We Begin and End with Family

A sentence my dad used to tell me whenever I preferred going out with my friends on weekends than spending it at home with my family.

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?

I admire people who would rather spend time with their families.. I really do.
I love it when I see people from a family gathering to have fun.. Maybe because personally I don't get to do it that often.
But you know how is some cases there are people who you feel are your family, eventhough you have no blood-lining with them.... My friends are like that to me.

It says it all I guess :)

- I love going out with both but if I had to pick then it will be my family because am more comfortable with them and I know that I won't have to worry of getting home late and no one [mom or dad] will have to worry about my where abouts.

-Special occasions are mostly celebrated with family and rarely with friends only, I invite friends over to join but my family have to be there. Its a must :p

-I used to have like sleep over's at some of my friends back in the day but my dad never liked the idea [it wasn't easy 2 get his approval on the matter] that one of his kids will be sleeping at some other family house even if those were our close family relatives, I had 2sleep over parties and I enjoyed them but that was back then we used to play and get crazy if I was asked to go and sleep over at one of my friends nowadays my answer will be "no, thanks." :p

-No, well sometimes I do that I go to my family when there is no one else [my friends are busy or my family is planning to do something fun] but it depends I mean some of family members are currently abroad beacuse of that I end up calling my friends to go out because those family members aren't around but when they are back home I forget about my friends which makes them act carzzzzzzy :hyper:

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
its not about prefer to me, its about splitting the time i have between them, i like both very much, family r always there for u, but frinds have their families too, n in times they'll be buzy with their famaily like ill be with mine

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
for eg, in eid time, first n second day is always fro family, the rest r for my friends,coz that's the only time where all the family gethears n we see every1, n i just charish family time

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
hahaha same :p

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?
sometimes yeah i think that, those who like their friends more n don't stand family gatherings

I've learned that no matter what, family is first. when you die, your FAMILY will be there..some of your "friends" will not come. Your FAMILY makes sure you have everything, you are safe, you are happy, you are comfortable..they are there when you really need help and need someone to fall back on..
as for friends, they come and go...and i have WITNESS AND EXPERIENCED IT, that no one give a freaking peice of crap...what "friendship" is this when they dont call or sms you to check on you? they could go for MONTHSSSSSSS or a whole year or YEARS without giving any sort of communication. they dont even bother to do so anyway?

do you know much time, energy and money on credit i have spent trying to be a good friend and ask and check on them and see how they are???

i dont think these people notice..nor do they really care..after a while, it gets old and discouraging. it's $HIT i tell you!

(lol sorry i am letting it out..ahhaha...thanks endure for this thread. i've been meaning to open a thread like this)

but anyway...what was i saying? oh yeah....

what "friend" is this that when you come online they don't even say hi or they only only wait for you to talk first? this is friendship? this is how life is now? people are too proud, stuck up or "busy" to take time out to care for others? is it just me? am i being sensitive? or am i just too nice and put others before me?

if that is so, then i will be even closer to my family. it shows me how they are not worth it. i hope they don't get surprised that i dont even invite them to my wedding. they're not worth my care or time. I've given so much and almost nothing in return. what hapened to the saying," the more you give, the more you get"? and "what goes around, comes around"?

I don't do it to get something, i do it so i can feel better...so i can feel i did a good deed..though those people dont give a crap, i know that there is ONE who is keeping track and i shall be rewarded for it. that's the only reason i do what i do.

it just gets sad after a while. it's such a shame. they don't have time??? they dont have a conscience? Are they to good ? they dont want to waste credit?

If this is how they are then they are not worth being my "friend". It will be very formal if i ever happen to see them. i'll just say a'salam . i wont go over board and say.."oooooh how are you? how's everything?" bla bla.

i'l just stick to family.i know they will always be there for me. i know they REALLY care ..

not like some "friends" who want to be your friend only when they want something from you:mmhmm:


gosh! :angry:

okay, now i feel a bit better:p

It doesn't matter to me if it was a friend or family member as long as I enjoy his/her company, It's all about personality and how well we communicate.

Well you always expect your family to be the ones who are with you till the end. That's why it stings that much more when they let you down in a big way. Most of my family I love to death no matter what, but at the same time, I have some very bad bad people in there who I wish I never knew, let alone shared DNA with.
At least you can choose your friends, and if you end up not being able to work out problems, you can go separate ways.

