A friend of mine got engaged a couple of months ago. Her fiance already gave her the ring, which had a relatively small diamond on it. Now she's been telling him she wants a bigger diamond on her ring and she doesn't like the one he gave her. I'm guessing that was the ring he could afford - he's not very well off or anything. He's probably gonna have to work overtime in order to afford the kind of ring she wants, but she doesn't seem to care about that. She wants her big shiny diamond ring.

Guys: If you were in this situation, what would you do?

Girls: Would it bother you if your fiance got you the cheapest ring sold by a store? (It's still a genuine diamond, although low carat and pretty small) Would you actually ask for another ring?

no i won't. although i already know the engagement ring i want..which is not the cheapest at the store lol, but i wouldn't want him to work overtime or stress himself, for a bigger stone. whatever he's capable of providing is fine with me.

I'll tell her, it's this or nothing.
Accept me like I am, or don't.
If you are only looking for shiny stuff and for a rich guy, that's not me. good bye.

If its something I can afford, so then maybe, even thought the ring is just a symbol!

It's funny you mention that. I remember reading that Paul McCartney had actually given his finace at the time, Linda who became his wife for 29 years until her death, a really cheap ring I think at around £12.

It's amazing how a man might not have anything much and give you something small like that, then after marriage he becomes one of the richest and successful men of all time. :D

Put it this way, if he got the ring he could afford at least he is asking for the lady's hand in marriage and would you really want for you and he to be in debt over something like that and especially if you have kids soon. Imagine having to pay off on an expensive diamond ring and your children cannot have some of the things they need because of the stupid bill on that ring.

Poor guy :(
I have an idea of the engagement ring I would want, it wouldn't be huge or anything tacky like that, but I know the cut and setting that I think is perfect!
I would be pretty disappointed if I didn't get the one I wanted, but then again, how is anyone going to know something like that?
Also, I can't imagine breaking off an engagement with a guy I loved because the ring was not the way I wanted it. And I could NEVER ask for another ring - I know how much effort I put into buying people gifts, and if someone asked to change something as personal and intimate as an engagement ring, that would be harsh..

Leave her and take the ring

I wouldn't mind at all about it's price, so long as it's made of silver. I probably won't wear it on my finger all the time anyway ... maybe make it into a necklace to keep close to my heart.

I would want him to give me a budget, so I can go around the jewelry stores and look for a ring that suits my taste within his budget. Then upon my instructions, he can go purchase it for me. At least then, it would be something I liked and chose. However, I hope I don't get a ring I don't like but if worse comes to worse, I would accept and would not ask for anything else. Anyways he can always give you a better ring after marriage for your anniversary or your birthday :).

I married a student, the ring I got was a round golden one .. not expensive at all .. I didnt care, and I still dont care .. I dont think rings are important anyway.

it wouldn't bother me as long as it looks good on my finger :p

Now she's been telling him she wants a bigger diamond on her ring and she doesn't like the one he gave her.

An advice for the guys : if you meet such a girl, just run away til you're in time

I wouldn't mind at all about it's price, so long as it's made of silver. I probably won't wear it on my finger all the time anyway ... maybe make it into a necklace to keep close to my heart.

That's what im gonna do as well..
I don't give a damn about the ring really.. it'll be turned into a necklace
To me it's a symbol nothing that actually presents my worth or love ;)

And yess I'd be more concerned on my actual marriage then how some ring looks! Lol

OMG i would cut my tounge off if i asked for something bigger, if i know he cant afford it but if he can i'd be running my mouth

I'll take the ring back, telling her I will exchange it with a better one and sell it. Once I can afford the 'better' ring, I buy it for her, until then, she stays without a ring. That would teach her a lesson not to nag about such things n become less materialistic.

a girl like that needs to have some sense knocked into her..she sounds like a spoiled brat if you ask me:os

For me, i like simplicty sometimes. As long as it's not a plastic ring that he won at the fair, then yeah, i'm ok with it. It doesnt have to be expensive..but i would like it to be a shiny one though :(....not something cheap and not something costing a fortune.

I'm hoping he'd get me a nice ring..i hope i hope....:shy:
it would be a ring that i'd wear until they take it off and are washing my dead body getting it ready for burial....so i'd want it to be a beautiful ring.

