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Would you Accept if your Hasband marries Another Women?? or u prefer to be the one and only??:no::hyper::love:

i want to be the only one. if he wants to go sleep with other women, then he has to ask me to sign a paper, leave my house never to come back.

One and only obviously, I won't share :p

how disgusting for a man to be having sex with different partners in the same space of time.

^Ewwwww, you didn't have to say that xD
Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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NO I don't Accept it !

I won't accept it unless there's a problem with me; I can't have kids and he really wants a baby!

how disgusting for a man to be having sex with different partners in the same space of time.

What do you mean by same space of time?

I think religious women will accept it and encourage their husbands to have more than one wife.

^ If they do that then it's because it's halal not because they like the idea of sharing their husband!

Even if you share you still get a full husband.

I agree with you IceTea but the word " encourage" is not true..

He can in one condition, he simply L-e-t's G-o O-f M-e :p

I never liked this sharing business

I think religious women will accept it and encourage their husbands to have more than one wife.

I think they will not.

I don't remember hearing any stories of women from the Prophet's time :PBUH: asking their husbands to re-marry. Even Aisha, the mother of believers herself admitted she didn't want the Prophet :PBUH: wouldn't re-marry. She talked about how she was jealous of our mother Khadija, even though she was dead. Also, his other wife Um Salama refused to marry him at the beginning because she said she was a jealous woman. Women are human beings and they feel jealous.

I would understand if a woman accepts her husband's re-marriage, but that definitely depends on how the husband is. Some husbands don't deserve the sacrifice.

What do you mean by same space of time?
i mean during the same marriage. one day here, one day there. or with fatima in the morning and salma in the evening, a quickie with fulla in the afternoon.

Would never accept it. If I was Muslim it would have to be stated prior to marriage in contract that he could never take on another wife. I would have never chosen to marry a man who could so easily toss my heart away so frivilously.

No I don't accept it, the only reason I'd accept it is if I was sterile. Otherwise there is noway that this could happen with my approval.

There are a lot of advantages to a woman married to a polygamous husband, its just some women dont realise it

There are a lot of advantages to a woman married to a polygamous husband, its just some women dont realise it
i guess women will really forfeit these incredible advantages and sacrifice a bit more for the love of their husbands. :love:

i guess women will really forfeit these incredible advantages and sacrifice a bit more for the love of their husbands. :love:


Tell me, as a mother of a first child, would you give less love to your first child when the second one comes up?

but they are both children are with me at the same time, eat with me, shop with me, go out with me.
i don't put them in different houses, and i can do things with them both at the same time.
which cannot happen when a man has two wives.

Tell me, as a mother of a first child, would you give less love to your first child when the second one comes up?And there in lies the real deal ...

Women are considered a child in these marriages.

Tell me, as a mother of a first child, would you give less love to your first child when the second one comes up? :o sorry but u can not compare mothers love to the child with a husband love to his wife...:rolleyes: they are total different kind of love...

for example no matter how i love my husband but if he gives me enough trouble i will just leave him but i will not leave my kids no matter what

BTW i was gonna ask you what are the advantages?

Tell me, as a mother of a first child, would you give less love to your first child when the second one comes up?

The premise of polygamy in Islam is to be fair in material issues : time, house, money .
You don't have to give equal love : Prophet himself admitted that he loved Khadija and Aisha more than the others .
That's difficult to accept for a woman .

NO ONE can dispute that its islamically allowed, however I am strictly against it. As a woman, if I felt like I was giving my husband everything, and he still feels the need to be with another woman (whether it was a mistress or a wife), then he's not good enough for me. You know what I think it is? Greed. Pure, unadulterated greed. If a man's wife can't have children, or has some sort of disease, then maybe I can understand. But if I can bear children, al7amdila healthy, still maintaining my looks and he STILL wants someone else, then that's selfish.

If men, hypothetically speaking, can share their wife with four other men, and be ok about it, then I'll back it. If men are too jealous, passionate, and hot blooded to handle it, then could you imagine how us women feel? We have emotions too.

P.S. I wouldnt mind having four husbands though hahaha. (I'M JOKING) hehehe. Man I'm hillarious!

