A couple just broke up after an endless relationship full of fights.. The thing is I am torn between the two because I am quite close to the both of them.. the girl is a good friend and the guy, I think he's a better a friend lol!

Anyway..

If I go out with the girl and have fun with her, he gets mad for being with her.. and when I hang out with him, she gets really furious saying that I shouldn't hang out with him!

It's driving me bananas and I wish they could act civil and deal with each other instead of making me feel awkward whenever I hang out with any one of them!! The thing is I am not on anyone's side, and I don't let them talk to me about their relationship because they're both MY friends.


What can I do?
Have you been through anything similar; not necessarily with a relationship being involved?

What can I do?
Tell them that its not your problem that they broke up..and cuz both are your friends..u cant make one angry for the other...so they have to live with you being both's friend if they really want to be your friend.

Have you been through anything similar; not necessarily with a relationship being involved?
sort of..not exectly the same..but i always try to confront both the parties that they have to live with me being on both sides

^ I did and they understand and they know what I am doing is the right thing.. but amazingly, when one of them finds out I am out with their ex they flip!

It's driving me bananas

Then get some oranges! :XD:

Anyway, yes I am always in the middle even in the UK...
It just sucks really.
They expect you to be there for 1 and leave the other.
What I would do is tell them how i feel about it EXACTLY!
No left or right.
I tell them what I think about it and tell them how I feel about both of them now and what they could have done.
Then I just be normal with them...
I just hate it when both of my friends who are in a "stupid" fight or a serious fight.

To me it works but it always takes time. When it doesn't work they always come back to me like I am the doctor who has to be patient with his patients and help them...

I'd stay away from both of them, or I'll go out with both without letting the other know.

ahhh im so living a similer situations but its not with a couple n its so hectic! its with 2 of my relatives.. they both call me to complain about an issue.. n the thing is.. when we all have to solve something that's related to the family i have to be the 1 telling each wt the other said so we all reach a decision.. n the problem is.. they always both have opposite opinions.. so a problem solved in 10 minutes would take hours or days..
i kinda know that both of them r ring in 1 point..n sometimes i c hatred between them.. n it kills me..! but there's nothing i can do.. i try to slip away from this middle position but they keep putting bk at that position!

now i dont know what to do!

For one, I will tell them not to talk about the frustrations of their previous relationships with me. I would also tell them to NEVER call me to complain about me going out with either of their exes. If they've a problem with it, then they are better off calling another friend to complain about me going out with their ex.

They can't expect me to take sides or choose one of them over the other. If one of them expects me to take such a decision, then it is easy for me to state that they're the ones who are going to be dropped without a 2nd thought.

This whole situation is not my problem, so don't make it mine!

You should establish a "don't ask, don't tell" relationship with them about each other. If they really can't come to terms with the fact that you hang out with the both of them, they shouldn't ask you whether you have hung out with the other recently and you don't have to tell them. Maybe with time they'll get over each other and be cool about it.

One thing they're probably both nervous about is like when you're hanging out with the guy friend the girl is afraid that you're telling him about her or something, and vice versa. If you assure them that this is not the case, they might ease up a little!

You're not married to either one of them and they shouldn't be making you choose between friends, it's not fair to you!

You tell each one, infront of each other if possible, that it's them who broke up not you with either of them.

Best thing you did is not interfere. And make it clear that you won't listen to either complain about the other.

It's hard, because these people turn to their friends to rant and complain.. and even though you are their friend, they can't do that with you.