So family is always with you till the end, but only cos most times you have no choice :p

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
Well, mostly with my friends. But one of my best friends, someone who's with me in the same group is my cousin :p

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
Mostly family. I've had 2 birthdays away from Oman now..and I spent both with my sister here in UK, even though I had the chance to spend it with my friends.

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
Well, you can sleep at your cousins house at anytime..your parents wouldn't mind that..that's how it is with me..that's why I get over-excited when I sleep over at my friends farm etc. It takes a while to convince my parents ..

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?
No, because it is the family that can always lift you up. You see friends can change, and they can't give you what your family can give you. As your daddy says, We begin with family and end with family. Your family is the most important thing in your life. That's what I realized after studying abroad.

BOTH my family & my friends (god bless them) are the reason why everyday of my life is a special occasion...
why would why spend special occasions with just friends ??? am not maq6oo3a min shajara - cutted from a tree - as they say al7amdullilah ... second its very childish to me to do so ...
& why woud i just spend times with family ??? lol ...
the best time to me is when i spend it with family & friends both at the same time

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
I live with my family so I see them everyday, that's why I prefer going out with my friends in weekends. I do have friends who are also family members so I go out with them as well.

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
Both, usually on my bday I'd spend it with my friends, other occasions are spent with my family; eid, new years etc.

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
I'm not allowed to sleep over at anyone's house in Oman unless it was an emergency, so I don't think it applies on me. However I do have fun when I sleep over with my cousins when we're abroad. I never slept over at a friends house though.

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?[/QUOTE]
I don't think that's true. For me my family are always there, if you mean other family members other than my parents and siblings, then I don't really turn to them unless I had to.

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
It depends where .. But just to hang out or movies or something .. I'd prefer with friends .. Two of the people that I usually hang out with are my cousins

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
Birthdays are usually with family .. but the next day or the day before with friends .. Eids with family .. New year and all those special modern ones are with friends ..

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
LOL .. Well I don't bounce .. but yeah .. We usually spend a lot of time with a family house so we know how it feels .. but barely in a friend's house ..

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?
No .. Well not me .. Family helped me a lot .. I owe them a lot too ..


The thing is .. people are not used of changment in their lives .. any slight change that happens in their life .. (a new fancy car .. a new fancy house .. a new job .. gets some cool friends etc...) can really change them and makes them forget some and starts to hang out with others .. or basically forget what the others did to them a while a ago ..
This goes for friends .. and so does for family ..

To be honest, I prefer going out alone! :bored:

^^^ LOL!! :sunsmile:

I prefer going out with my friends nost of the time, coz I can see my family members anytime, they're available whenever I need them..

i prefer going out with the people i'm most comfortable with, and most of the time, it's family. :)

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
Both!
the taste of bring with family is diffrent than when you're with your friends...but both taste sweet n nice after all!

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
its a BOTH too, there are some which i celebrate with family and the other onse with friends! :)

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
lol, kind'f yeah! coz im always with family....meanwhile being with my friend is kind'f outta schedule...
and at this age.... teenage, we luv doin these stuff..like spendin time with friends more! but it has limits too....
i enjoy both anyways!

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?
Yeah! cause there is no arms like your family's! the only arms which will open for you any time..... i've seen many people who done many stuff.....but in the end they return to their family, coz none else would do like family does.....espcially "mom" :)

Personally - it is my family over my friends any day. And when I say family, I don't only mean my immediate family but my cousins and relatives too. Obviously, sometimes you need to get away from family and meet up with "friends", but in terms of everything, my family gives me everything I need; comfort, lots of fun and love :p

for once nightface, i think you have a point. it's better to go out alone. :bored:

If not, then go with a family member!

No one is worth it!

in response to nabhan's post...

you may enjoy their company but behind your back they could be talking crap about you. Those people don't sound like friends to me.
i say "friends" are not really FRIENDS. it's the sad truth. They should be called acquaintances.

It's better to have ONE best friend whom you get along really well with, have great understanding, have a lot in common, trust, and can always count on. NOW THAT IS A FRIEND. It's enough. as for the others, la tsheel hem (don't worry about it)...6uz feehom (screw them)!!

