I just heard a story of a person being rude to another person and I couldn't help but blame the way that person was raised. To me.. manners comes straight from the way you were brought up and if you don't have them then i'd just assume that your parents didn't know how to raise you well.

What is your opinion about rude people and where do you think this type of attitude problem comes from? How do you deal with such people?

i totally agree with you Nabhan
if the kid is raised well, to respect others and consider people feelings before he/she acts or says anything, the kids well never be a rude person when he/she grows up
Rudeness is caused by lack of manners IMO

people get rude with other people when the other people never say NO if u get wut i mean

people get rude with other people when the other people never say NO if u get wut i mean

But sometimes people are rude to complete strangers without even giving them a chance.. how would you explain that? I personally cannot be rude to people I don't know..my first reaction is to actually be nice and then if I'm not comfortable then I'd try to push them away.

I agree partly with you NaBHaN.
Parents have a big role on this BUT the friends they make can affect them as well.

Think about this, let us say you meet me for example. Talk to me and see I am nice and all. Does that mean my brothers are the same?
I don't think so. There might be a part of us the same but that doesn't mean we are all good.

Does that mean my brothers are the same?
I don't think so. There might be a part of us the same but that doesn't mean we are all good.

Maybe the parents spent more time and more effort in raising one kid and just got tired with the rest and didn't pay them enough attention.

Maybe the parents spent more time and more effort in raising one kid and just got tired with the rest and didn't pay them enough attention.

Here I agree with you partly as well! :XD:
Maybe they spent the same time with the children BUT spoiled some other then the rest so they became like how they are now.

am a straight forward guy, some people need the red eye, whether to show it by rudeness or other ways.. so yeah i would be rude to someone if they deserve that. there is no need to be nice all the time, cuz i would call that pretending.

am a straight forward guy, some people need the red eye, whether to show it by rudeness or other ways.. so yeah i would be rude to someone if they deserve that. there is no need to be nice all the time, cuz i would call that pretending.

I'm pretty much straight forward as well but I don't have to be rude to be straight forward, I think there's a way to convey your msg even if it's a negative one.

I definatly think family enviroment affects the rudeness of a person ... a child sees they way the parents interact with other people/each other/ with them and thinks that it's the right way to interact with everyone else

Not really fond of rude people ... I think that you can convey what you want to another person without being rude.

i guess they're rude coz they never had any rules at home like their parents never taught them wut's right and wut's wrong
it bothers me when i see kids playing all over the street all day and their families leaving them with their maids
and the maid of course just leaves them there and starts chit chatting or playin with her phone all day
these kids just don't learn any boundries -__- so they grow up and become total *** with people around them

i agree, most of the time, ppl r rude if they werent raised well...


but there r people with good parents but end up rude because of bad company...


i will only be rude when some1 else is being rude or desrespectful

We work really hard with Billy on politeness. And when he's thinking about it he can be quite polite.

But when he is paying attention to something else, he can be rude and inconsiderate.

But I don't think he means to be usually; he's just caught up in his own head....

i will only be rude when some1 else is being rude or desrespectful


same..............

But actually, being rude or offensive sometimes cause of the too much caring of parents? no ?

you haev to balance. and its not always the parents fault even tho they do have an influnece.

To me.. manners comes straight from the way you were brought up and if you don't have them then i'd just assume that your parents didn't know how to raise you well.


That's probably the common rule but not always the case as sometimes you see two brothers who contradicts each other in terms of manners.

Anyways, I think also the problem is the limits of being rude differs from one person to another... some people consider being called "hey" instead of their actual names is rude but others do not. Or throwing things instead of direct hand to hand. etc.. This can get worse to talking about one of your family member in a way you think it's rude but with others it's absolutely okay!!

I think people just need to mix with more different mentalities of people so there is a level of understanding can be reached.

I think parents have a huge influence on the manners of their offspring, but I don't think they have the full responsibility. Environment and friends might play a role here as well. Obviously, if a child sees any of his parents are being rude to other people, they might think it is okay to be rude to strangers.

Personally, I can't be rude to strangers, will treat them politely.

my problem is that i can't be rude even to people who r rude to me XD

I'm a rude person sorry to tell you ...that doesn’t mean I'm raised badly does it ? i respect people I'm polite i do all those stuff but most of the time I'm rude i dont notice that people told me i was being rude to him\her i cant help it it's the way i am ..

But you can find the sweet part of me if your an easy going person and not a retard go acts smart juts to show off :p..Most of my friends are rude to so i guess that explains why i dont notice my rudeness

I wouldn't say I was rude unless someone has really wronged me.
But I am blunt when people begin to annoy me.

Is it my parents? Hardly!

I spent all my life till I got married with my mother, and she's the un-rudest person I know. She couldn't harm a fly and most people just walk all over her. If a workman has done faulty work, she'd rather pay him and be done with him than confront him.

My dad is confrontational.. and so am I to a point.. but you just have to put your foot down sometimes. And when people keep being persistant and harrassing, I tend to lose my patience with them.. and do or say something that will drive the message home.

Most of the rude ppl I met either men or women, they have bad experience and psychological stress..

No one born rude or been one in one day.

