we hear a lot of women say that they've been beaten once or twice by their husbands, but they r still living with them n considering their marrige a happy 1

girls:
what if u married a man who turned out to be some1 that hits you,
what would u do?
tolerate it, n make an excuses for him coz u love him?
stop him?
or would you ask for a divorce coz u cnt trust him any more,
or give him a second chance?

guys:
if u were angry do you think you can hit your wife?
is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
what if you did it by mistake once becouse u just couldn't control ur temper, how would u react?

I'd hit him back.

I'd ask for a divorce.

I'd hit him back first, then leave him.

He'd regret it...

DAMN .. What an aggressive thread ! :yell:

Naaah .. I don't see myself hitting my wife for any reason.

My words are my weapon.. By talking, I can make her regret what she did.

hit him back?
where it hurts.
his bank account, his money and he's out on his arse.

hahahahaha a war :p

i duno y some women r okay with it... i would never stay with some1 who even tried to hit me or hinted it! its just too much!

Never have, never will.

He doesn't deserve a second chance. Its inexcusable. I find a girl who makes excuses for him because she loves him and 'believes' he's going to change pathetic. I would simply without doubt ask for a divorce. I would never tolerate it and or even consider learning to 'live' with it.

I'd never give a man a chance 2 hit me...... and if he does, I'd defend my self then ditch him 4eva.

I'd definitely leave him i don't think i can trust him again. once a guy hit you what makes u sure he will not hit you again.

hit him back of course, and then leave.
you know shopping for all the things i've always wanted does sound like a good idea minny :p that would be the best shopping spree! :D

Never did and against hitting woman and people whom do piss me off.

I'd ask for a divorce.

:DTherefore it's in u best interest to make u feel ugly!!:D:D:D

I don't know if I'll hit him back but I know he'll never see me again except in court when we're taking care of our divorce. That doesn't only apply to hitting me but also "trying" to hit me or using any foul language with me.

if u were angry do you think you can hit your wife?
Nop...i would rather break something than hitting a person and the dearest wife!

is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
Nop...no excuse for hitting your wife...wutever the reason is...you are not to hit your parents and spouse...
the only reason is if we are playing a part in the bed some night where we hit each other..u know what i mean!

what if you did it by mistake once becouse u just couldn't control ur temper, how would u react?
i would appologize ... but why would i loose my temper that much that i hit my wife?
is it allrite to hit your mother? no...then why wife?

hit him back?
where it hurts.
his bank account, his money and he's out on his arse.
I love this....

ooow i really love myself that much to allow anyone to hit me..I dont know what I will do.. hit him back is not enough i will make him regret it...

thank god that my husband-to-be isn't violent he's not the type of people who'd hit other especially women
but if god forbidden he raises his hand on me i'll teach him a lesson he'll never forget
i'd tell the whole family and they all will kick his butt :6: :p no seriously he should know that i got men behind my back who'd defend me

if u were angry do you think you can hit your wife?
-there is no way i would hit a woman
is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
-no, there is no excuse for such an act
what if you did it by mistake once because u just couldn't control ur temper, how would u react?
-my wife...i would kiss her feet and let her slap me

1-if u were angry do you think you can hit your wife?

Please don't be vulgar - Lym

is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
it wont happen i cant imagin my self doing it UNLESS I spotted her Having sex with an out sider :) " any guy would kill her "


what if you did it by mistake once becouse u just couldn't control ur temper, how would u react?

that wont happen because i usually control my temper , no it wont happen.

no way i can hit my wife because she is the only one for me..
and whatever the excuse what i dont manege my things
by hitting or violent.. for me i do it by talking to each other
it makes thing better then before..
if i did it by mistake, and i dont think i will do it, but if i did
she can do or wask whatever she wants...