I don't think there's a woman on earth who would be ok with that - I certainly wouldn't!

but they are both children are with me at the same time, eat with me, shop with me, go out with me.
i don't put them in different houses, and i can do things with them both at the same time.
which cannot happen when a man has two wives.

Point taken, that could mean when they live apart, and far from your then your love for them will be less?

Women are considered a child in these marriages.

Really, and why would u consider them as a child? Shame on you Mr Jack

Some wise women prefer their husbands to be legally married to other women rather than having sex with a different prostitute every night.

BTW i was gonna ask you what are the advantages?

Lots of advantages, you just need to look around.

For now, I will give you one.

Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. I am sure you can appreciate this one. Your husband is away for a few days, now hes back, you just cant get over him.

The premise of polygamy in Islam is to be fair in material issues : time, house, money .
You don't have to give equal love

Thank you my Italian Queen. Couldnt have said it better maself

Some wise women prefer their husbands to be legally married to other women rather than having sex with a different prostitute every night.

why is she in that marraige in the first place??

if some women accept it, then good for them .. for me . sorry .. I am the only queen of the heart of my husband .. he want another queen .. he better leave my kingdom :p

^^

Good for you!

You are his better half, not his better quarter or sixth!

I think religious women will accept it and encourage their husbands to have more than one wife.

LOL how come? Even the Quranic ideal is monogomy. :cute:

I think the point IceTea is trying to make is that if someone can't get satisfied with one wife, it's better he goes for a 2nd one rather than taking all the contraceptive precautions with a mistress & despite all that she might end up giving birth to a bas-tard, he wouldn't sin by marrying again, at least theoretically

Most men marry a 2nd, 3rd or 4th for sex, very few these days do it for strict religious reasons

Reminds me of the old Omani dancing in Thailand that ToomuchaT mentioned in one of his posts in another thread

I'm always good for orgies! woohoo!

hitman: you're right about why some men marry the 2nd, 3rd or 4th these days. it's sick and wrong. people take advantage of that in islam. All just for sex! pfff! it says your are "PERMITTED"..but men take it the wrong way and take advantage of this..they leave out the second part of the hadeeth (cant remember the exact hadeeth) where it says something like...."...but it's better for you if you have ONE" !


i am personally against it. I will be the one and only ! and that's that!!!!!!!!

a marriage is a responsibility..it's a job..it's not easy..it's not a game..it's not a joke...
it's real! Marriage is 50% of your religious duty as a muslim! Marriage is not something small. It's not all about sex and fun. It's serious. It's takes a lot of money and effort.
Even if i couldnt have kids (god forbid) i'd still not like it that he would want another wife. inshallah i don't face such a problem.

I mean come on..if it was the other way around and women were allowed to have more than one husband..even if my husband couldnt have kids, i wouldnt want to marry someone else. No one can take his place or come close to being like him. i'd love him just as much.

trust me, men wouldnt handle having competition or sharing one woman either!

inshallah i marry a man who wouldnt think of marrying another or even TEASE me about it (even if he was joking)!! MAFEE! (no way)

^now that's a really good point angel eyes! what if the man can't give the woman any children?

^exactly! haha..men would be arguing and saying the same things we're saying now:XD:

i have not seen any female in my life so far who likes the idea of her husband marrying another! NEVER!
this thread is kinda funny..haha..you guys are out numbered!
WOMEN RULE!:hyper:

OK...we talk about sterility here but what if the man is sterile NOT the woman what then??? Don't you think it can be a TAD unfair that the man cannot help produce children but the woman can???

I say divorce his sorry butt! (Since she cannot take on a 2nd 3rd or 4th husband).

^imagine the humiliation when the grounds for divorce reads male infertility, or i think that's probably masked as something else.....
as to the poor woman who can't produce children, not only she has to face the sadness that she can't have any of her own, but that of her husband sleeping with another woman.

I think religious women will accept it and encourage their husbands to have more than one wife.

IF something wrong was with them ya they will accept it
if not they wouldnt!

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anyway i wouldnt accpet it unless i was unable to have kids *la sama7 allah*

All I can say is that according to Brother Tea, he has one wife.