How do I deal, well to me best thing is to talk to them if the case permits. One good cure is to let them be on others shoes. I mean ask them of ‘what will they feel if they are in place of the other party who been exposed to their rudeness ‘ . Now if they justify this rudeness and insist on it then it really big problem, but if the back off and feel sorry then u mange to reduce one:)

Am fed up to be told am rude
If you are a sissy don't mess up with me

I can't stand rude ppl, and I would put them in their place whether they asked for it or not. I don't understand why some people can't have enough human decency in them to treat someone with the respect or kindness they deserve. It would be a different case had the person deserved a different treatment but initially everyone should be able to start off respecting one another.

And as stated above, This comes from family, friends, and the Environment you're living in. I think all the above can have an effect on the way you treat ppl but the one with the most influence comes from your family. Unless you're raising yourself or spending the majority of your time with other ppl than the families to blame. The more you're around someone you start taking a bit of them with you without noticing it. And before u kno it they rub off on you whether it's in a good way or bad, So it's important to keep positive ppl around you.

And for the ones that said they're rude without noticing
Well how about you start taking the time and NOTICE, Cuz thats a reflection of your character and that's what most ppl judge you on and determine the way you should be treated ;)

I think it is due to many factors; minor and major.. Parents are a major factor that might affect on one's attitude, but still there are other factors that should be taken into consideration, such as that person's friends, his circumstances, his way of thinking and many more!
That's why sometimes you see two brothers/sisters, one of them is really nice and the other one is just a b!tch!

That's probably the common rule but not always the case as sometimes you see two brothers who contradicts each other in terms of manners.

Anyways, I think also the problem is the limits of being rude differs from one person to another... some people consider being called "hey" instead of their actual names is rude but others do not. Or throwing things instead of direct hand to hand. etc.. This can get worse to talking about one of your family member in a way you think it's rude but with others it's absolutely okay!!

I think people just need to mix with more different mentalities of people so there is a level of understanding can be reached.

well said. :) for example, throwing things instead of handing them would be out of the question in my case, especially towards older people. others might find it completely normal.

the family is the stabilizing force in one's life. it plays a huge role in shaping one's personality, manners, attitudes, etc..but it's not the only influence. sometimes you'd be surprised how an ill-mannered person came from such a courteous family, and vice versa. i wouldn't really jump to conclusions and think that's probably the way they were brought up.

I am never rude to anyone unless someone has wronged me in one way or another. Sometimes I receive a simple short PM or rep from a member which implies something and when I get back to them with a bomb they explode.. That's one of the examples I face on English Sabla.. "Don't play with fire if you don't want to get burnt ;)"

Similiarily out of sabla.. I am known to always have a reply to someone.. nice or bad.. but the bad ones are hurtful :p However, I know I am not the one to initiate it.

And yes, I agree with you Nabhan.. family plays a big role.. because the way I described myself above is the way my brothers and I were raised. "If someone wronged you, never stay quiet."

But I also think friends and school play a role.. I mean, people your age have a huge influence on you sometimes..

Well everyone is rude sometimes, and it all depends on the situation and what not but i dont agree with u Nabsy when u said that it all comes from the parents, some ppl raise there kids well all that plz and thank u type or raising but in the end its there choice weather or not they wanna stay that way

I dont think we shuold blame parents, i think it depends on individual characteristics and yeah depends on situation too

I just heard a story of a person being rude to another person and I couldn't help but blame the way that person was raised. To me.. manners comes straight from the way you were brought up and if you don't have them then i'd just assume that your parents didn't know how to raise you well.

What is your opinion about rude people and where do you think this type of attitude problem comes from? How do you deal with such people?

You are a rude person,tell us why you are rude ? :)

You are a rude person,tell us why you are rude ? :)

I am? In what sense?

In your replays to people,they are not friendly over all.Mybe your dont realise that :)

I disagree.
There are many people with a bad reputation and they come from a good family.
I would blame it on their peers.

I think people are rude for two reasons:

-Their rudeness is a way of life, raised by rude parents who taught them being rude would get things your way or is the best way to defend your so-called dignity, or they might have been living in a rude society… some societies are rude to some specific races and nationalities

-The second type is quite pathetic, people who are rude as a result of inferiority complex “3uqdat naqs”, this kind is usually showy…they have their noses in the air for the money they have, the car they drive or the family they belong to!
Wallahi, that is because they feel and believe deep in themselves that whatever they have is too much for them or they are not so worthy for it, otherwise they wouldn’t act that way!

I used to be so sensitive to rude treatment but not any more, now I just shrug it off, I have got the courage to smile, respond sarcastically or trash the person if he is good enough to deal with him that way!

Is it not partly in your genes (born with the "rude" characteristic) plus your upbringing and interactions with people from family to friends. I think all that could contribute to somebody being rude. I just don't think its fair to blame it entirely on the parents.

I think it all depends on the person obviously parents have a big influence i believe when u reach a certain age you know whats right and whats wrong.

i always keep parents out of the picture whether it was there fault or not. because once the person's a grown up, they use their minds on their own. and I personally don't like bringing other people's parents into the argument... cuz I don't find that a better manner of speaking.

I can be very rude sometimes, but it has nothing to do with my parents. Maybe my school environment but nothing to do with my parents.