okey i know this topic might be shocking for some XD
first of all to those who don't speak arabic Malka means like the period until the wedding.. and during this period the couple already signed papers and they're legaly married and could possibly have a devorce (god forbidden)
so anyway let me tell u wut happend
today me and the girls in the office were having breakfast and chit chating
and the married ones were like
"oh u already had malka so u're married actually and u could have some fun with ur husband u know like appetizers nothin's wrong with that"
and i was :color: i couldn't say a word lol
so my question is for the married ones or the ones who had malka did u have a little "fun" that during malka? or you prefered doing nothing AT ALL and just waiting for your wedding night?

Lol ... I thought this thread is about the different food that could be served during a malka party :color:

As for the main topic, I'd rather wait till even after the wedding night ... creates more suspense.

You should wait until the wedding.

^^i thought so too but those ladies were so embaressing me XD

today me and the girls in the office were having breakfast and chit chating


Who wants to hire girls :mmhmm:


After I have malka Inshalah I'll be a pain on her nick. Have breakfast, lunch and dinner with her till she says: agh her he comes again :rolleyes: :yell:


Agh can't wait :XD:

even guys chit chat don't deny it i see them doin it and we were on a break anyway for god's sake! :yell:
people get into the topic will ya?

If you guys are officially married then what is the big deal? I thought the wedding cermony was not the same as over here since a couple in the West is married after they have the wedding ceremony (if they do not choose another venue) or is it tradition in Oman to wait until the actual ceremony?

yeah i don't see any harm
you two are officially husband and wife

I think ICT didnt get what is Appetizers..

If you guys are officially married then what is the big deal? I thought the wedding cermony was not the same as over here since a couple in the West is married after they have the wedding ceremony (if they do not choose another venue) the or is it tradition in Oman to wait until the actual ceremony?
yeah i think its culture thing,...u should wait until the ceremony :rolleyes:

anyway i think its for u two to decide

There's no such thing as you should wait until the day you wear your white dress, 'cause in front of God and legally you're married. Therefore, go straight to the main course :D

Even better, have the melka and the wedding white dress day on the same night :dev: (Which most people tend to do nowadays.)

Though the wedding night should be special, so I wouldn't want to lose this.

I'd wait. People love to talk, I'd want the malka and wedding to take place at the same day.

We talking about sex here?

I find the concept of malka and then a wedding party silly; because the malka IS the wedding.

Personally, I don't see why we can't hold hands, cuddle and kiss if the malka and the reception are not on the same day. However, I think it is better to wait for the wedding party to go the whole nine yards. I would not wait because of culture (this does not make sense, he is my husband after all!), but because I think the first time we spend the night together, it should be special and that means spending the night at a luxurious hotel with a romantic atmosphere, away from everyone, the pressure of the family...etc

On a relevant note, for personal reasons, I would rather have the malka and the reception on the same day.

ok aint u allowed to sit alone? no body can see u lollllll so they wont talk!!! unless if u go and tell ur friends

U cant even Kiss????? comeon!!! why care about ppl if u two decided idont get why big deal

I don't know what you specifically mean by the appetizer, but you can do the little things and drive your husband nuts making him wait ;)

But I don't see anything wrong with going straight to the main course as Superbia mentioned. He's your husband after all!

for those who didn't get wut i mean

hold hands, cuddle and kiss

this is exactly wut i meant by appetizers

We serve Halwa in the malka.. and coffee!
Wait.. am I missin' smthng?!

I'd have the malka and the wedding on the same day too.

Personally, I don't see why we can't hold hands, cuddle and kiss

I see nothing wrong with it as long as it isn’t sexual.

Islamically, she is all your yours, you dont need appetizers, u can go straight for the main meal.

Traditionally, u are supposed to wait until the reception day. Some people would wait out of respect of the girls' parents.

Personally, I dont like having a gap between the malka and the reception day. What if the guy or lets say the husband died before the reception day?

I'd never go the whole way.. Cuz then my wedding night won't be as special
I need to save something for my man to look forward to ;p Lol
& I'm one of those Chikitaz that wants a gap between the two ( wedding/Malka)

But kissing and holding hands.. I don't see any wrong in that
And Truthfuly speaking here i'd so do that, so long as were legaly married ;)

and I always thought appetizers referred to food! Silly me! :rolleyes:

We serve Halwa in the malka.. and coffee!
Wait.. am I missin' smthng?!

and I always thought appetizers referred to food! Silly me! :rolleyes:

awww how innocent:angel:
children go play outside :) we're discussing grown-ups issues
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back to the topic

i guess i agree with most of you
the period between malka and the ceremony shouldn't be too long
but i guess a little cuddling won't harm

If you can't wait, then make it both the same day! But if you chose to put a gap, then you should be responsible for your decisions.

The wedding day is when it is announced to EVERYONE that, look people, these two are officially married, they are halal for each other.

what if the gap came un-willingly and it wasn't the couple's choice?
for example he/she travelled abroad for say studying or health issues or what so ever

i think sex can and SHOULD wait till the wedding night

7alal Appetizers looks good.

it depends.... if couples thinks that this kind of appetizer would keep them more intact and wouldl not minimize the flavour of the wedding day, why not yahkii

The wedding day is when it is announced to EVERYONE that, look people, these two are officially married, they are halal for each other.