Talk the talk....but will he walk the walk? ;)

....but will he walk the walk? ;)

And not an smooth path to walk I tell you :6:

Out 10 men who talk about it, less than 1 actually do it. Some of our women are quite dominant.

OK, seriously, by taking an 80-20 rule. 80% of the married men may have cheated on their wives, while only 20% of the married women might. Polygamy is here to greatly reduce these numbers and help increase the level of decency in a society.

Polygamy is Allowed ONLY to Muslim men with exclusive ability to be fair and just to all wives. If he fails to be just and fair to all wives, even in one simple matter, he will be punished in Hell.

This is not my word, but the word of ALLAH our Creator .

If he is sterile, we'll get divorced, I marry someone else, have a baby or two, divorce my husband, marry my first husband again :) Cool hu! I got it all planned out :D

Lots of advantages, you just need to look around.

For now, I will give you one.

Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. I am sure you can appreciate this one. Your husband is away for a few days, now hes back, you just cant get over him.

:no: thats bad/lame example; away with another woman? he would rather not come back...

i dont have problem if my sad husband wants to get another 4 wives :hyper:
as long as i am not in the list and i can also get another husband

LOL how come? Even the Quranic ideal is monogomy. :cute:

No, the ideal is polygamy, if you read the Quran verse it says marry two, three and four but if you fear you can't deal in justice then marry one.

So we can see that polygamy mentioned first then monogomy. :)

No, the ideal is polygamy, if you read the Quran verse it says marry two, three and four but if you fear you can't deal in justice then marry one.

So we can see that polygamy mentioned first then monogomy. :) ICT so u r saying the verse tells men to Marry 2,3,4?????

we have lot of young boys who wants to get married but due to financial problems they can not.. why those men wo wants to have 2,3,4 dont think of helping those who needs i mean for example Volunteer to pay dowry, rent house etc

though my post is long...READ IT PEOPLE! ;)

And not an smooth path to walk I tell you :6:

Out 10 men who talk about it, less than 1 actually do it. Some of our women are quite dominant.

OK, seriously, by taking an 80-20 rule. 80% of the married men may have cheated on their wives, while only 20% of the married women might. Polygamy is here to greatly reduce these numbers and help increase the level of decency in a society.

excuuuuuuse me? 80% of men??? 20% of women??? :bored:

ummm...those are pretty high percentages. True it happens a lot that the man cheats ..but 80%???? and women??? ohhh please. I am far from those women who'd ever think of doing so. Was kinda offened but yallah.

yes i still saw the "might" part but still...i disagree. i wouldnt "might cheat" or think of it :mmhmm:
and i wouldnt marry a man even if i thought there was a .99999999% chance that he'd cheat on me!:angry::angry: I'd marry a loyal and respectful man towards me.

i think i know the real problem....nowadays, men re-marry not really for good reasons..mostly just for the love and sex or whatever...he'd either marry more than one wife or he'd cheat... here's what's the problem...if the man marries or cheat, in both cases he feels he's lacking what he 'needs'. now honestly, i'd blame the wife..if she's not giving him enough then she shouldnt be surprised if he wanted to 'get something' somewhere else. If she was a wife who REALLY satisfied him in every aspect, musta7eeel (no way) he'd think of wanting another woman...THAT IS A FACT..!
so if she was good in doing her duty as a wife, then i don't think she has anything to worry about really.

For me, i doubt that my husband would want to do either. True i know men fantisize about other women...that's normal..but to go as far as cheating or re-marrying..i don't think that would EVER happen in my case (inshallah). I'll make sure he has and gets everything.

It's not only love that men need, they need support and comfort. They want to be with a woman who makes them feel special and like they're the best man in the world. Now if he has all that, do you REALLY think he'd ever cheat or re-marry?
NO !
so there is the problem and there was the solution.

Now if the wife can't have children, that's a different stroy. They can discuss it. If she's ok with it, then he may go ahead and re-marry. If she doesn't approve, then he has no right to do so. In islam, you have to inform the 1st wife if you want to remarry. Some men marry the second wife without the first one knowing!! That is WRONG! sneaking and doing something as big as that behind her back is haram. She should know and also agree to it.

