If you had feelings for someone who was already involved, do you think you should tell them so that they know they have other "options" out there? Or do you think it would be totally wrong and disrespectful to reveal your feelings?

Involved as she is taking the relationship seriously?! Well, I will let it go & walk my way.

Involved as she is taking the relationship seriously?! Well, I will let it go & walk my way.
You don't know how serious she is, or if she intends to marry the guy. You just know she is with someone already.

Originally Posted by NiGhTFaCe
Involved as she is taking the relationship seriously?! Well, I will let it go & walk my way.

same here. i would feel terrible letting someone know i have feelings for him, while he's involved and happy with someone else.
i'll just have to accept the fact that he's never going to be mine.

on the other hand, if someone had feelings for me and knew i wasn't happy with the guy i'm involved with, then he better speak up! :p

You don't know how serious she is, or if she intends to marry the guy. You just know she is with someone already.
Then maybe its worth checking her status.

i would ask to know how serious it is...


then i can decide wheather to say it or not...

No I wouldn't, I wouldn't like it if someone revealed their feelings to me if I was with someone else and they knew about it.

Did it before & would still do it

I guess you could but the thing is don't be surprised if the feelings are not reciprocated.

Well, There is nothing to lose

I think if one confesses their love even to somebody who is involved, it might be because they need closure and they don't want years down the line to ask themselves "what if?". They just want to share it even if nothing might happen.

I would want to know if I was involved. I don't know why, but I would want to.

personally i think its wrong because that person is involved with someone else especially if they are serious why would you want to confuse them and make things worse i say try to get over it and hope for the best.

If I was involved and someone told me.. I'd be w.e about it..

But had it been the other way, I'd def. make sure a person is single before I go off and have feelings.. And I have enough self control.. It would just be a coulda woulda situation .. But if things ended between them without me even saying a word then maybe it would be a different story - So no, I wouldn't say a word ;p

i usually tell people when i have feelings for them..wether they are involved, married, single or wutever cuz feeling dont have to mean she has to leave them and come to me or does it? its just me feeling something towards her!

No I wouldn't because I can't do that.. I don't have the guts to anyway.

No ..
I wouldn't be able to reveal to my self that I like her and she is with someone else! .. So no way to tell anyone!

Its gonna be desperate and lame of you if you do!
Maybe signs though! :angel:

Well, There is nothing to lose
exactly.

you can't lose something you never had.

No I cant see myself doing that!!! i never approach any guy lets the one taken already

Assumption: Her involvement was not official (engagment level)

Though I would first seriously think if I was serious about her in the first place and if I really saw a future destination between us, the slightest doubt could make me stay silent.

Now, assuming I was serious, then yes I would let her know that I am here and I have all these feelings. Though I would put absolutely no expectations nor expect a reply back from her.

Yes, it might confuse her or be annoying to her that I figure it out now and then, but since it isn't too late to really say it then I say it.

I'd keep it to myself, 'coz I'd hate it if I was in his GF/wife's place.

I don't see myself falling for someone who's already involved in a relationship. And If ended up falling for someone whos already involved then I'd try to move on and overcome my feelings for him .. I won't do anything about it. I won't confront him. I'll just try to forget him and find someone else who's "available".

Assumption: Her involvement was not official (engagment level)

Though I would first seriously think if I was serious about her in the first place and if I really saw a future destination between us, the slightest doubt could make me stay silent.

Now, assuming I was serious, then yes I would let her know that I am here and I have all these feelings. Though I would put absolutely no expectations nor expect a reply back from her.

Yes, it might confuse her or be annoying to her that I figure it out now and then, but since it isn't too late to really say it then I say it.

EXACTLY what i wanted to say

if im crazy about her, and i know that what she has with that other guy isnt serious, and im DEAD SERIOUS that i want her.... would say it...

I will give it a try, as said, I don't have anything to lose !

IF he is seriously involved, then I will let it go, otherwise, I got what I wanted :)

No, becaue I think I would just add some confusion to her life. Plus she might had no clue about what I'm talking about which is just 2in1 slap for me lol.


Also my old fasion pride just would not allow me to do such a thing.

Its not something I'd do.

I believe that we have to because we never know...maybe the other person feels the same, but isn't doing anything because he/she isn't sure you feel those emotions? Or, as many said, you've got nothing to lose.

But again, I don't always do what I think is right, lol. So, I don't know...if he has a partner, I don't think I'd do it...if he was single, I'd do it...I guess.

if the guy revealed his feelings to me and he knew I am with someone else, I'd feel flattered. lol :D

i wont do it and i wont really have feelings towards her in the 1st place ,

look into the album , read the lyrics every body should be able to make up their own minds and it wouldnt be that hard.

Well, even if that person was not involved i wouldnt tell him about my feelings.DoNT HAve the guts, and so if he was involved..

I dont tell any guy about my feeling towards him, unless if he told me about his feeling and i had the same feeling:) otherwise i woudn't

If you had feelings for someone who was already involved, do you think you should tell them so that they know they have other "options" out there? Or do you think it would be totally wrong and disrespectful to reveal your feelings?


I wouldn't have any feelings for someone who I already know that he's involved.

I wouldn't let it happen in the first place and its easy to control your emotions,
as many implied I think its not necessarily to let them know because you might be ruining someones life by making yours better. but yeah, some men do not like "single" women.

I can't see myself falling for someone who I knew was involved, but if it happened I would never tell them. I would hate it if some girl went up to my boyfriend/husband and told him that she had feelings for him. I'd think it was very b*tchy and disrespectful.

To me, I will never confess my love to somebody before they do so. So it is irrelevant whether they are involved or not. I won't confess my interest to a guy first regardless of his relationship status.

nooo never :no: i think it's useless to tell him because he already is with some1

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you... How would you feel if some girl came over to your husband/boyfriend and told him she had the hots for him - just to let him know he had other options? I'd smack that lil baytch down! And hun, by saying other options it kinda seems like youre implying that the one hes with now is less than you....Reminds me of a song :"Dont wish your girlfriend was hot like me, dont you wish your girlfriend was a freak like me.... dont ya dont ya.."

Another lil thing you may wanna consider if in Islam its haram to approach a girl who has already been proposed to then surely the same applies to a man in a relationship?

Islamically, this is Haram, a form of betrayel, taking the right of your brother in his wife/fiance, ruining a family even.

Imagine you were engaged to a woman, and suddenly see that your fiance has changed, then decides that she cannot continue with you. You later find out that a man went up to her while you were engaged and told her he loved her, and she imagined she would be better off with him. How would you feel?

You don't need to go by religion, simple morals must prevent you from ruining another person's life. Going up to a woman and telling her you love her, even though you know she is involved with another man is PURE SELFISHNESS.

i dont think its fair for the other couple.. i hate it when ppl spoil others relationships coz they like the man or women.. i dont know.. its better to just walk away..