If I know he can affored it, I will ask for another ring. If he can''t affored it, and I can. I will let him know I will change it and buy for my self the dimoned ring that I love. If we both can''t affored it, I will wait untell one of us has enough money to buy it cuz I love my husband and no difference between us.

awaaain i wont do that
that girl only thinks about her self
poor him ....

wow i will run away:)
or probably give her a photo of the ring she wants :)

If I know he can affored it, I will ask for another ring. If he can''t affored it, and I can. I will let him know I will change it and buy for my self the dimoned ring that I love. If we both can''t affored it, I will wait untell one of us has enough money to buy it cuz I love my husband and no difference between us.
your gonna change your engagement ring that he gave you ?
thats not really nice lol

a girl like that needs to have some sense knocked into her..she sounds like a spoiled brat if you ask me:os


Hmmm maybe she is following the same reasoning you were doing for the dowry
She probably wants one at certain level and she is putting her conditions since the beginning

a ring is JUST a ring afterall!!! so no i dont think i would be bothered much about it...there are more important things in life than actually wanna show off my BLING BLING to my friends and family!!

I'll tell her I will get you a bigger diamnod if you get me a porsche car :D

I got you this one ..
I gave you mahar (dowry)

You dont like this one .. Go get one yourself from the dowry! Not my problem now!

I will also divorce her! :angry:

^looool niiiice:D

Demands already before we get serious enough?

i would tell her my situation, and if she doesnt understand now, then i dont think she would understand me later either...so better calling it off!

My God! How pathetic.... over a ring!! Whatever my husband gives me, I'll cherish forever :) She should understand his budget and instead of asking for an expensive ring, she should help him save his money and get something better for "them"!

Like Lym, I always wanted to be given a budget and look for my own ring and that's what happened with me.

I know the kind of ring I want but I would never ask for it if it went above his budget. The ring is special I guess but the fact that he actually proposed should be special enough to her.

id take whatever he can get, whether its diamond or not it doesnt matter, but id like to choose it with him, thats how it goes back home anyway.

If it starts with i want a better ring [ that he cannot afford ] it will keep on going with an i want a bigger this and a better that.

It's funny you mention that. I remember reading that Paul McCartney had actually given his finace at the time, Linda who became his wife for 29 years until her death, a really cheap ring I think at around £12.

It's amazing how a man might not have anything much and give you something small like that, then after marriage he becomes one of the richest and successful men of all time. :D
when paul married linda eastman he was already a beatle and he got her the twelve quid ring cos he's a tight git. sometimes she used to borrow money for housekeeping from friends cos he 'forgot' to put some in her account.
or maybe he wanted to stay true to his roots...living frugally.

Pathetic gurl !

She must understand the first ring always holds lots of meaning of loves and romance whatever it is .. weather expensive or cheapest the cheap !

i would dump her, she should kno my reach and understand me

The gem is not in the ring, the gem is in the man.

You could have the biggest diamond, and the fanciest wedding. It won't give you a good marriage if you have a miserable excuse of a man for a husband.

There is a tradition in the UK that the engagement ring should cost one month's salary. But in that same traditional way, the engagement would normally last a long time, maybe six months to a year, so he'd have time to recover a bit financially!

But I think this example is symptomatic of a whole cutural problem in Oman and other GCC countries: If someone who earns OR 500 gets married, he still seems to be expected to buy a ring worth 2000 at least, pay 3000 mahar, rent a place that costs 300 a month, have a nice NEW car, spend 5000+ on the wedding reception, furnish the new apartment (and don't forget the most important piece of furniture, the massive plasma TV)...and correct me if I'm wrong, but these are the expectations on someone who is not from a wealthy background. Basically, if he were paying himself, he'd be expecting to spend anything from 3-5 years of salary on getting married and set up. That's just ridiculous.

Oman isn't the only country in the world where people spend too much on a big show-off wedding (oops...i mean "a unique romantic occasion to be remembered"). But I do think that the GCC in particular have a problem with this, in that the scale of excess is far greater compared to average income. As far as I know, the majority of young people in Oman start their married lives with debts that are many times their monthly or even annual salary, maxing out on loans, credit cards and of course borrowing from the family. It can't be a healthy way to start a new future.

So back to the subject of engagement rings: Sure, it's nice if he buys something beautiful and expensive, but really, it should be expensive compared to his salary, not expensive compared to the rings in whatever magazine a girl's been reading.

If I know he can affored it, I will ask for another ring. If he can''t affored it, and I can. I will let him know I will change it and buy for my self the dimoned ring that I love. If we both can''t affored it, I will wait untell one of us has enough money to buy it cuz I love my husband and no difference between us.

yeah i agree with you on that..if he can't afford a good one, anything is better than nothing. Then when there is enough money to get me a better one, then yeah...otherwise, i'll buy one myself and pretend that he gave it to me...lol...but who cares about the ring...i know it would be a symbol of my eternal love...even if i dont have the ring...i HAVE THE MAN:6: yeah ! woo hoo!