If the man can't have children, that is not a reason to divorce. I'm sorry. Divorce is an easy way out for cowards (IMO). Divorce is not a joke. In islam it's makrooh (someone translate). Some people think it's a game..."oooh we can't have kids.........yalla divorce"..." oh he doesnt love me.........divorce"...." oooooh we fight too much....divorce"

what the hell is this? SO many divorces..and for STUPID reasons! Gosh! wake up people! It should be a LAST LAST LAST resort and only if there is NO OTHER SOLUTION.

It should be that the man marries one. It is better for him. He should marry someone he gets along with really well and someone he knows who will give him what he needs and someone who loves him very much. They both wont have anything to worry about if they both do it right.



(lol sorry i write long posts):shy:

For me, i doubt that my husband would want to do either. True i know men fantisize about other women...that's normal..but to go as far as cheating or re-marrying..i don't think that would EVER happen in my case (inshallah). I'll make sure he has and gets everything.




(lol sorry i write long posts):shy: we all like to think that way AE but men are just men.. u cant change them if they wanna do it they will do it without even thinking of consequences plus i dont think that men who cheat or re-marry their spouses dont give them what they want.

Really, and why would u consider them as a child? Shame on you Mr Jack
When a woman has to ask permission from her husband to do or have a number of things, then yes.. she's treated as a child. Many muslim countries have such rules integrated into their laws, where women need signitures from their "guardians".

Now.. unless a woman was treated like a child, why would she even NEED a guardian? Does an adult male have a guardian also?


Anyways btt..

If either can't have children, they should adopt and give a homeless child or orphan a home, an education and lots of love.

Bailing out on your spouse because he or she can't produce babies is really REALLY LOW. What ever happened to unconditional love?

"I'll love you only if you give me babies."

Sure hun. I'll love you only if my can afford my 6 digit dowry, the palace of my dreams, the 6 maids and 2 nannies for all them babies I'm gonna be making for you.

we all like to think that way AE but men are just men.. u cant change them if they wanna do it they will do it without even thinking of consequences plus i dont think that men who cheat or re-marry their spouses dont give them what they want.

oooooooooohohohohoho..you have no idea what you're saying. what i said is true. I know what i'm talkin' about. trust me.

do you really think a guy would want to be or think of being with another woman if his wife COULD have kids and GAVE him everything?:rolleyes:
think.:angel:

oooooooooohohohohoho..you have no idea what you're saying. what i said is true. I know what i'm talkin' about. trust me.

do you really think a guy would want to be or think of being with another woman if his wife COULD have kids and GAVE him everything?:rolleyes:
think.:angel:
whatever but I am very sure what i have said is true too:p just lets pray that you get a decent husband who fears God...

and dont start with me because most of them men who are going for 2nd wife their wives have kids ok!! and you will suprise their poor wives have done everything and may be lived just to make their husband and kids happy...

Lots of advantages, you just need to look around.

For now, I will give you one.

Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. I am sure you can appreciate this one. Your husband is away for a few days, now hes back, you just cant get over him.

UGH no thank you...who wants used goods (i.e. a used up man?) :yuk:

What if one of the wives has some veneral disease? Double yuck...NO thank you....much rather have one on one....and if I was a Muslim and my husband decided to get a second wife my *** would be out the door and his pocketbook empty. If he hits me in the heart I hit him where it counts.

whatever but I am very sure what i have said is true too:p just lets pray that you get a decent husband who fears God...

and dont start with me because most of them men who are going for 2nd wife their wives have kids ok!! and you will suprise their poor wives have done everything and may be lived just to make their husband and kids happy...

looool i hear ya..whatever:XD:

but it's because they are BORING wives! have you seen most of the omani women ??? (i didnt say all ,so calm down:XD:)
I'll give you proof.....

if you see the girl that the guy chooses (whether she's the mistress or 2nd wife)..she will be attractive. When women get married (not all so dont get upset:p) they're in the lovey dovey stage so they try to put on make up..do fun and special things for their husband, they wear attractive clothes etc....then after like a few months, they start letting themselves go..they dont wear those sexy clothes..they dont get in the mood to do their make up...they dont...you know..they're no longer interested in sex...they start to let themselves go...they get boring after a while..if she keeps making herself interesting, then he wont want to go for another.

