We always talk about marriage and relationships problems, but how about we drift away to something else.. How about we talk about the blessings of marriage and the advantages of being married -- in a nice way (don't mention things like: unlimited sex for free!!!)!

I've been married for less than a year and so far I think it's the best thing that ever happened to my life and I wish I got married even earlier.. Here are 5 things I am thankful I am married :)

With marriage, I found the sense of stability in life. I don't worry about being blackmailed or exposed. I don't have to lie about my whereabouts (if I am on a date) and I don't need to worry about what time I get back home.

With marriage, I started fearing life less. Somehow, I feel protected all the time even if I'm not with my husband!

With marriage, I got a combo! A husband with many features- he can be my brother when I need to be covered for, he can be my friend when I want to share a secret, he can be my father when I need unconditional love, and he's the best friend when I need to talk about anything!

With marriage, I get to be whatever I want to be. When I feel silly, he finds me cute. When I am mad, he takes me seriously.

With marriage, I feel I'm a baby all over again! I get pampered all the time.. I am not expeced to act like a grown up all the time and I don't have to impress him at all!

For the ones who are not married yet, you can tell us the beautiful things you are looking forward to in a marriage. Please don't be negative; this thread is all about how beautiful marriage can be :)

I am single and I will tell you the beautiful things of being a single

- It is almost 2 am here and I am online and I could as well be outside
-I do and buy all i need, yet I save 75% of my salary
-I forget my phone at work or in my care and leave it there for two days, nobody will be worried if I done reply
-You manage your time the way you like, I wake up whenever and go to bed whenever

:) I feel good!

1.having someone to hug whenever you want
2.being with the guy you love
3.feeling protected
4.hopefully being showered with gifts
thats what i could think off

Other than babies, I don't know what to expect of it. Perhaps you girls/guys will give me more reasons to really want to get married :p

ugh Endure..i hate you.

I am single and I will tell you the beautiful things of being a single

- It is almost 2 am here and I am online and I could as well be outside
-I do and buy all i need, yet I save 75% of my salary
-I forget my phone at work or in my care and leave it there for two days, nobody will be worried if I done reply
-You manage your time the way you like, I wake up whenever and go to bed whenever

:) I feel good!

Nice! But let's focus on being married here.. and maybe you can open another thread about the blessings of being single :cute:

ugh Endure..i hate you.

Hahaaai! Whyy? :hyper:

^ like you don't know? :p
you make is sound amazing...sigh, i sound desperate. xD

^ I just wanted to hear you say it..

And I don't make it sound amazing, it is really amazing! And it's okay to sound desperate, I was like that at some point! :)

i think the best blessing of Marriage is stability, and knowing that there is someone who's always by your side, providing you with love, strength and protection.
and of course Babies. :p

I am married for 5+ years now .. I really cant count the blessings but let me try:

- I have someone to listen to all my day complaining at the end of the day .. and he wouldnt be bored or annoyed (well sometimes when the complaining is about him he will :p )

- I can ask for someone to go pick this, pick that without having to beg for it (when I do it with my bros)

- I feel more protected to be myself in a society like ours. I am a person with alot of smiles and laughs, if I do that when I am single some guys take it the wrong way.

-you share your future plans with someone .. you work towards them with someone.

to me that's all "blaa blaa blaa blaa blaa"

When ur single, u live with ur parents, and ur protected by them. I don't need a man to feel protected. The only good thing about marriage is that you'll be with ur loved one forever and at all times. Other than that, I'd rather stay at home with my parents for as long as I can.

^ What you said reminds me of Libby as a single woman! Haha.. Now, she says: "What have I been waiting for?" .. :p

IF you find the right person though :bored:

Lol I don't think I'll ever feel that way. I sometimes feel some girls exaggerate the whole thing. I'm not referring to you or Libby though :p

^ Hahaha.. that's also what Libby said before marriage:

"I don't think I'll ever feel that way. I sometimes feel some girls exaggerate the whole thing. "

LOL!

Good luck :star:

*edited*

Our bad :p

^ okay people with anti-marriage ideas, please open your own thread :)

- being united with you loved one forever
- knowing you always have a person to lean on

The blessing Ive found in my marriage:

Having your best friend hold you when youre feeling down.
Having someone who will listen to your whining (most of the time)
someone to share your dreams with and plan a future life with
someone who will lie to me when I ask if my butt looks big
someone who loves me for me - even on bad hair days
patience and love
not having to stress does he like me doesnt he like me...... (like when youre dating) I know he loves me
waking up with him everyday
sharing insider jokes together
knowing Im not alone in this big bad world

I think the best thing about marriage is knowing that you have someone beside you, someone to listen to you, someone to cry to, someone you can just hug so tightly when you feel down.. The fact that someone is there who cares about you sums up everything in my perspective .. :os

The greatest blessing would be the huge savings you can make, no more lavish dinners & paying a luxury hotel before getting pleasure from the stubborn good for nothing girlfriend

You get to physically abuse someone :p


Joking :p

To me it would be having someone to be with always and kids!
I LOVE KIDS! :D
I can't wait... they are a blessing to this world! :cute:

Marriage to me is: Pure love, being responsible, protection and establishing a new family.

I love the idea of 'Sakeena'. The husband is a 'Sakan' to his wife, and the wife is a 'Sakan' to her husband.

I love the idea of 'Sakeena'. The husband is a 'Sakan' to his wife, and the wife is a 'Sakan' to her husband.