"he's MY man! and not yours! I have him,and you don't!":XD:

good for me. :)

Sorry Evil Eyes, you just don't deserve me :p

The girl has personality & behavioural issues

I hope the guy understands that now, be wise & think again before marrying such a person

Now it's the ring, later it will be the wedding gown & where her wedding is taking place, then whether he booked the presidential suite for the first night in order to take her virginity away, then the car & housemaid...et al

There are thousands of educated, pretty & yet modest girls all over Oman that understand that marriage is not all about such materialistic issues

And I'm sure her matako (a$s) isn't the only one that produces the clapping sounds when shaken to the tunes of Ricky Martin, there are loads of them

I would never buy my own engagement ring then pretend he bought it for me. What message am I giving my fiance by doing that? That he is not good enough to satisfy my needs (in this case financially needs)?. For a guy, it is important for him to know that he provides his wife with everything she needs, if I go and purchase my own (and replace his), then I might as well spit in his face. That's just wrong :os

I will buy another-much better-ring if I can afford it, but I won't say it is my engagement ring and replace the one he gave me with it.

oh yeah..lol i misunderstood..we're talking about an engagement ring here..lol..i thought it was about a wedding ring..ufff..oops..

well, in that case, it doesnt have to be anything fancy. It's not permanent anyways. whatever he can afford i am happy with it.

Sorry Evil Eyes, you just don't deserve me :p

Yeah i know, i deserve only the best;)

if a guy can only afford a cheap ring, it's ok....it's the thought that counts, and it would mean the whole world to a girl. i would hate it if he had to do extra work and sacrifice himself too much to buy me a ring.
if he can afford a nice ring and gets away with cheapness, and he can afford bigger things for himself and for his friends, i'd be slightly offended. sometimes the lack of thought hurts as well.
also, not all expensive rings look that good. sometimes an exuberant show of wealth is tacky.

I will give her whatever she wants and our honeymoon to be in South Africa diamond mines

Seriously, if she started with this . its tells a lot about the future together .. if she can’t compromise or has patience for a ring , what will she compromise for ?

^good answer..loved it.. see? you ARE smart:p

The gem is not in the ring, the gem is in the man.

You could have the biggest diamond, and the fanciest wedding. It won't give you a good marriage if you have a miserable excuse of a man for a husband.

the wise woman has spoken :p can't disagree with that :angel:

Ofcourse no, at least he bought something, having a cheapest ring is better than nothing, w b3adeen its just A RING.i dont think its that much important.

Girls: Would it bother you if your fiance got you the cheapest ring sold by a store? (It's still a genuine diamond, although low carat and pretty small) Would you actually ask for another ring?

I want to pick my ring, and I want something that suites my standers, but If he can't afford one, then I wouldn't let him push him self that hard to get me a ring.

Oman isn't the only country in the world where people spend too much on a big show-off wedding (oops...i mean "a unique romantic occasion to be remembered"). But I do think that the GCC in particular have a problem with this, in that the scale of excess is far greater compared to average income. As far as I know, the majority of young people in Oman start their married lives with debts that are many times their monthly or even annual salary, maxing out on loans, credit cards and of course borrowing from the family. It can't be a healthy way to start a new future.


I know there are a lot of girls who want a big, fairytale wedding, but a lot of the time it's the parents of the couple who want a big wedding. In a country like Oman, where everyone knows everyone and half the country is related, it is impossible to have a small wedding without offending so many people by not inviting them.

Sometimes it's not in the couple's hands to decide who gets invited and who doesn't. I personally didn't have that option, but I made it clear that if my wedding was going to be a big one with 550 or so guests (when I only knew about 100 of them), I wouldn't pay for it from my own money or mahar. I couldn't care less if some people were invited or not. Since it was such an important issue to my mother, I told her she would have to pay for it herself. I personally would much rather invest my money in something worthwhile.

I'll tell her, it's this or nothing.
Accept me like I am, or don't.
If you are only looking for shiny stuff and for a rich guy, that's not me. good bye.


u said it all :D

Engagement ring is not important as the wedding ring is, if a girl knows that the man she is marrying can't afford something big and expensive she shouldn't be bothered with what he offers since she knows he can't provide her with expensive stuff.

I think its romantic enough that he loves her and tried to get her a ring but the problem is with her. Some women don't even get an engagement ring. :p

oh yeah..lol i misunderstood..we're talking about an engagement ring here..lol..i thought it was about a wedding ring..ufff..oops..

well, in that case, it doesnt have to be anything fancy. It's not permanent anyways. whatever he can afford i am happy with it.

oook I am confused too how many rings u girls want? engagement and wedding rings? that make 2 diamond rings right??

ok ok I want only one ring but not cheap one:p i dont like anything cheap!!!