That doesn't only apply to hitting me but also "trying" to hit me or using any foul language with me.
yup agree with u here


is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
it wont happen i cant imagine my self doing it UNLESS I spotted her Having sex with an out sider :) " any guy would kill her "
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thats a very honest answer, i was looking for that

i will not ask him for divorce i just hit him back... lol

hmmm..tough one...hitting is something i wont tolerate AT ALL. i don't think i'd ask for a divorce UNLESS it was SERIOUS and he does it all the time and he's violent and then i end up with broken bones and bruises... Only THEN i'd get a divorce ...

otherwise, i'd get my gang and have him beat up..SERIOUSLY! Not kidding!:no:

or i'd hit him back myself:)

Depends on the hitting and the situation ;)

^:bored:
what's that supposed to mean?

if it's play hitting then MAYBE:rolleyes:

Ladies... if your husband hits you...don't do anything...remain still, look helpless, until he calms down and regrets it..."Men always regret the first time..."
Then get up and leave after he says sorry!

No :os I won't ever let a fight go that far, where it's physical..
Hitting is too much, I'm not his DAUGHTER.. it's very unrespectful.. !

~ I wouldn't hit my wife, ever!
~ If she started hitting me first, then I'd use my power to stop her and if that wasn't useful, I'd hit her back (thats when worse comes to worst thought!) :p
~ I can control myself. If I did I hit her by mistake what ever the circumstance is (even if i was right) I'd apologize and make it up for her at any cost!

:DTherefore it's in u best interest to make u feel ugly!!:D:D:D

Manta, I didnt get you! :think:

Ladies... if your husband hits you...don't do anything...remain still, look helpless, until he calms down and regrets it..."Men always regret the first time..."
Then get up and leave after he says sorry!

That would hurt :yes:, thanks.

I wonder how different your answers would be if you were all actually married...:rolleyes:

i was wondering how would u hit him back when he's gonna be a dozen times physically stronger then you?

Ladies... if your husband hits you...don't do anything...remain still, look helpless, until he calms down and regrets it..."Men always regret the first time..."
Then get up and leave after he says sorry!
I LOVED this answer!

To be honest, I have seen what happens first hand in an abusive marriage. If the husband does not change is best to be separated. There are counseling classes, anger management classes and such to deal with those negative emotions.

hit him back?
where it hurts.
his bank account, his money and he's out on his arse.

Oh yeahhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If he looses it and does it for the first time, I'll forgive. I guess how my feelings would be towards him afterwards would depend on how guilty he would feel and how he apologizes. I wouldn't ruin my marriage because of something that happend once while my husband was too angry to think correctly.

Even in Islam, if a man divorces his wife while he's too angry to think, the divorce doesn't count.

I'd go back to my parents' place temporarily until I know he's really sorry and he apologizes.

The second time he does it, I'm gone.

People can make mistakes, but once a mistake is repeated it's a habit.

i would never want to be with someone who hits me
it only means that he doenst know how to treat girsl and his way of fixing things is violence ..if he does hit me ill hit him back haha... no i would leave him ..get a divorce and forget about him
i wouldnt want to be scared of the man i love ... always hoping that he doesnt get mad so that i wouldnt get beaten and all

i don't think i'd ask for a divorce UNLESS it was SERIOUSis hitting you not serious enough?... he has to break your bones for you to leave?...wow

well i wont marry a guy who hits in the first place. but in any case hitting is the last thing i'll tolerate in a marriage... reaching that point means all sorts of affections are gone. I'll most probably just leave.

hmmmm i dont think we girls can beat boys..... http://www.clicksmilies.com/s1106/waffen/violent-smiley-010.gif ...... if u r saying hit and escape hit and again escape then hide and throw eggs or tomato then i will say yes we can do it http://www.clicksmilies.com/s1106/waffen/violent-smiley-045.gif :color::color:

I'd go back to my parents' place temporarily until I know he's really sorry and he apologizes.

The second time he does it, I'm gone.

People can make mistakes, but once a mistake is repeated it's a habit.


I can see that...though I would mad as hell for being touched in such a violent way. I do believe in second chances but after that yes...a habit.

