Let's say in a very intense argument/moment of anger, your partner said some awful things about you and basically criticized you in a number of ways.

After you guys have cooled down, would you simply dismiss everything s/he said because they were pissed off and weren't thinking, or would you think that they said those things because they really think them of you (as in, there must be an element of truth to them)?

well i am very hard to please, i get angry easily, and the thing which i really hate and try to change is when i acount each word you say lol if i didnt like it,he\she would try to do something Especially if it wasnt my fault, will try to explain everything untill iam convienced that he\she just said because they were pissed off, sometimes i forget and i dont like to make an issue and some other times i just dont let it go, depends on what they actually said.

very bad i know:d

Let's say in a very intense argument/moment of anger, your partner said some awful things about you and basically criticized you in a number of ways.

After you guys have cooled down, would you simply dismiss everything s/he said because they were pissed off and weren't thinking, or would you think that they said those things because they really think them of you (as in, there must be an element of truth to them)?
The awful things I say in an argument are always the "truth". I won't exaggerate something or invent something just to hurt the other person.

So, when someone says stuff to me, I usually take it that they atleast believe what they are saying. If it ain't true, I know it. But I still think.. "ah so this is what runs through your head."

I think most of the things said when you're angry are the truth. So if it happened with me, I'd believe that's what my husband really thinks of me but if we've cooled down and made up, I wouldn't bring it up immediately.

If it's something I could change, I will but if it's impossible then he'll just have to live with it..

Like the rest, most of the things I say when I'm angry are the truth, so I would get upset but I won't bring it up at that moment. I'd wait for a while and then talk to him about it.

Take it personally because I believe words uttered in moments of anger are as truthful as the words can ever get.

I think people are most honest when they're angry or pissed off.

i would think that there is some truth to what he says when he's angry. the truth slips out i guess.. even if he meant it and it is true..i can always forgive and look past it...i wont forget though. never forget . he MUST apologize though :inno: :cry: :(

..it may pile up after a while (if he keeps critisizing , etc..) and then i might expload:XD:

thank god i am a patient person:XD:

there is a limit to patience though:6:

lol but when i am angry, i may say some things but not so harsh. i don't like to insult ! i will try to handle it in other ways :rolleyes:

god knows:p

But you know sometimes when I'm mad I could say things just to hurt the other person even if I didn't mean it. I would just want to inflict pain onto them the way they did me. So perhaps it is more correct to say that there is an element of truth rather than all of it being true.

I wouldnt dismiss it for one second cuz I'd think there was truth to wut he said or atleast to how hes feeling.. And His *** better expect moi to bring that up, Cuz I wouldn't take something like that Easily.. That's riiight especially if it hurt me, but he should already know that -so no surprises there - ;p lol

It would hurt for a few days, and usually fade away in time, as I got so much on my mind.

But, but, BUT, I have to be careful what "I" say when I am angry, because somehow out other halves seem to have an NESM, non-erasable selective memory.

I could get reminded on something I said Monday, 5 Jan 1997 at 6:32 pm.

^ LOOL.. Atleast you kno u should keep it Safe..
Those "But's are very important.. It'll only be a lesser headache for u later on.. Trust moi ;p

Take it personally because I believe words uttered in moments of anger are as truthful as the words can ever get.
what u said is soo true..
ill have to talk to him about it.. but when everything has cooled down n its like nothing happened.. but it wont upset me.. unless he says something to me later

And the only way that a guy can compensate those foul words is by giving his partner multiple orgasms in the same night

Otherwise she should not forgive him

And vice versa

Take it personally because I believe words uttered in moments of anger are as truthful as the words can ever get.

You took the words out of my mouth. I'm one of those people who wouldn't let things like these slip.

There are two possibilities for saying the truth, they are:
1-Being Angry
2-Being Drunk

And the only way that a guy can compensate those foul words is by giving his partner multiple orgasms in the same night

Otherwise she should not forgive him

And vice versa
wise words from the old guy.

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but for me, if he said anything nasty, there's no way in hell he's gonna get that close.

I have the combined great luck and misfortune to be surrounded by brutally honest friends and family. It's because my family are so forward that I've chosen the really straightforward people to be my friends, I think.
So, I've never really heard any surprising opinion about me from any friend or family member.

That's why in my experience when my sister or father or whoever says something that should be hurtful, like if they say that I'm acting lazy or being weak or whatever, I take it as constructive criticism. These people would never say anything just for the sake of being hurtful; there's a truth and an observation in that comment that you should look out for.

But if you think that the other person has said it just to be hurtful, then you should go in for round two ;) or put laxatives in his tea.

^ haha, welcome back fatamooo! :p

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well, i wasn't really sure until last Wednesday. people do say the truth when they're Angry, and they mostly do it with the intention to hurt.
that's why you should keep quiet when you're angry, lol.

I'll defiantly take it personally because when a person is angry they always say what they always wanted to say.

^so it's wise to not make anyone angry i guess:XD:

^ yeah i guess so lol