T4L's thread about 'sharing pictures online' got me thinking about an incident I've came across recently.. There's this girl relative I know who posts inappropriate pix of herself online.. Inappropriate meaning, dress wise and posing wise.. However, I don't give 2 sh!ts about what she does with her reputation, 'coz we're simply not close at all! Despite the fact that we're closely related.

Anyways, lately a couple of people came up to me asking me to talk to her, but I said it's not my field to do so 'coz her own brothers know about it and it doesn't happen to be an issue for them. Although, I don't think her parents know about it, but knowing them they're very protective when it comes to their kids and they will always side with their kids no matter what.

What would you do if you were in my place?

-Talk to her, although we're not close and she's extremely westernized..
-Talk to her parents, taking into consideration that they might tell me it's non of my business..
-Talk to someone older who can talk to her parents, and they can actually listen!

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Situations like these are very common, but is it our field to take action?

I'd say tell her something in a gentle, friendly, non-threatening way... In an "I love you" way...

And then just let it rest.

You can't control other people. You can't even control how they think. So don't worry about "achieving" something.

But you can plant a seed that might help in a month or a year...

Just plant a gentle seed--let her know that it's her happiness you care about--and then let her deal with it.

I would say talk to her parents, but you say they aren't likely to listen...

I'd say tell her something in a gentle, friendly, non-threatening way... In an "I love you" way...

It's easier said than done. I'd go to that solution if we were comfortable with one another.. But we barely talk! Our lifestyles are so different, that has become a factor in blocking communication with one another. If I cared about her ok fine I'd talk to her, but frankly speaking we're like strangers around each other.. Imagine you don't really communicate with someone, then one day you have to tell them to do something or advice them.. It just doesn't click :os

If you guys aren't close, then out of all people, why were you chosen to talk to her?:think:

If you guys aren't close, then out of all people, why were you chosen to talk to her?

'Coz we're "closely related" I guess. :os

Since she's a relative of yours I guess you have to advise her not to do it. Since you barely talk I think you at least try to tell her If you do this I'll tell your parents. If she still kept doing it I think you should tell her parents and even if they said it's non of your business, at least you did your job.

There are ALOT of people "closely related" to her :os!
Her brothers already know about it anyway ..

I say its none of your business ..

It's easier said than done. I'd go to that solution if we were comfortable with one another.. But we barely talk! Our lifestyles are so different, that has become a factor in blocking communication with one another. If I cared about her ok fine I'd talk to her, but frankly speaking we're like strangers around each other.. Imagine you don't really communicate with someone, then one day you have to tell them to do something or advice them.. It just doesn't click :os

Maybe the thing to do is just call her and chat about something else.

Just let her know that you are there for her if she finds herself in trouble...

And see what happens...

If God wants to make a way for you to say something, He will.

If not, well, you are on reserve...

Her brothers know about it and don't seem to care. If her first degree family are not concerned, why would you be?

And her parents? They'll stick to her side? So they'll support whatever it is she's doing..

Hmmmmm, tricky!

If you're concerend, play the good family member role and take your chances and talk to someone in the family that will talk to her or her parents.

I am facing the same problem and i thought of talking to her and to her parents and i knew that you will say its not your business, they have said already though i didnt talk to them yet.

so i am not bothered its her life and she is the loser at the end, she is going to lose her reputation.

^ I think I'll take the same approach like you did. Why? 'Coz I don't really care about her and what she does, besides it's not like we hang out.. Therefore, her reputation won't affect me whatsoever. Also, people come up to me saying: "I can't believe you two are cousins!" Which indicates that we're clearly different, and one can't judge a person based on their relatives :os So yeah, whatever. As you said, it's her loss.

I would just let it be.