Living your life according to what people think is not healthy in my opinion, and people's opinions and views will be a priority instead of yours! Which I fine inane.

Fun .. :hyper:

naah .. I'll wait for the wedding night. :p

i dont like the long time distance between "Melka" and the wedding day..

mine will be in the same day inshallah or same week!! this is how OUR people do it and i think this what people should do!

i think everyone should have the Malka and the reception on the same night. A gap in between makes no sense to me.

Living your life according to what people think is not healthy in my opinion, and people's opinions and views will be a priority instead of yours! Which I fine inane.

Then what do you say about the Islamic rule that says a marriage is not complete until it is announced to everyone? Same idea, to keep any trouble away. To make everything official.

Now what has this to do with what you meant. Your idea is correct, I'm with you on that, but we're talking here about an Islamic requirment.

^^ but malka IS announced to everybody
for example in oman malka takes place in the mousque and all men attend so everybody does know about it

I don't think there is anything required to be discussed here, as far as the couple are married officialy then they are a husband and a wife everything they do is halal. Waiting or not waiting is up to them. The difference is that they are still not living under the same roof, so that is why they better wait to that step.

Then what do you say about the Islamic rule that says a marriage is not complete until it is announced to everyone?

Everyone?

If we talk about Islam, you only need:
1. Woman's consent
2. Father's consent
3. Two witnesses.

And of course an Islamic Scholar.

In fact it does not even have to take place in the mosque. The only reason ppl is mosques is because of convenience and space.

Our religion is so simple, but we ourselves complicate it. No wonder we get criticized left, right, and center

I think UK means it should be announced (Ishaar) as per the hadeeth.

you're married in gods eyes, so you can do whatever you want with your husband.

so u're married actually and u could have some fun with ur husband u know like appetizers nothin's wrong with that"


I kindly request you to request your chit chat friends during the office hours while the clients wait for their paper work to be processed to elaborate further on what the following statements mean:

1- "have some fun"

2- "like appetizers"

3- After they define the appetizers, ask them what's for the main course & dessert

My Malka and wedding happened in the same day. I think its best like that. If though the couple is very much keen to tie the note and wedding is still far away no harm at all. One thing though and am sure some couples who had malka only experience it, its difficult to part at night after you’ve been out. Each day you both go separate ways each to his house when you’re supposed to be together.

Lets face it appetizers after malka is just to hard too resist. One can resist going all the way. But appetizers no way

I kindly request you to request your chit chat friends during the office hours while the clients wait for their paper work to be processed to elaborate further on what the following statements mean:

1- "have some fun"

2- "like appetizers"

3- After they define the appetizers, ask them what's for the main course & dessert

LOL Hitman

I'd wanna have the malka and wedding same day or a at a maximum of 2 days apart, I dont want ANYTHING to happen until the wedding night, not even holding hands, just want it to be special :) no traditional or religious reasons, just wanna save it all.
But i dont see anything wrong with people doing other things, its halal !

He is considered your husband, and its not haram. But the sociaty, consider it wrong. For me, I and my husband use to talk and go out but with someone and never thought of doing any thing. You know people consider it a sham if you did and problem may arise, its best in my openion to keep it for after the Duklah.
We didn''t do it all in the same day ( melkah and duklah), cause we had to go together to search for example, for a flat, chose the furnture...act.

i think there is nothing wrong with being affectionate or whatever he is your husband.

Ummm, lemme imagine this:
I'd make my melka and I start kissing, cuddling & hugging my fiance.. A month passes and I still decided on which date the wedding is .. I'll still cuddle, kiss & hug my fiance, till I get have sex with her and still .. the wedding didnt come.
Sound no fun .. AT ALL.

So, I'd rather make the wedding day, within a week from the melka day. :)

Ummm, lemme imagine this:
I'd make my melka and I start kissing, cuddling & hugging my fiance.. A month passes and I still decided on which date the wedding is .. I'll still cuddle, kiss & hug my fiance, till I get have sex with her and still .. the wedding didnt come.
Sound no fun .. AT ALL.

So, I'd rather make the wedding day, within a week from the melka day. :)
why still calling her ur fiancee? after malka she will be ur wife..:rolleyes:

BTW ppl refering Sex to Main Course make me wanna :yuk:

why still calling her ur fiancee? after malka she will be ur wife..:rolleyes:

BTW ppl refering Sex to Main Course make me wanna :yuk:
Okay, I'll call her my wife, but I still didnt sleep with her in one bed, right ? :angel: So, where's the fun ?
The wedding day IS the day.. I'll save everything for it. :love:

^Good for u

^ ;) Didn't expect a better answer.
And thanks.. You're so sweet.

i hope you people didn't mis-understand anything :mmhmm: am not talking about a personal issue i already made my decision long ago and i only opened this thread asking about your opinions in general
thank you :bored: