Rome ? .. After she comes back, she nags for visiting Madrid.. Holy crap.. A man isn't a movin' credit card. :p

I mean, she should be logical. It doesn't harm to accept a gift as her birthday gift or in their marriage anniversary, but should also keep in mind that there are priorities in their life, which come first. She doesn't expect to have the house's electricity bell money as her diamond ring birthday gift. ;)

When the husband CAN afford it and he has no other important things to take care of, then I see no harm in pampering his wife.

^^^If I saw a woman like that and I was a man I would run but he should know already what her spending habits are prior to marriage.

I think HE SHOULD refuse.. lool
Take wutch u got and Run with it, no need to keep asking for more unless your willing to get it yourself.. And it aint even about stingyness.. she juss wrote the mans providing her with stuff, but her curiousity for the world wants more.. Which theres nothing wrong with, but as long as u do it urself.. Whys the husband responsible for the wifes curiousity if thats not something he wants for himself..
youuuuu diiiig? lol

I have nothing to say about tackling this situation.. Had that been moi and I knew my husband didn't wanna give it to moi without moi asking..Then theres no way id sit there tryna figure out a way..

If I want something baad enough, I make it happen myself ;)

I don't think she should depend on her husband for EVERYTHING she wants. to me marriage is an equal scale... both should balance what they give. so he earns more and is more capable but that doesn't mean one stops there and that makes him the one who should pay more... if he gets something he gets it out of affection which is not an obligation frankly... so instead of scolding him for not getting exactly what she wants she should still appreciate the gesture and get what she wants herself, or wait till it's convenient rather than demand it on the spot.

one should also ask, does she give him the same?

however, I am not saying that if he got her nothing at all it's fine especially when he's capable and it doesn't absorb much from him. because it's also about partnership. I'm just saying she should stop demanding and being disappointed when she's not given exactly what she wants and start being more independent.

i know some guys like pampering their wives and vise versa... but i would also understand those who don't want the other one to be spoiled... it eventually gets frustrating.

They say in arabic " Al qana3a kanz la yofna" which means.Satisfaction is an endless treasure.

and i wish to quote this " wa ena al mobathreen kano ekhwan al shaya6en"
people like you are evils.

1 question.

What ever happened to communication?

:: What do you call this kind of behaviour (husband's actions)?
its understanable...since like always people will always want more and want what they dont have ... thats only gonna mean if he gets me a 7 series BMW im gonna want another better more expensive car and so on ...

:: How do you tackle this issue in a respectful way to end up getting what you want?
ill try to be as sweet as i can :p
as nice as i can .. then go like honeyyyyyyy .. i want something pwease i wove you (A) ahahaha

:: Anything else to say about this?
umm ... i will ask why if he doesnt get me what i want :p
i mean after all i have to know so that i can shut up la
anyways i wouldnt ask for too many stuff if he gets me what i need
ill try to buy them myself :D

I think the husband has every right to refuse. Its not his 'job' to shower her with gifts. Its his job to put a roof over her head and pay for the utilities and that's all. The wife is just too materialistic. She should be thankful and satissfied with what he gives her and not 'ask' for more.

I think HE SHOULD refuse.. lool
Take wutch u got and Run with it, no need to keep asking for more unless your willing to get it yourself.. And it aint even about stingyness.. she juss wrote the mans providing her with stuff, but her curiousity for the world wants more.. Which theres nothing wrong with, but as long as u do it urself.. Whys the husband responsible for the wifes curiousity if thats not something he wants for himself..
youuuuu diiiig? lol



Couldn't agree more with J'adore, u said it all

EW,
Looks like your friend is a material girl. Give her a 5 series, she wants 7 series, damn, do u know how much 5 series costs?

Take her to one country, she wants 3

Buy her gold, she wants diamond


I will just get her a corolla, and invest my hard earned cash in stock market :no:


And if shes not happy, she better take a hike

I think the husband has every right to refuse. Its not his 'job' to shower her with gifts. Its his job to put a roof over her head and pay for the utilities and that's all. The wife is just too materialistic. She should be thankful and satissfied with what he gives her and not 'ask' for more.
Would u marry me ? :love:

I loved your post. Its really on the spot and tells exactly what I was thinkin' of.
She should be realistic .. She isn't living in heaven. :dev:

Can't really sympathize since I don't understand how someone can't just be thankful for what they have.