Men want to be INTERESTED. they're attracted to hot women...now after the wife has kids...she's becomes the size of a ballon..she becomes over weight and stays like that....she lost her figure...she's tired..she saggy...i mean they really just....blaaaaa3:yuk:
of course he'll want someone who's hotter and thinner..
that is in terms of looks..now as for other things, she just becomes less caring and less everything...:os

I'm not saying that men wont THINK of other women...i understand that..lol..but to want to actually cheat or get re-married, that's unacceptable.. it also is a good thing and is important if he fears god. no matter how unattractive his wife is...and he fears god, then he wont think of cheating.

But on the other hand, men dont always go for a PRETTY woman. i've seen many shows. Many times when the woman found out what the woman looked like that her husband cheated on her with, they're shocked..they're less attractive than THEY are..so they wonder, "why would my husband cheat on me with HER? She's ugly!"

Sometimes it's not always the looks..it's about HOW the other woman makes HIM FEEL. it is so true what i am saying.

If his wife is pretty, she loves him, she satisfies him, she makes him happy, she keeps him interested and makes him feel good emotionally..etc..then he wont BE interested in any other woman BUT her. That wont stop him from fantisizing other women though...it's how men are..so what? It's what's on their mind:XD:
Doesnt bother me that much..normal.

If his wife is not so attractive and she's boring and rude and they fight all the time and she's stubborn and doesnt give him attention..then what does she expect if he gets another wife or cheats on her!??

Marriage is EFFORT! she has to KEEEEEEEEP him interested.

am i making any sense here? does ANYONE agree to what am i saying? doesnt it sound logical?:shy:

I agree and at the same time the man needs to do the same because a woman can become just as bored with his saltine cracker ways as a man can with hers. Has to be a mutual understanding and respect on both parts.

it goes the other way around too...the man has a job too:)

looool i posted that right at the time you posted that..haha..we thought the same thing at the same time:p

^^^^great minds think alike! :)

^they do indeed:)

Whether you're right or wrong, Evil Eyes, you're doing a great job of advertising! :D

^why? are you interested?:hyper:
i'm not talking about ME..i'm speaking in general:)
and yes, i AM right:)

I would want to be the one n only in my husband's life...i dnt want any other girl having him or anything like that....if hes with me than he has to be with me...i i ever found out that my husband has been doing that...i would kick him out n never let him come bakk...i cant even imagine sharing my partner with anyone else....jus the thought of it disgusts me.

Amen. I am with you desi.

i would kick him out n never let him come bakk

You can't do that when the house is his

That's why I advise young ladies to get educated & don't rush into marriage after high school, because a high school certificate is worth nothing these days

She must get qualified, get a decent job, be independent & then get married

If she is dependant, she can't kick anyone out of anywhere, she is not an earner, doesn't own a house, won't be able to educate her kids if she had any

I am looking for four single female members who answered the starting theread with a "YES."

Thankfully there are women out there whose names are on the house also and a man would be hard pressed to kick her out. If he is anything of a man he should leave and find a place to stay. The only exception to that would be if she was cheating on him, beating on him....along those lines then she should leave.

No, the ideal is polygamy, if you read the Quran verse it says marry two, three and four but if you fear you can't deal in justice then marry one.

So we can see that polygamy mentioned first then monogomy. :)

No! if so.... shouldnt teh companions, Imams, scholars follow the ideal?

The ideal is one...the exception is two...the unusual is three and the questionable is four!

It's weird though how a man's needs are catered to if his first wife isn't.. 'good enough'...

yet a woman will have to be stuck with the same one miserable loser of a man.

There is always divorce... but of course, there's alot of money, property and child custody that comes into that.. most women would rather stay miserable in marriages like that, while men have a way 'out'.

Sad.

It's weird though how a man's needs are catered to if his first wife isn't.. 'good enough'...



NO...she is too good that he needs one more!