Can you imagine how it would feel to be spanked by your husband?

(lol @ triple H)

1st of all u didnt read my post carefully 2nd i was trying 2 say we cant hit him instead of hiting we can speak and make every thing clear if we couldnt do it then we can call some relatives 2 solve this problem thats it. cool down (Shai)

I think the husband who beats his wife once and she tolerated it, he will do it again and this won't be a healthy marrige for her. So better cut it off from the begining and shows him that he should treat his wife good and leave the house and ask for divorce. This will teach him not to hit the wife he marries next.

hit him back

I'd go back to my parents' place temporarily until I know he's really sorry and he apologizes.

The second time he does it, I'm gone.

People can make mistakes, but once a mistake is repeated it's a habit.

That seems reasonable. Sometimes in moments of anger, one can say or do something that they would really regret later on and sometimes those actions deserve to be forgiven if they are really sorry.

The only problem with your answer is that my parents already made it clear, if I walk out of my husband's house into their house complaining that he abuses me, then I should be prepared that they will not allow me to go back to him. So basically, if I do go back to my parents, it is the end of the marriage.

So perhaps, I would have to temporarily move out from the master bedroom and sleep in the guest room instead or something :inno:

Ladies... if your husband hits you...don't do anything...remain still, look helpless, until he calms down and regrets it..."Men always regret the first time..."
Then get up and leave after he says sorry!

Words of a wise man. I would advise all married women to adhere to this.

i dont like the idea of a wife leaving her house to her parents house, it shows that she's walking away from the problem, n not wanting to go bk... if u need to solve it then stay o like lym said, move out from the master bedroom only, not from the house!

i hope this never happenes to me! to made a decision to move out of anywhere

to me respect is more important than love it self.

if he hits me then Bye bye! you dont deserve me.
if he didnt once he can do it again , so no mercy

Girls are getting mean here! :XD:

I would never hit my wife.
And if I did I would apologies a million times until she forgives me.
I don't think we have the right to hit our wives just because we are angry...
Get a punching bag and hit it till you are good..

"if your husband hits you?"

If my husband hits me it's big trouble because I must have been reincarnated as a woman.

hmmm..tough one...hitting is something i wont tolerate AT ALL. i don't think i'd ask for a divorce UNLESS it was SERIOUS and he does it all the time and he's violent and then i end up with broken bones and bruises... Only THEN i'd get a divorce ...

otherwise, i'd get my gang and have him beat up..SERIOUSLY! Not kidding!:no:

or i'd hit him back myself:)

Are u his punching bag?:rolleyes:

My ex hit me once while we were on holiday as I was "annoying" him. He said a light slap never harmed anyone! He said he was just "messing around". But he was not messing around, he was serious. Good job I know a bit of self defence and slapped the hopeless b*****d back. He never done it again. But it is hard to say you willl leave someone if they hit you as it is easier said than done.

he hits you once and you forgive him. he's gonna do it again.
no man has the right to hit a woman.
if my husband hits me, i'd hit him twice as hard then he's out of my life.

what if u married a man who turned out to be some1 that hits you, what would u do?
tolerate it, n make an excuses for him coz u love him?stop him?
or would you ask for a divorce coz u cnt trust him any more,or give him a second chance?

Why would he hit? Do you mean it's some kind of "sickness" that he hits for no reason? Who does that? :think:
Scary thought :o

Anyways if my future husband were to hit me...it'd have to be for something really really big that I had done. Otherwise, I don't see why he would hit me. I don't see why any husband would do such a thing to their wife unless they're sick.

Also in such a situation, Words speak louder than Actions ;)

:p

we hear a lot of women say that they've been beaten once or twice by their husbands, but they r still living with them n considering their marrige a happy 1

girls:
what if u married a man who turned out to be some1 that hits you,
what would u do?
tolerate it, n make an excuses for him coz u love him?
stop him?
or would you ask for a divorce coz u cnt trust him any more,
or give him a second chance?