Women. :no:

They ask the husband to get them: Tomatoes, Onions, 1 Kilo potatoes, Youghurt, Milk, Juice, Strawberries, Rice, Chicken, Salt and Soy Sauce.

He gets ALL the things she asked for ... except Soy Sauce = Wabooh (He's doomed)

Why is there a father/daughter kind of relationship here with the two spouses?

She makes unrealistic demands, he decides if she should have them, she doesn't get quite what she wanted but doesn't feel it's her place to question it.

Seems to me like she never left her father's home.. :no:

Is a husband the extention of having a father? Or is he your equal life partner?

Women. :no:

They ask the husband to get them: Tomatoes, Onions, 1 Kilo potatoes, Youghurt, Milk, Juice, Strawberries, Rice, Chicken, Salt and Soy Sauce.

He gets ALL the things she asked for ... except Soy Sauce = Wabooh (He's doomed)
hey, I'd be surprised he actually went. :hyper:

Is a husband the extention of having a father? Or is he your equal life partner?

Are u asking me?

Couldn't agree more with J'adore, u said it all

EW,
Looks like your friend is a material girl. Give her a 5 series, she wants 7 series, damn, do u know how much 5 series costs?

Take her to one country, she wants 3

Buy her gold, she wants diamond


I will just get her a corolla, and invest my hard earned cash in stock market :no:


And if shes not happy, she better take a hike


LOL!! Lovv, lovvv it! ;p

That's something else I wanted to say.. I don't think this girl will ever be satisfied with whatever she gets.. I think the husband knows if he takes her on 3 trips she'll come back a week later asking for another 3 ;)

He's being smart by saying no from the start.. He'll get the same reaction no matter what he does. Might as well put an end to it from the beginning and not say yes to her every demand! ;p

Isn't being married with the someone you love means you are satisfied with whatever he can already affords? lets say he can buy you something fancy, but why fancy when it might make his ***** bleed financially and just for your so called crossed eyes.
Some women should understand how to be not selfish and satisfied. There is some better stuff than money.
what happend to cowboy? 69? and the most delicious..am not sharing that.

LOL!! Lovv, lovvv it! ;p

That's something else I wanted to say.. I don't think this girl will ever be satisfied with whatever she gets.. I think the husband knows if he takes her on 3 trips she'll come back a week later asking for another 3 ;)

He's being smart by saying no from the start.. He'll get the same reaction no matter what he does. Might as well put an end to it from the beginning and not say yes to her every demand! ;p

Reminds me of a child in some ways. I hope this girl realizes that there is more to life than money and things because NONE of that goes with any of us when we die. Only our sins and good deeds.

Don't get me wrong, I love to live a comfortable life but how much is too much when it becomes well...just gaudy? :no:

Women. :no:

They ask the husband to get them: Tomatoes, Onions, 1 Kilo potatoes, Youghurt, Milk, Juice, Strawberries, Rice, Chicken, Salt and Soy Sauce.

He gets ALL the things she asked for ... except Soy Sauce = Wabooh (He's doomed)

This is very common.. it really looks like that the main mission for that women to find the ‘missing’

Yakhi why the don’t see ‘90%” of the cup full ..

Are u asking me?
Anyone who wants to answer...

I know what he is to ME.. but what is a husband to YOU.

If I'm that demanding, then I'll get my lazy as$ off the house and start working. This way, I can get what I want without having to bug my hubby about it. After all, he is supporting me and is giving me what a lot of women may not get. Fair enough. I'd really appreciate it if he can give me more than just the basic support, but I wouldn't ask for it or make a conflict arise, since I'm not working. Therefore, it's just not my field to demand for more if that was the case. :)

Reminds me of a child in some ways.

Exactly. It would remind you of a child because the whole situation, the way she has no say and the extreme requests are characteristic of father/daughter relationships.

