A lot of times I hear, especially from the girls, that they won't introduce their husband to their friends and there will be a big line between her husband and her friends.

I am the opposite. Whenever I bump into a friend, I'd introduce her to my husband and introduce him to her. I won't let my husband behind or ask him to wait for me when I say hello to someone!

Also with my close friends who are interested to get to know my husband, we go out together. Last night, 3 of my friends who are quite close to me never had the chance to sit down with my husband and talk so we all went out together for meal.. I actually liked it when my husband enjoyed the company of my friends and so did my friends.

With him it depends on WHO are his friends! Some are okay to meet and go out with, and some are a BIG no lol for various reasons..

Would you introduce your spouse to your friends and go out together? Or are you going to draw a line between them? .. Explain your actions :)

My grandmother always lectures me to proactively divide between my husband and my friends. She says women can't be trusted and there is a possibility they might just become more than friends and before you know it, you are out of the picture. She also says that I should not bring my friends over to my place if my husband is at home :rolleyes: lol. I don't blame her, you hear many stories of women stealing their friend's men. I also agree that many women can't be trusted. So for me, it really depends on which friend. But I doubt I will be as "strict" about it as my grandmother instructs me to be.

I think I would be more comfortable to go out with my friends if they were married too and we could all go out as couples. Anyways, I don't think my husband would be comfortable just going out with us (girls) - he would like a man there with him. But if they don't mind getting to know one another, then it is okay by me so long as I actually trust this friend and no friendship develops between them.

And if I do decide to keep my husband separate from certain friends, it won't be because I think they will start something, but rather because I don't want us to have common friends. If anything happens between us, I would like to have my own set of friends all to myself, to talk freely about our relationship, about him or our marriage without feeling awkward that my friends are his friends too.

I trust all my close friends so yes he will meet those who I can trust. :)

I would not like my husband and my friends to have such things basically because I need some free time without him to spend it with my friends !

Sure I will introduce him to them once but that’s it, no more :)

It will be ok to have common friends in 1 or 2 families but not all my friends.

On the other hand, I do agree with your grandmother Lym, these things happen alot and I myself was been a witness to one of them !

So, No thank you, I'd rather keep them away from each other

I remember reading something about this years back in a magazine.

They brought so many women talking about how they were always introducing their friends to their husbands, always talking innocently to their husbands on how they are glad they are friends with 'fulaana' and '3ilaana' because they're so special and are always there for them. How they always invited their friends over so their husband could get used to them and also be their friend.

Slowly the their husbands felt that he made a mistake in marrying the wives and so divorced them and went for one of their friends.

I really don't see what the problem is, especially when my husband has his own female cousins/friends anyway. What's the difference between him seeing them and seeing my friends? It makes no difference to me.

I've had group lunches/dinners out with my husband and some of my cousins a couple of times. Also, we've had lunch/dinner dates with any of our friends who are married (they brought along their partners). I think it's fun. I've met a few of my husband's single friends too, and gone out for dinner with them, but I know there are some friends who my husband won't introduce me to lol.

My husband has to be sociable! lol:p He has to meet all my friends. No, there won't be a line drawn.

I don't know if I'd do the same thing, I would feel comfortable if I'm out with a group of friends and I bump into one of my friend who's with her husband and she introduces me to him. I don't like the idea at all.

However, I don't know if I'd introduce my husband to my friends it depends on the type of person he'd be.

If I bumped into some of my friends while I'm out with my husband, I'd introduce them to each other, but other than that,simply no.

Let's all go out and have fun!

The title says it all

I don't mind having fun with the friends of my wife

^ Haha HITMAN..

Lym ditto !

why would i introduce my wife to my friends ? :S " Dayooth " ?

Nico Translation " Dayooth " : " the guy who doesnt feel jealous "

and what benefits will i get from knowing my wifes friends ? having fun ? :)

Well, I think you got a point soulless. Its not that easy to trust people let alone not being jealous about your wife mixing with your friends. I think our culture/religion doesn't accept this unless there are limits and boundries, I guess when am married I'd perfer going with married couples more than going out with any of my single friends.

The basic issue here is trust. If you trust your spouse then there is no need to worry once he meet your friends. Not all men are horn dogs.

^ No one said that all men horn dogs, some women/men can not be trusted. You may trust your husband or wife but you never really know what others are thinking or planning, we hear lots of stories of women who did let their "female" friends into their lives to the extend where they ended finding themselves as the 2nd wives or things ended with their spouse's cheating on them.

I think it was their mistake for over-trusting their friends and leaving the door open for another woman to get in the picture. So bottom line is I agree with you it is a trust issue.

I remember how my ex would get soooo jealous if a man (i.e. could be a friend or stranger) stared at me too long and I was never the one to want anyone else. Jealousy can get old after awhile. I remember losing over 20 pounds in one month because he would get so jealous. I wonder if it had to do with the fact that in Oman men and women simply do not mingle as much as they do here in the states and it overwhelmed him??? Just do not not know.

What I DO know is that he had no cause to be jealous. He was the center of my world and no other man compared.

But people learn or they do not. And yes...trust is such a priceless commodity.

In my case, I find my husband doesn't know what to do really because he's not used to being around a bunch of "strange" women. He doesn't know how to strike up a conversation and would probably embarass me.

So I keep my gurl friends to myself and I don't even ask anymore if he'd like to come along to even a mixed meeting. He's very picky about who he socialises with.

On the other hand, I am expected to stay away from his friends and tag along when his friends bring their wives. Often, I have never seen these women before, I have little in common with them and just feel so out of place. And of course, we will be segregated yet again. The boys one side, the girls another. I feel this is stupid, especially since we are all married anyway and our husbands are right there.

This afternoon is one such example of this. And I already know I'm going to hate it.

Conversation will be the boring, nagging type. Being in a mixed crowd, with men and women, is fun. There's so much to talk about and you know you're going to be listening to different opinions, not 4 women nodding their heads when one complains about the toilet seat being left up.

If I bumped into some of my friends while I'm out with my husband, I'd introduce them to each other, but other than that,simply no.

Why don't you introduce him to them and then start going out all together?
I'm sure it's going to be fun and you will like the fact that your husband will enjoy the company of your friends. :)

it depends on which friends of mine my close friends who can be trusted basically with my life why not i really don't mind however i know some girls who i think are really weird and I'll never trust them. so yeah i wouldn't mind going out with my husband and my friends all depend on who.

Some friends are worthy of introducing and allowing them to hang out with you and your significant other and some friends aren't. I would do it especially for those whom allowed me as well to be part of their lives too.