Ladies,

- To those who are married: Do you take "pocket money/an allowance" from your husband? Is it because you don't have any income of your own, or do you take it even though you yourself work? What kind of system do you have? Do you ask when you need something, or do you get a regular monthly allowance?

- To those who are unmarried: Would you take money from your husband even if you had your own job and made your own? Or would you only take it if you were a housewife/still a student?

Men,

- Do you/would you give your wife money even if she made her own, or would you expect her to pay for her own stuff?

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By pocket money/allowance, I mean things for like personal shopping (not for household items), going out for meals with friends, etc.

Ladies,

- To those who are married: Do you take "pocket money/an allowance" from your husband? Is it because you don't have any income of your own, or do you take it even though you yourself work? What kind of system do you have? Do you ask when you need something, or do you get a regular monthly allowance?



Nop, my husband pays for the house, the house bills and whatever we need for the house .. I dont think its even fair to ask for any allowance when I work. The reason I work is because I am used to being independant and not ask anyone for money!!
I dont ask, but if I need money and I dont have any on me at that moment, I will not hesitate to ask ..

libellula,

Very nice topic to discuss! I personally, will give my wife SOME pocket money. But it depends for what purpose.. if she wants to have HER own hangout OUTSIDE the house with some friends, then i might just dip a few here n there..but if it was IN the house and she needs to buy stuff to prepare for a party or sth, then i'd definitely give her.. actually even if its just talk, im too kind.. ill give her in anyways..
i know when to stop..

what about you?

lol

not at all

oh and ONE more thing.. i will be kind in EVERYTHING.. EXCEPT HER phone bill! She will have to handle it on her own!

:)

It shouldn't be an habit to give her money, if she earns her own money, so I don't see the point of giving her more. But I wouldn't mind paying her some stuff from time to time even if she's working. She's my wife.. so I'll share my wages with her without discussion. And if she's not working, of course I'll give her the money. But I'll tell her to find a job, 'cause I'll get tired of this one day (though, if she's still a student, it's understandable).

I don't see myself expecting money from my husband unless I didn't work. If I worked my salary would be used for myself and part of my children's expenses. My husband should pay for the house and bills but I wouldn't mind helping in from time to time.

I still think that I'd depend on my parents even after I got married, specially if I was still studying or unemployed.

Do you really think I'm mean?

I'd expect him to pay for the bills, household etc. And if I work, I'd spend my money on my personal stuff, and on the kids. In case I didn't work, I'd expect him or daddy to put an allowance in my bank account monthly.

our system. one pocket, both contributing to it. that's all.

Her money is her money, still I will pay her even if she has her own money. If she was kind and thinks we should spend it on something else then that's fine.

I'm a full time student so I'm not financially independent yet.

I depend on both my father and my husband when I'm abroad at uni (mainly my father though). I get a monthly allowance from my father to cover all my living expenses. My husband also gives me money to spend (mainly for shopping sprees, since my dad already covers all the essentials).

When I'm back home, I depend on my husband. I don't get a regular allowance, he'll just randomly put some money in my wallet every week. Fortunately, he is very thoughtful and gives me what I need without me having to ask. However, if I needed to buy something that I couldn't afford with my pocket money, I would feel too embarrassed to ask him for it - I would go to my father and ask instead lol. I'm not comfortable with the idea of asking for money from anyone other than my parents.

I don't expect to be given money once I start working. I will pay for my personal expenses from my own pocket.

My money is hers and hers is mine.

I don't see any point where I should refuse not to share mine which is practically ours. even though I know some people who go grocery shopping and put the bill for their wives so they pay them, which is sad.

No she won't get anything from me since she got her own salary.

My money is hers and hers is mine.

I don't see any point where I should refuse not to share mine which is practically ours. even though I know some people who go grocery shopping and put the bill for their wives so they pay them, which is sad.
it's the same with myself and my husband. sometimes i do the shopping, sometimes he does it, depends who's closest and who's available during shopping hours. i know wives who buy the newspaper for their husband every morning and charge him for it. insane.
when we have to pay bills, we pay them from different accounts, so none of us get short. if one of us gets short in their account, the other transfers money. when we do big buys we always consult each other and decide what's the priority. it's one family, and there shouldn't be money squabbles, although sometimes he does tell me off for spoiling the kids too much....like 'they already have shoes, they don't need another pair of pumps in a different shade of pink'. and i have my counter argument for that lol.

i'm not comfortable with the thought of getting money from my husband. but then again, i'm not married yet..so i'm not sure how would i feel by then.

i think my parents spent enough money on me lol, i'd feel weird asking them for money after being in another man's care.

If I am a student/unemployed, then yes, I expect him to provide for me financially. However, if I am working, then I expect him to take care of the house, food and general bills. I can take care of my personal expenses from my salary.

And once I am married, I don't think I can ask my father. I would feel I am no longer under his wing, but my husband is, so I would ask him. So yeah, I don't expect anything from my parents once I am married unless I am still a student and that was part of the plan.

I know I wont get married until I've already graduated and started working. I've waited all my life to be fully independent, so I know for sure I'm going to spend from my own money without having the need to ask him for any pocket money.

yeah why not?
But of course not the whole amount.
I mean i can give her let us say... half of what i THINK she will be using for her own things.