To be honest I think after awhile a husband would either:

1. Get sick of the demands or
2. He is hiding something major (like another wife or cheating in some way) or
3. A big woosy boy who lets his wife walk all over him and finally
4. Simply too good to be true.

I'd go with 3 if this is an on going situation ;) lol

To be honest I think after awhile a husband would either:

1. Get sick of the demands or
2. He is hiding something major (like another wife or cheating in some way) or
3. A big woosy boy who lets his wife walk all over him and finally
4. Simply too good to be true.
I'm really generalising here.. but when I imagine a woman who wants wants wants materialistical things all the time making extreme demands and a man who would just give her whatever she asked for, I imagine their sex life to be terrible. Like, she compensates by shopping till she drops and since he don't satisfy her in the bedroom, he'd try and satisfy her with the only thing he DOES have lots of. Money.

Somehow, I smell blackmail.

To be honest I think after awhile a husband would either:

1. Get sick of the demands or
2. He is hiding something major (like another wife or cheating in some way) or
3. A big woosy boy who lets his wife walk all over him and finally
4. Simply too good to be true.

1 and 2 dont look strange to me.. i have seen them somwhere ..:cry:

Sometimes too when a husbands works ALL the time he feels guilty for leaving his wife at home. I remember watching this Arab soap opera (and OMG they are SOOOOO addictive)...and the show was about this man who was ALWAYS working and he showered his wife with all these gifts and she kept demanding more and more and it was because he was always gone so she was, to me it seemed, trying to get his attention through $$$$$$$$$

Anyone who wants to answer...

I know what he is to ME.. but what is a husband to YOU.

Sorry cannot answer that, dont have a husband

I think she meant what do you believe is the role of the husband because we all know you are a guy and cannot have a husband. :D

^ thats a ridiculous way to get attention.

what if the husband knows the real value of money because it's him who is working hard for it, and he doesn't think it's fair to squander it on 'things'?

^ Thinking about it the way you put it, I think I'd feel the same way if I made the money and someone, even if it was my husband, wanted to make use of my money more than what I give!

-- What do you call this kind of behaviour (husband's actions)?

Normal ... As long as he's giving her all the basic needs he doesn't have to provide all the extra stuff she wants. he might be saving it for a rainy day or such ;o

-- How do you tackle this issue in a respectful way to end up getting what you want?

If there is something i really really want i would just ask for it ;s im not saying keep demanding better stuff , but if there is something specific i need ill just ask for it and well find a way to get it, i'd pay half or so. As long as i have a job i wouldn't expect him to pay for my expenses anyway.

-- Anything else to say about this?

People should make the best of what they get :) Some people have nothing at all and to want something like a better BMW is not something to stress about in my opinion.

Mainly goes to the women:

What if your husband supports you fully and provides you with everything you need.. but then the attractions of life keeps hunting you and you want more.

You know your husband can afford it but he just doesn't want to give you more (keeping in mind he supports you fully with your needs).

Examples:
- you want to travel to 3 countries, he takes you to one.
- you want to have dinner at a fancy restaurant, he takes you to a normal restaurant.
- you want a diamond set, he gets you gold.
- you want a 7 series BMW, he gets you a 5 series BMW.

You know your husband can support your desires fully but he just won't do it for reasons you are not aware of and you're too shy to ask him why since he's the one paying for it and he's atleast giving you something instead of nothing at all.. But again, attractions of life burns you inside and since you know he can afford it, it hurts that he's not doing it your way!

:: What do you call this kind of behaviour (husband's actions)?

:: How do you tackle this issue in a respectful way to end up getting what you want?

:: Anything else to say about this?
May be she isnt smart enough to get what she wants....:hyper:

However she also should appreciate what she got too!!!:bored:

offcourse i would always want more.. that's how humans r, but i think it's gonna be in the level of the financial state that my husband in.. even now with my parents.. i know i can get a lot of things.. but my dad wont allow it.. he says its just being spendthrif on non nessesarey things.. like bags n cloths n cars..
if i really really wanted somthing i think ill just work for it.. but if my husband can.. n its not financial ill try lyms way of paying the rest of the price! hehe like i do with my parents now :p