If your spouse passed away, and you're so far away, in a different continent and can't make it soon:

~ Would you want to see him/her before he/she is buried?

Explain your answer.

I'd definitely want to see him before he's buried, I just can't put myself in such position. It's enough that he's dead, and I can't be there! If I don't see his dead body, I dunno.. It would be a deep scar left in me for the rest of my life. Hard to imagine :os

^ Me too. I'd want the family to wait until I arrive before they burry him but not because not seeing him will leave a scar, but because I think I am going to need that to get over it.. to accept the fact that he's dead.. Whenever I think about him, I need to remember his dead face to accept it faster.. I don't know if that will help, but I think it will.

See him by all means.

i wudnt wanna think bout it, as thinkin bout things like this would mean i wanna get rid of her

not because not seeing him will leave a scar, but because I think I am going to need that to get over it..

Yeah.. this is what I meant by leaving a scar. Leaving a scar as in I won't be able to get over it, and it won't really hit that he's dead! Gone! It's a hard hard thing to go through.. I just wish I'd never be put in such situation. It's too much to cope with.

see her...
But I don't think it will help me forget her faster....

I would want for his family to wait before they bury him, but a lot of the time, if you are really far, they simply can't wait. They say the best gift you can give to a dead person is to bury them as soon as possible. So if I can get to Oman in 6-8 hours after their death, I would want them to wait for me, but anything after, I would want them to go ahead and bury him.

And if they can't wait for me, then I would not want to go back to Oman for a while. I will love to spend it away from everyone (except perhaps my immediate family), for a couple of weeks, then go back to all the visitors and crowd after I have dealt with my loss in solitude.

I would want for his family to wait before they bury him, but a lot of the time, if you are really far, they simply can't wait. They say the best gift you can give to a dead person is to bury them as soon as possible. So if I can get to Oman in 6-8 hours after their death, I would want them to wait for me, but anything after, I would want them to go ahead and bury him.

And if they can't wait for me, then I would not want to go back to Oman for a couple of weeks. I will love to spend it away from everyone (except perhaps my immediate family), for a couple of weeks, then go back to all the visitors and crowd after I have dealt with my loss in solitude.

I absolutely agree.

Another YES for lym.

Not me...I would much rather remember them vibrant and full of life then cold and stiff in a casket. I can pay my respects at the grave site later if I could not make it to the funeral.

I would prefer even closed caskets for all my relatives if possible. I don't want that memory stuck in my head of seeing them dead.

Not me...I would much rather remember them vibrant and full of life then cold and stiff in a casket. I can pay my respects at the grave site later if I could not make it to the funeral.

I would prefer even closed caskets for all my relatives if possible. I don't want that memory stuck in my head of seeing them dead.
I somewhat agree with you.

Wouldn't it be better to remember them full of life, than to have the image of them dead as your last memory of them?

This is a tough question.

I wouldnt want them to keep her body just for the sake of me seeing her as in Islam you should bury the deseased as soon as possible.

When my aunt passed away, and we were helping in washing her .. I still remmber her face .. it was not different from seeing her sleeping .. it didnt make me realise she is dead .. instead I felt as if she is sleeping and we are doing a mistake.

I dont think I will want them to wait .. like Lym said, the best gift for a dead person is to burry them as soon as possible .. seeing him wont make me get over it, it would make me feel worse .. I would want to talk to him .. listen to his voice one more time .. I think I will go back to any video I have of him.

I can't imagine that happening to me. I don't know what I'd do, it would be weird coming back home with him gone and buried already. I think some people would prefer seeing the body to come to terms with what had happened.

i'd prefer if they were buried before i get there. i'm not sure i'd handle seeing them dead well.

I can't even answer that.. I think if I ever got such news I'd be too shocked to even do anything.. Honestly, Nothing I wanna go through in my life time !

''ekraam il mayet dafna'' .. the blessing you give to a dead person is thier quick burrial.

I cant imagine my situation if such a thing happens to me, but id assume the sadness would really make a person histerical with pain and im suuure i would insist on seeing him ..

but if im that far away and it will take a while .. i guess theyll have to burry him .. sometimes seeing a person before they get burried would just increase the pain, theyre gone ..
[this thread is so sad :( allah ya36eekum 6oolt il 3umr - may god give you long lives]]

like u mentioned b4.. that the faster the dead person is barried the beter.. so i dont think i would want them to wait for me..
but i havnt really thought about this subjuct.. it makes me feel soo sad!
but i would wana look at his face if i could make it on time..

I'd leave everything in the world that could hold me from seeing him for the very last time.

Oh wow.. i cant even answer this.. :S

Its a difficult situation.
I'd want to see her and bury her myself.
I don't think i will ever be that far from my wife ever, but if it happens I'll try to get back as soon as possible.
If that doesn't work then I'd let them bury her while I'm away and I'd visit her grave.
I can't imagine myself being in such a situation :os

I never want to see someone I love when they've already passed away.

I want good memories of them.. only good memories.