I remember telling my friend to dump the guy because he was miss calling her!!! I was like y do u want that guy he cant even afford to pay Telephone bill !!! lol... maybe its just me

i wont mind it.. if i agreed to a guy knowing his not so well off. then i should expect not getting the same things im getting now!

n what that gal is doing is just so selfish.. she just wants to show off! n its not fair for the man!

If that's what my fiance at that time thinks about an engagement ring and bugs me about it...then who knows what more would she want later on after the marriage...so play carefully and try to convince her or just leave her.

I'd tell her to shove it up her..

If she cares more about the ring than about me, then she's not worth spending the rest of my life with.

take the ring and walk away ..... may be she will wake up :hmm:

I would just like a ring

I'd tell her to shove it up her..

Don't do that. Ask for the ring back and tell her you will sell it and get something for yourself.

:cool:

What is so special about a diamond anyways?

Just buy a big Cubic Zirconia. Nobody can tell the difference.

Guys: If you were in this situation, what would you do?


Dump the materialistic friend of yours. If this is the start, imagine how living will be with such a person.

What is so special about a diamond anyways?

Just buy a big Cubic Zirconia. Nobody can tell the difference.
Until the day she takes it to a jeweller... :hyper:

Naah. Would never ask for something bigger. I'll accept whatever ring i get from him happily. There are greater things than a ring that have more meaning to them.
It's enough that he chose you to be his wife...basically, he wants YOU to spend the rest of his life with. Thats BIGGER than a bigger diamond. :cute:

I'll tell her I will get you a bigger diamnod if you get me a porsche car :D

Haha :hyper:

First an engagement ring is not a symbol of love and care after marriage. So it make no big difference to me .. i just want good life after marriage .:) believe me life is simple if you want to make it simple .



i wear different kinds of rings ,,,,, i do wear diamond and im not married so what .:love:

Well the size of the dimond or the ring itself wouldnt matter to me at all, its a meteal at the end" gold", and the diamond is nothing but a form of highly compressed Carbon" C60- Carbon 60",,,, and all of them are materials!!!!

I will be fine with a brass ring,,, what matters to me, is the inner quality not that dam ring...

Um ..well i would like a diamond on my ring but it doesn't have to be the biggest or anythig ..just a diamond to make me happy :p

But yeah if he can't afford one i can wait for later and let him get something else for the mean time :D

We don't have this tradition called engagement ring!!!!!
This lady is mean why overloading him it's a punishment:hyper:
I think she never loved him the only reason for her action:os

For me whatever he brings it's nice and preciouse as long he thought of such a sweet meanning it's wonderful Wallah:cute:
Lucky he is I don't care about jewllery, I like the meanning of the gift which makes me very happy:cute:

It doesn't matter. A ring is just a ring, & it will make no difference to the amount of love your fiance/husband carries. It's the thought that matters. The fact that he chose it, is more than enough to appreciate and wear the ring on a daily bases.

It's amazing how some gals are just so materialistic & shallow :os

I might get the ring for her.

But to reply to some girls/guys who said this is shallow and all...
the reason would be is because "people talk."
You say you don't care but when people start talking about you and him and how small the ring is you BOTH will feel uncomfortable and would want people to talk good things and not repeat the bad things.

Yes now you all say "Squinty is talking nonsense!" but when you grow up you will see what I said is true.
A lot of talking is happening in Oman since they have NOTHING to do these days. :bored:

^ Squinty, if you base your life on what people say/think of you.. it'll get you nowhere ;) So what if it's a cheap ring? So what if it isn't a diamond ring? Does that change the amount of love the guy has for the gal? I believe NOT! :)

^
That I agree on you with. :)
But when it becomes unbearable they will have to at least get something that will shut the people up.

a guy should give the best he can afford. if it's a carat diamond, if it's a half carat, if it's a tin ring, if it's a piece of paper wound around her finger. does not matter, as long as it's his bestest effort.

To avoid that situation in the beginning, I would go with him and choose the ring myself, so I wouldn't change my mind. And he can take me to a place where he can afford. :cute:

What is so special about a diamond anyways?

Just buy a big Cubic Zirconia. Nobody can tell the difference.


Until the day she takes it to a jeweller... :hyper:

That's why you save her the trip and tell her upfront.

"Hey baby, I just saved us a butt load of money that we can spend on our honey moon, or nice stuff for our home, or our retirement. And nobody will be the wiser."

And that is when she says "Wow, you're so smart!"

i would kick her bye bye and take back the ring

That's why you save her the trip and tell her upfront.

"Hey baby, I just saved us a butt load of money that we can spend on our honey moon, or nice stuff for our home, or our retirement. And nobody will be the wiser."

And that is when she says "Wow, you're so smart!"

And that's when she says: "DAMN! Where the HELL have you been my whole life?"

Now give me some sugahhhhhhhhhh :6: