"I don't care what his sister thinks of me. I care about what HE thinks of me".. I heard that in a beauty salon this morning from a girl talking on the phone LOL!

Would you care how much your family likes/accepts your spouse?

Would you care how much his/her family likes/accepts you as their son's/daughter's spouse?


My family MUST love my husband.. I don't know why it's very important to me that they don't only accept him but also cherish him and treat him as their biological son/brother.

I also find it important that I gain my in law's love.. Although at the beginning I didn't care much about that and I thought my husband's love was enough for me, but I came to realize it makes a big difference in the marriage when you're loved by his family. So far, I'm on the right track :)

What do you think?

I think it is extremely important. I would always care what his family thinks of me especially his immediate family. I will try to gain their respect and love. I would say to the extent that I would not marry the guy I love if his mother never wanted me as a daughter in law.

It goes the same way for my husband. I want him to be loved by my parents and siblings.

Would you care how much your family likes/accepts your spouse?
I would..they have to love and accept her cuz if they dont...eventually they gonna ruin our relationship by putting crap in my mind about her resulting in me leaving her..how much ever i would think this wont happen...family always wins in the end

Would you care how much his/her family likes/accepts you as their son's/daughter's spouse?
same goes with her family...

Would you care how much your family likes/accepts your spouse?
Yes, a lot.

Would you care how much his/her family likes/accepts you as their son's/daughter's spouse?
It matters a lot and I do care about that.

So I hope when I get married in 4509843 years my in-laws will like me and my family will like her and get along all together :p

When I saw the title I rushed to this thread cos I though am going to talk about my family love since I have a lot to say about them. But again, spouce word showed up Lol. Am disappointed now :bored:

My family MUST love my husband

I don't think this is true. Love can never be compulsary. The most important thing they love seeing you happy with him and this will make them eventually love him. Personally speaking, it's so important to me that my family loves my girl cos I don't want her to feel hated whenever we go visit my family and am sure they will love her if they love me which am also sure about. Besides, it's also important that her family love me as well and I don't know how can they don't love me when they approved our marriage so naturally when they accept me as a husband to their daughter this means they sure love me and want me a part of their family.

Endure u said it all.. thats whats exactly on my mind, coz i think u dont just marry a man, u marry the family n the same goes for him, if my family dosnt love him then how will we all enjoy our time? n how will i talk about him n not get hurting words about my choice?

n in laws can couse a lot of trouble, so i guess u gain their love b4 ur husband even, n most important, u have to love them first n GIVE n wish for the best...

its a must.. if they didnt like her, then i dont like her :D haha In order to have a happy life there must be some kind of liking between the spouse and the family.

Love can never be compulsary.
true but accepetence n good treatment would lead to that

Yes.
Both sides have to accept each other or problems will occur.

i thought about it before 8 months... I told myself even if my family hate my (coming) wife i will still be with her...
But I don't think that is true... hmmm... *goes thinking again*

It's very important for both of that to happen otherwise there will always be tension in the marriage, you know when you go over for lunch at your spouse's house it's nerve-wrecking as it is, imagine going there and knowing that they don't like you! The same thing for my parents, if they didn't like him they'd keep on mentioning it etc and I wouldn't be happy about that.

"I don't care what his sister thinks of me. I care about what HE thinks of me".. I heard that in a beauty salon this morning from a girl talking on the phone LOL!

Just imagine this girl is a sabla member :XD:

Of course it's important. Otherwise, my in-laws might try to cause problems out of nothing, and hell would rise if he chooses me over his mother (or his mother over me :p), making our marriage unbearable. Life is troublesome as it is, so at least one thing out of the way.

Whoever says that they don't care what their in-laws think of them must be lying to themselves, because I'm 100% sure that it will bother them A LOT if they find out that their in-laws don't like them or don't get a long with them. It's a natural thing.

LOOOL lym ! hahahaahaha

I think its very important they approve and respect him etc and same goes for his family's reaction to me, BUT its not of EXTREME importance they LOVE him,. i mean its a bonus sure but its wont be something i worry about to a great extent. Some people just dont get along great for no good reason and thats not something i expect to go so greatly i guess ;s
but at the end of the day respect is what matters to me and approval ofcourse. like love caring are all a good bonus ;) hehe

Simple, if your in-laws love you, its a blessing, if they don't its a fact of life

Better not have high hopes, bec they may not necessarily love you, or your husband may not always be loved. As I said, if they do, its Hi5

my family is very important to me, i don't think i'll marry someone they don't like, or the other way around. i'd hate it if someday in the long run, something happens and me or him will have to choose between our family or each other.

i'd rather stay on the safe side and make sure we're both liked by each other's family. :)

When you marry in Oman, you are not marrying a single person .. you are marrying a family .. this is why being accepted and loved is very important.

I think it is extremely important. I would always care what his family thinks of me especially his immediate family. I will try to gain their respect and love. I would say to the extent that I would not marry the guy I love if his mother never wanted me as a daughter in law.

It goes the same way for my husband. I want him to be loved by my parents and siblings.
i just read this post, n i would do the same

I think it's very important that his family likes me. I am not about to marry into a family that hates/dislikes me or my family :os that wont work. I matters a lot that i 'fit in' .

It's also important that my family likes him and his family as well. Both families should get along.

I think it's more important for the girls' inlaws to accept her because as we know, when the girl gets married, she lives with HIS family and not the other way around. There will be future gatherings and outings so it's a MUST that they accept me :)

i could never be happy knowing that i am with a family that doesn't like me. It could cause problems between my husband and his family.

so inshallah khair.

my family is very important to me, i don't think i'll marry someone they don't like, or the other way around. i'd hate it if someday in the long run, something happens and me or him will have to choose between our family or each other.




The hatred, dislikes etc, do not happen during proposal, at the time everything is rosy and colorful.

i think it really important that my family loves the person I'll marry i can't imagine married to someone and my family don't agree.I have this concept that I'll never marry a guy if his mom doesn't like me.

The hatred, dislikes etc, do not happen during proposal, at the time everything is rosy and colorful.

not always. sometimes you can sense that your siblings, or any important member of your family hasn't warmed up to your future spouse, or vice versa.

I think it is extremely important. I would always care what his family thinks of me especially his immediate family. I will try to gain their respect and love. I would say to the extent that I would not marry the guy I love if his mother never wanted me as a daughter in law.

It goes the same way for my husband. I want him to be loved by my parents and siblings.

Exactly same answer. :yes: