Men:

You meet this girl and you're very interested in her. You approach her family to marry her and when you start talking to her to get to know about her, you find out that someone else also proposed to her and she's torn between you and the other guy.

She doesn't know who to choose and is keeping you and the other guy on hold.

The thing is, you're almost attached to her.. You really really really like her, but you have to decide whether or not you want to continue playing along; wait until she makes up her mind or give up!

What would you do?

If I love her I will wait for her and show her I love her.
Of course some might lose it and say "BUT I LOVE YOU AND........"
You know what might happen..
But really.. She must have someone she wants to be with...
She can't possibly want 2 of them, right?

Right :) so you think waiting for her to make up her mind is worth it?

There is one way she can definitely make her mind up

Take a look at both of them with their pants off, it will take less than a couple of seconds to make a decision

^ Hahahaha.. always with the funniest comments!

Right :) so you think waiting for her to make up her mind is worth it?

Yes I do.
Love is not a feeling that comes and go.
So it is better to wait then regret it later.:cute:

Easy Solution : Dump her and get over it .

There is one way she can definitely make her mind up

Take a look at both of them with their pants off, it will take less than a couple of seconds to make a decision

Very enlightening dear man.

If I was the guy I wouldn't be able to stand that the girl he loves and wants to marry is talking to another guy just to decide whether she wants to be with me or with him. So I would probably ask her to make her decision and choose and if she says she's not ready then I'll most probably leave her and get over it.

lol hitman

I think she shouldnt marry either of them because if you love someone u wouldnt have doubts...

I am not a guy but if iwere i will call it off...

^ What love are you talking about?

There's no love story. He is interested. The other guy is also interested. Booom, both intersted in the same girl. She has 2 good guys to choose from.. not her fault she's wanted ;)

Prove yourself to her.

^ What love are you talking about?

There's no love story. He is interested. The other guy is also interested. Booom, both intersted in the same girl. She has 2 good guys to choose from.. not her fault she's wanted ;)

Isn't she talking to both of them on the phone?

I assume she doesn't know either men that well, so it would probably take some time for her to get to know them both in order to make up her mind. If he's really attached to her, then she's probably worth the wait. If she's just another girl his mom has suggested to him, he'll probably just walk away and move on to the next girl down the list.

^ yup, my thoughts exactly.
but i think that's why in Islam, you can not propose to a girl when someone already has. you have to wait until they give an answer to the man who proposed before you first.

thank god honestly, i'd feel weird talking to two guys at the same time and trying to make up my mind on which one i think makes a better husband. what if i started having feelings for both of them? i mean, it's really weird for all parties.

my mother sorta been there, and she got lots of family pressure. it's just messy.

Isn't she talking to both of them on the phone?

Yes but there isn't any love. As I mentioned, he's only interested in her. There wasn't any love story, he went to her family directly to get to know her.. and when they started talking and knowing more about each other, he found out the truth. She doesn't necessarily need to be in love with them or one of them if she talks to them.

^ I know she doesn't have to be in love with them, but if I was a guy I wouldn't like the fact that she's talking to another guy that she may be involved with in the future, and she is also talking to me at the same time?

I am approaching to propose without knowing if she has feelings for me or not?! I don't see myself there.

LOL @ Hitman :XD:
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Prove yourself to her.

The ideal answer! :yes:

I think these kinds of scenarios happen all the time, the only difference is that most guys don't know about it. It comes when a girl of a certain age receives many proposal and it is only expected that she is going to get to know them and while she is doing that, she might be torn between two candidates (:p) and I think that if the guy really wants her, then as Rosso said, he should prove his worthiness to her and it is most likely that he is going to get chosen because he is showing her that he really wants her. And that is always a bonus.

With these sort of situations, it is not about love. Some girls and guys don't expect to love the person they're going to marry but they would simply like to know if that person suits them. In that case, I don't see why would a man get upset if she is testing the waters with others - as far as I'm concerned, it is not cheating.

i dont think i'll be in that situation...

i dont like to be put as an option,,,,

with me, there is only 1 option...

I won't propose to a girl I have feelings to ( Even if my family chose to me )unless I know for sure that she wants me back and there is no others between us.

^ I know she doesn't have to be in love with them, but if I was a guy I wouldn't like the fact that she's talking to another guy that she may be involved with in the future, and she is also talking to me at the same time?

Lym says it best:

I think these kinds of scenarios happen all the time, the only difference is that most guys don't know about it. It comes when a girl of a certain age receives many proposal and it is only expected that she is going to get to know them and while she is doing that, she might be torn between two candidates (:p) and I think that if the guy really wants her, then as Rosso said, he should prove his worthiness to her and it is most likely that he is going to get chosen because he is showing her that he really wants her. And that is always a bonus.

With these sort of situations, it is not about love. Some girls and guys don't expect to love the person they're going to marry but they would simply like to know if that person suits them. In that case, I don't see why would a man get upset if she is testing the waters with others - as far as I'm concerned, it is not cheating.

Dam3eti, do you get it now?
It always happens and happens to people we know and sometimes us :) For example, I was involved with my husband before marriage but at some point I received a proposal from a different guy, I talked to him as well to pick one. I guess you know who I picked after all :p

if it is as Lym said, then it's ok, these stuff happen all the time... (as long as she doesnt get toooo close to both of us :bored: )

if it reaches the level of LOVE, then i think she should have already chosen her guy...

^ That's why I mentioned there's NO love.

^^ anyway, for me, im gonna make sure it reaches love before the other guys come jump in xD

^ Such a competitor, eh ? ;) good!

I got it from the beginning, I still don't think it's right. Especially if the girl is involved with a guy and once she gets proposals she talks to different guys so she could pick. I don't see myself in this situation ever, and I don't think my parents would expect me to talk to guys to choose who I'll end up marrying.

If I'm involved with a guy, have feelings for him that are reciprocated, and I know we're "officially" a couple and committed to one another (in other words, exclusive), no, I would not talk to other guys on the phone in order to get to know them for marriage purposes.

However, if I'm talking to a guy I have feelings for, but he hasn't shown that he's interested back in me, then I don't owe him anything, so if someone came along who I thought could be my type, yes I'd talk to him and get to know him. Who knows? He could interest me more than my current "crush", and best of all, he's already made clear that he's got serious intentions.

^^ interesting point

im with u

umm i can say i am in that situation right now, 2 guys are there waiting for my answer, i know who's better and who's to choose but the thing is with his family i cant be with him because of his family though i want him :)