Was does dat mean? :o

Let me sum it up for the blessings:

-You get the real feeling of independence
-You start a new lifestyle
-You start a new stage of your life
-You get invited to places everyday since you're a newlywed
-Your mother-in-law would not stop feeding you whenever you go for a visit
-You produce a miracle: Kids
-Responsibility
-You start implementing things you have learned throughout your life

Jeff,

I can't sum it up in one word so bear with me :p

It means calmness, emotional satisfaction and something in the heart that brings the feeling of warmth and protection.

And this is only felt by married couples, because marriage means sincere love. Or that's what the true meaning of marriage represents.

If one of them feels happy, sad, angry, the other feels it too. So it shows that both will always feel comfortable sitting with each other during these situations, because they'll be feeling what the other is.

That's, I think, what marital 'Sakan' means.

By the way, I only notice female members counting the blessings... is marriage a win/lose situation? :)

If it is why do men still get married? Because they're nice and kind to the point that they would leave the blessings of their life to make a woman happy?

By the way, I only notice female members counting the blessings... is marriage a win/lose situation? :)

Women tend to be damaged by not having permanent relationships with men in ways that they NOTICE.

Men tend not to notice the ways they are being damaged. They feel isolated and miserable but they don't know why.

Jeff,

I can't sum it up in one word so bear with me :p

It means calmness, emotional satisfaction and something in the heart that brings the feeling of warmth and protection.

And this is only felt by married couples, because marriage means sincere love. Or that's what the true meaning of marriage represents.

If one of them feels happy, sad, angry, the other feels it too. So it shows that both will always feel comfortable sitting with each other during these situations, because they'll be feeling what the other is.

That's, I think, what marital 'Sakan' means.

Great explanation.

It sounds like the word to begin with in understanding it is: Empathy.

But there's more to it than that...

By the way, I only notice female members counting the blessings... is marriage a win/lose situation? :)
they say ( happy wife, happy life)
make ur wife happy.. n she'll make u heaven!

that's y gals r coucnting the blessings.. happiness
>> inshalah always gals

It's very impressive to see how many of you think of marriage... I hope our thoughts about marriage will always be positive. I get really hurt when people fear marriage and what might come out of it..

they say ( happy wife, happy life)
make ur wife happy.. n she'll make u heaven!

that's y gals r coucnting the blessings.. happiness
>> inshalah always gals

Great explanation :)

I dont get why some people say negative things about marriage!
that will make their marriage life goes like hell!

somethings you will not going to miss from your own parents home like feeling safe and loved..

well am single but i thinks those some of the nice things about marriage

-you can share everything together without being afraid that its wrong!
-you can express yourself and be in ur all moods without being judged.
-find someone to hug whenever you need one.
-start build your own family and future together and having kids who will carry your names.
-you can have a person whos willing to be everything for you , a best friend a brother and a husband

I think it's your personal experience of marriage that makes you realize how it's a blessing (or not). Obviously if you're getting all your needs fulfilled without being married, then you'd find marriage pointless. Also, if your marriage isn't ideal or turning out the way you expected it to be, you probably wouldn't be able to recognize all the good things about being married.

I don't blame some people for not going all crazy about the idea. I was very satisfied with my life when I was single, I never felt like something in my life was missing. It's all good until you meet someone who you really want to be with, and then somehow meeting them creates this void in your life and then you have a "problem" :rolleyes: lol weird.

Anyway, so things I like or appreciate:

- Snuggling up to someone when I sleep

- Having someone who compliments me all the time and makes me feel like the most beautiful person on God's green earth lol

- Being able to cry around someone and not feel ashamed, embarrassed, or worry about them thinking I'm being over-emotional. I don't even need to worry about runny mascara and raccoon eyes

- Having someone to complain to about everything that's going wrong in my day, and someone to share all my good news with

- Having someone to act completely stupid with, and who'll laugh with me instead of at me

- Being spoilt rotten and made to feel like I deserve it

- Having a new shopping buddy who is ever so patient and doesn't complain even if I take ages. Also, a shopping buddy who actually initiates the whole shopping experience by suggesting we go shopping. Awesome!

- Not having to get dressed and go out to have a good time. I can be a total mess, and be lazy, stay in with my guy and have an awesome time doing absolutely nothing

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Then again, you could probably do all these things even if you were single. You'd just get these needs met by someone other than your nonexistant husband eg friends, parents, etc.

i feel like getting married just by reading all these blessings !

i feeel that marrige if build on understanding n love is great.. even if ur poor.. its ur inner satisfaction that counts..

I think the greatest and the general blessing of marriage is that you find mutual repose and relaxation covered with affection, love and mercy.

Having a little one running around the house is one of the most beautiful things that marriage can get you.

Getting and giving massage in your place *the way you love it* for FREE and absolutely HALAL lol!!

Getting and giving massage in your place *the way you love it* for FREE and absolutely HALAL lol!!
hahahaha so true...

the best thing is it being halal.. when ur not married n in a relationship or dating its never that fun n comfortable n there's no sense of security with it.. just sneaking .. n u knowing its not right..

Interesting :P

I can't share much but he must be an outdoors person.

its just the first years of marriage , things will change after 3 years.


marriage isnt a game like every one think.

hahahaha so true...

the best thing is it being halal.. when ur not married n in a relationship or dating its never that fun n comfortable n there's no sense of security with it.. just sneaking .. n u knowing its not right..
thats true, otherwise marriage isnt that easy:rolleyes:

its just the first years of marriage , things will change after 3 years.


marriage isnt a game like every one think. true its people who change, they tend to show their true color after a period of time...but we do not have to generalise...every couple hasproblems and it depends how they solve their problems

^^^
the most important thing is to not take the other for granted..