:bored:

about my long post up there.........see? no one can say anything coz they know i am right. some of you feel and experience it too:)

*sings*

"what a wonderful world..."

AE, because of your long posts sometimes I skip it :p no offence :D

^you know what...i really had a feeling :XD: loool

ok, i have a confession...i do that too:XD: i don't like long posts...

hmmm..so that gives me an idea...i can write a whole bunch of crap and nasty things and no one would read it...:rolleyes:

oh well, i still feel better after writing it:D

Thankfully I can call some of my family members my friends (ie cousins), so I get the best of both worlds :)

I preferred hanging out with my friends when I was still in high school, but after graduating and going abroad, I drifted apart from a lot of people, and the only ones who I remained close to were my cousins, so I spend most of my time with them nowadays.

family is always first then come friends... so i used to stay with my family all the time until my dad or mum give me the permission to go out... and as libellula said some of cousins are friends but i mean the family is as dad, mum, brothers, and sisters..

My family are my friends ;)

~ Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?
Yes. I feel more comfortable going out with my family than friends.

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?
Most of the special occasions I spend are with my family.

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?
Nah, I'd rather spend the night at a family's house than a friend's house :hyper:.

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?
No, I don't think so.

My friends are my family. I don't call anyone a 'friend'. =)

Anyways, I go out with my two friends who are with me most of the day, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy going out with my siblings or cousins.
It's just we're not that close with each other, but we're good.

I beleive in that sentence only because most of my friends are family members, at least they are the friends I would turn to whenever I need anything.

I do however have other friends who I meet every now and then .. I love spending time with them too.

You can choose your friends, but not your family. :p

I went through that teenage phase when being seen with your parents was utterly embarassing. :rolleyes: .. you grow out of it pretty soon though.. and now I wonder how being that parent feels like. To know your kids feel embarassed to be seen with you.

But my best friend, I treat like the sister I never had. ;)
My mother, I treat like my best friend. So.. there is little difference in my eyes between my family and the people I choose to hold close to me who just happen to not be related by blood.

I like family life. I like getting together with the extended family, having a big bbq or a meal.. or even just a coffee and some biscuits.. they're great fun. A good time is a guarantee.

But I enjoy time with my friends too. I love it, because you can just let it out with them, be a little loud and carefree and they'll not feel like they have to nanny you or tell you that you should know better or anything.

I seriously couldn't choose. I like them both.

it depends for me..
i keep for my self some rules
to see to spend time with who?

if it a usaull family acation y should i spend
this time with a friend..
the tradition is with family..

but if there is any oprtunity to go with a friend
in a normal acation.. and my family this time
wants to spend it together
i will tell them that i will go out with my friend

I love my family more than my friends but I love hanging out with my friends more. I know weird :mmhmm: .

I love spending time with my brothers
I go shopping with mom mostly
and hang out with my cousins.. we’ve been together ever since we were born
they’re like my sisters
and I’ve got a sister in law now too ^-^
my childhood friends kinda drifted away after I went abroad.. we don’t stay in contact much while I’m in aussie but we meet up whenever I’m in Oman for holidays.. they’re still very dear to me.

errrr... here's what I think.

families are there for support and for life guidance. if your family needs you, you're there. but that doesn't mean you spend every single thing with them. your friends are as important. because they're the ones you relate to the most and perhaps may even turn to family later. you are not raising a family for them to remain. you're raising them to lead their own lives... and that doesn't mean staying with you forever. But they are there when you need them is what's important.

i mostly go out with my girl cousins :D
so they are family (A)
.. but i do go out with my family as in dad,mom,sisters,brother ...
you know family dinner and all lol
but its more fun when we are all just a group of girls

Do you prefer going out with your friends more than your family? Why?

[B]mostly i prefer to go out with my family than the friends...REason:: very simple i cant tust on my friend

~ Do you celebrate special occasions with family or friends or both?

only with my family because the family is First do celebrate with them...

~ When I am asked to spend the night at a family's house (for whatever reason) I'd refuse but if I was told to spend the night at my friend's house, I won't stop bouncing! Are you the same?

my family wont allowe me to spend a night at my friends house at all...

~ Do you think that most people only go back to their families when there is no one else to turn to?

i think so...........