fatamooo
04-05-08, 07:11 PM
I have a group of really close friends. They aren't necessarily as close to each other as I am to them, but they're the nicest people I've ever met and I love them to death each in their own way.
My problem is that my friends, like all human beings, always do things which I don't approve of. It's not personal choices like religion or appearance or whatever. For example, one of my friends is a really smart girl, but she is kind of lazy and I'm watching her get low grades and get into trouble for it, when if she stops slacking she could do amazingly well. She's always creating drama with other people that is so unnecessary.
Another friend is such an intense person, I can't tell her anything about herself without her getting ludicrously angry at me. I tried to tell her the other week to take a break from studying for an hour because she was running herself ragged with her head in her books and seriously stressing herself out, and she practically bit my head off!
My other friend is just always making bad decisions in life, and I want to help her by telling her what to do, but she's also the most stubborn person I've ever met, and that's not a good combination at all.
So, I want to know where to draw the line with my friends. Where are the boundaries? I feel like I should be talking to them more about their problems because I care about them and I don't want to see them get in trouble when I can practically see trouble coming. But at the same time, I'm not their mother to be telling them what to do and preaching to them about anything at all when I'm far from perfect in my own decisions!!
What do you do in these situations?
My problem is that my friends, like all human beings, always do things which I don't approve of. It's not personal choices like religion or appearance or whatever. For example, one of my friends is a really smart girl, but she is kind of lazy and I'm watching her get low grades and get into trouble for it, when if she stops slacking she could do amazingly well. She's always creating drama with other people that is so unnecessary.
Another friend is such an intense person, I can't tell her anything about herself without her getting ludicrously angry at me. I tried to tell her the other week to take a break from studying for an hour because she was running herself ragged with her head in her books and seriously stressing herself out, and she practically bit my head off!
My other friend is just always making bad decisions in life, and I want to help her by telling her what to do, but she's also the most stubborn person I've ever met, and that's not a good combination at all.
So, I want to know where to draw the line with my friends. Where are the boundaries? I feel like I should be talking to them more about their problems because I care about them and I don't want to see them get in trouble when I can practically see trouble coming. But at the same time, I'm not their mother to be telling them what to do and preaching to them about anything at all when I'm far from perfect in my own decisions!!
What do you do in these situations?