I'd hit him back and then walk out of his life! If he wants me back, he has to make a REALLY good apology and then kiss my feet. He also has to promise and swear on the Quran that he'll never do it again.I mean it. If he does it a second time, i will accept no apologies! I'm gone for good!

Some times when a wife is a b.i.t.c.h then the man get forced to be phyisical.If the man was retarded and violent all the time then you should just dump him and jail him.

Example: a guy had a hard time at work,,, some one hit his car..his best friend died .. he lost his wallet ..

He goes home and his wife keep shouting about a broken pipe ,he ask her to calm down and he had enough..she keep complaining...

a nice warm slap huging her face will do the job :)

well i wont marry a guy who hits in the first place.

LOL :D

I'm sure he is not going to tell you I'm a person who hits.

He'd regret it...

LoL and I'm still insisting on that :6: :bomb:

I'd go back to my parents' place temporarily until I know he's really sorry and he apologizes.

The second time he does it, I'm gone.

People can make mistakes, but once a mistake is repeated it's a habit.


i geuss i would do the same

At first I thought i'd go back to my parent's place.. But after giving it some more thought..I'd love for him to feel bad.. horrible.. Really Guilty and all torn up over what he did.. I'd sit there and be all shocked and hopeless.. And again shocked.. and Sad, Did I mention Hurt?.. lol

I wouldn't even say a word to him either.. Till he just goes nuts and fregen LEARNS his lesson.. IF after that it happens again, I'd Leave.. I have a lot to live for, And Getting beat isn't one of em! ;)

I don't tolerate any abuse! As soon as he raises hi hand on me, I'm right out the door, no wait a minute, since it will be my house, he's right out that door!
I don't care if he was "angry" and couldn't hold himself back; I believe if he hits once, he'll do it again!

A divorce would be a final solution.

First, I'll make sure that I learn Karate or self-defense skills before getting hitched, so that I could surprise him the day he attempts to hit me :hmm:

Secondly, I will make sure that our sex life will be as horrible as he could imagine. Heck, I'd even sleep on the couch if I had to.

Finally, if all this didn't teach him a lesson.. I'll just walk out of the house and go back to my dad's roof - waiting for my divorce paper. At that point, I should be able to realize that he's just not worth it and that there are other fish in the sea.

A bunch of angry girls in this thread.

If a man hits a woman, its his last line of defense. Meaning things have gotten pretty ugly and nothing can be done to calm it.

Resorting to divorce as a first option is all wrong.

In fact as a wife, you are at an advantage if you get hit, the first time.

I'd leave him and call my brothers to beat the shit out of him. :D

Hitting is the most uncivilized way of expressing anger, and I very much pray I end up with a civilized husband. Im not sure how I will react, I barely think about it as I am slightly naive, but find it hard to beleive that people still do that these days anyway .. I always thought of it as a thing of the past ..:rolleyes:

guys:
if u were angry do you think you can hit your wife?
Yep
is there an excuse for hitting your wife and being okay with it?
Yep
What if you did it by mistake once becouse u just couldn't control ur temper, how would u react?
How would I react?

well i'll never hit my wife unless she cheats on me or something of that sort (then i'll make sure i break her bones). to me hitting a women is cheap but if a guy does it once when hes really angry then the girl should forgive him but if it happens again then she should take a serious action.

well i'll never hit my wife unless she cheats on me or something of that sort (then i'll make sure i break her bones). to me hitting a women is cheap but if a guy does it once when hes really angry then the girl should forgive him but if it happens again then she should take a serious action.

If she cheats leave her why hit her?

Men cheat everyday so should women beat them to death!!!

Hitting is wrong it doesn't help anybody.

If she cheats leave her why hit her?

Men cheat everyday so should women beat them to death!!!

Hitting is wrong it doesn't help anybody.


yes women should beat them to death, plus im not a kind of guy who would ever cheat on his wife, no way. i want the same in return and yeah i will leave her after hitting her ;)