NO...she is too good that he needs one more!
If she's 'too good', the man would have trouble walking to the other woman's house.

i agree with hitman:) you are so right

Glad I don't ever have to deal with being second best as a wife. Hallelujah!

i wana be the 1 n only,, accept if there's a reason, like i cnt have kids or im very sick or i dont know something, then i guess ill have to face relaity n agree..
but if thats not the case, then gimmi a divorce n marry her

No, the ideal is polygamy, if you read the Quran verse it says marry two, three and four but if you fear you can't deal in justice then marry one.

So we can see that polygamy mentioned first then monogomy. :)

Then how come the Prophet was with Khadija (radhiya allah 3anha) for over 15 years, being monogmous? And then only, after being a head of state and needing to create political alliances and married so many prisoners of war he became polygamous. :D

Oh, and btw, the Quran's condition is very hard to comply with, that's why its geared towards monogomy. :p

Marry a dead women.
They complain less.
But necrophilia in Islam is haram...
So...
Yeah.

double posts

n i think im soo late commenting here! hehe

Me too but a point to ponder. Stay the way you are, never divert attention when you get kidZ, talk less and continue teasing me as you did B4 marriage and the deal is done. No more than one but you ladies are so sweet even 4 not enough. Cant you c what Monica did to Clinton? Oh, sorry not for Nosa just a quote.

looool i hear ya..whatever:XD:

but it's because they are BORING wives! have you seen most of the omani women ??? (i didnt say all ,so calm down:XD:)
I'll give you proof.....

if you see the girl that the guy chooses (whether she's the mistress or 2nd wife)..she will be attractive. When women get married (not all so dont get upset:p) they're in the lovey dovey stage so they try to put on make up..do fun and special things for their husband, they wear attractive clothes etc....then after like a few months, they start letting themselves go..they dont wear those sexy clothes..they dont get in the mood to do their make up...they dont...you know..they're no longer interested in sex...they start to let themselves go...they get boring after a while..if she keeps making herself interesting, then he wont want to go for another.

Men want to be INTERESTED. they're attracted to hot women...now after the wife has kids...she's becomes the size of a ballon..she becomes over weight and stays like that....she lost her figure...she's tired..she saggy...i mean they really just....blaaaaa3:yuk:
of course he'll want someone who's hotter and thinner..
that is in terms of looks..now as for other things, she just becomes less caring and less everything...:os

I'm not saying that men wont THINK of other women...i understand that..lol..but to want to actually cheat or get re-married, that's unacceptable.. it also is a good thing and is important if he fears god. no matter how unattractive his wife is...and he fears god, then he wont think of cheating.

But on the other hand, men dont always go for a PRETTY woman. i've seen many shows. Many times when the woman found out what the woman looked like that her husband cheated on her with, they're shocked..they're less attractive than THEY are..so they wonder, "why would my husband cheat on me with HER? She's ugly!"

Sometimes it's not always the looks..it's about HOW the other woman makes HIM FEEL. it is so true what i am saying.

If his wife is pretty, she loves him, she satisfies him, she makes him happy, she keeps him interested and makes him feel good emotionally..etc..then he wont BE interested in any other woman BUT her. That wont stop him from fantisizing other women though...it's how men are..so what? It's what's on their mind:XD:
Doesnt bother me that much..normal.

If his wife is not so attractive and she's boring and rude and they fight all the time and she's stubborn and doesnt give him attention..then what does she expect if he gets another wife or cheats on her!??

Marriage is EFFORT! she has to KEEEEEEEEP him interested.

am i making any sense here? does ANYONE agree to what am i saying? doesnt it sound logical?:shy:
..ok u make sense but Sorry I dont agree with lol...

ofcourse if she has to bring babies her body will change and if he doesnt provide support she will remain the same.. but him going out with another woman is just selfish and dumb.. he should communicate and work together with her to make their marriage exciting one. a good man will not leave his wife and children for another woman...

^how can it make sense yet you don't agree?:XD::XD: haha

yes her body will change but if she doesnt do some exercise afterwards, she'll still have her stomach sticking out like she's still pregnant.:p

It's true, a really good man will never leave his wife.no matter what.