I don't know what will happen when I get married, but I know that I feel uncomfortable asking anyone other than my parents for money, that being said - I hope my future husband doesnt wait for me to do any asking before giving me any money.

Both my sisters' are married, they work together in a private business; so they have their own income coming out of it, but I know for a fact that their husbands still give them money. (Their husbands are brothers also :p so they have the same generous mentality) By the end of each month, they both (my sisters) get money transferred to their bank accounts from their husbands, I don't know if you'd call that pocket money? But it's basically the financial support their husbands give them to make sure they never have to ask my parents for any money.

You know what's the worst thing about this??? They're only TWO brothers!!! :hyper: ya 7asaaafaa.... (Unfortunately)

If she isn't working then sure i'll give her money.

If however she has her own job, then I will expect her and me that we have an account where we put our savings together, an account for ourselves and the rest of the money can go to household expenses, even though i'd probably pay that one too.

If it was a perfect world, I'd rather she doesnt her money and use mine instead..that's my opinion ...and we'd invest her money for her, buy her shares in the stock market, plots or anything.

Ladies,

- To those who are married: Do you take "pocket money/an allowance" from your husband? Is it because you don't have any income of your own, or do you take it even though you yourself work? What kind of system do you have? Do you ask when you need something, or do you get a regular monthly allowance?

- To those who are unmarried: Would you take money from your husband even if you had your own job and made your own? Or would you only take it if you were a housewife/still a student?

Men,

- Do you/would you give your wife money even if she made her own, or would you expect her to pay for her own stuff?

--
By pocket money/allowance, I mean things for like personal shopping (not for household items), going out for meals with friends, etc.

Before I even marry a man I would set some things straight and one of THE MOST IMPORTANT issues has to do with finance. I would have a house account where equal %'s of money (relative to take home pay) would be placed in the account. Then the husband and wife would have separate accounts which to draw from for personal needs. If my husband spent his share unwisely he would be hard pressed to get anything out of me. Same as if I spent unwisely I would not expect a dime from him.

If it's an emergency situation then yes, I would lend. If not....then again would have to see his spending history first.

I don't know what will happen when I get married, but I know that I feel uncomfortable asking anyone other than my parents for money, that being said - I hope my future husband doesnt wait for me to do any asking before giving me any money.

Both my sisters' are married, they work together in a private business; so they have their own income coming out of it, but I know for a fact that their husbands still give them money. (Their husbands are brothers also :p so they have the same generous mentality) By the end of each month, they both (my sisters) get money transferred to their bank accounts from their husbands, I don't know if you'd call that pocket money? But it's basically the financial support their husbands give them to make sure they never have to ask my parents for any money.

You know what's the worst thing about this??? They're only TWO brothers!!! :hyper: ya 7asaaafaa.... (Unfortunately)

lol! yeah that's too bad, but rosso seems promising :p

i like the transfer idea, it's certainly less awkward.

Lol at ayna too bad :p


I'll come back and give my answers later :cute:

No she won't get anything from me since she got her own salary.


Lol, back off girls , he is aint good :P

La bs truely, these days if the guy can take care of house rent, n the bills ONLY... than thats so perfact. The lady should take care about grossrey of the house, and the simple things here n there... So by this the guy is totally free from giving any extra's.. and if he wanted, thats from his gnerousity...:rolleyes:

- To those who are unmarried: Would you take money from your husband even if you had your own job and made your own? Or would you only take it if you were a housewife/still a student?

Never thought about it before to be honest. I can't ask anyone for money, even my parent "believe it or not"...when it comes to money I really feel so shy.
However, I don't think I'm gonna ask my husband to give me an allowance "if it happens and I get married of course :p"..The initiative should come from him.

i wont pay for her , because sure she wont exist.

offcourse i would pay for her, thats what a guy is for. anything for her ;)

its up to him..

I never ask anybody for money.. Not even from my parents, so they just give me it instead.

I don't see why i'd ask my husband for money if I was working? I mean whats his, is mine.. and whats mine, is his.. And Since hes my husband and im his wifey, I'm sure we'd want nothing but the best for eachother ( OR so I hope )

But IF I wasn't working, that would be a different issue.. And even then his @$$ should know that im not the asking type, So he better be a smart one & kno how to take care of hiz girl! ;)

lol J'adore good one

I never had such problem!! whenever I want something that I cant afford I will take him shopping and let him pay!!!

Men,

- Do you/would you give your wife money even if she made her own, or would you expect her to pay for her own stuff?


Depends .. If she asked me to .. Why Not!!! wutz mine is hers ..

I dont think money should be an issue.. cuz we share it together, not fight for it.. i geuss if i was working, i would be shopping with my money mostly.. cuz i see myself gettin a decent job when am older and wont need money from any1 else to buy myself stuff.. and since he will be paying for all the bills and stuff, i dont c why i should make him pay for my shopping too.. but if he wants to give me pocket money cuz he makes alot more than me and he;s thoughtful, then i wouldnt mind ofcourse .. :p
if i didnt work ( cant c that happening though), then duh ofcourse he'll pay.