Does your family pick on how your figure looks like? Do they tell you how fat or thin you are?

I was surprised today when my uncle called me aside and asked me to take his daughter (Superbia) to the gym becaus she's building up fat and calories!

I wasn't told of being fat by my parents or brothers or even husband.. My uncles and aunts keep on telling me that and they watch my figure carefully and know when I've added a few kilos!!

So how is it with your family? Do you get picked on alot about your figure?

I was surprised today when my uncle called me aside and asked me to take his daughter (Superbia) to the gym because she's building up fat and calories!

OMG! I can't believe he did that :os It's enough that all the food in the house is low fat! Ufff. My dad makes us drink low fat milk, eat low fat cheese, butter, yogurt.. Basically anything that is available in low fat!

It's so annoying, he doesn't even allow me to eat chocolates, or junk! I'd understand if I'm actually fat, but I'm not.. I weigh 51.5 kilos and he's making a big deal! Even the lady at the gym said that my weight is alright for my age and height :os Parents could seriously be annoying!

Even worse, when I don't go to the gym, I'm not allowed to have a second meal!

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

As for my mum, she's the best! She loves food as much as me :sunsmile:

I was surprised today when my uncle called me aside and asked me to take his daughter (Superbia) to the gym becaus she's building up fat and calories!


Ha-ha! O' food, how you torture us!:p

I do get teased, but I don't mind it. After all, In the end, I do think it is to my benefit.

No why would they do that? But they would be concerned if I was too thin or too fat. I'm old enough to know what I want my figure to look like. And I wouldn't appreciate it if they kept on pointing it out all the time to discourage me.

they used to force us to eat when we were young, we were tooo thin...

now they dont, they just make silly comments like: oh wow u gained 100 grams today!!

Superbia, i'm sure you look absolutely stunning.

And I wouldn't appreciate it if they kept on pointing it out all the time to discourage me.

Imagine how do I feel when my dad points out specifically where are my fat! He'd actually say something like: "Your hips are getting bigger, and if you keep eating the way you do, and stop going to the gym you'll hate yourself when you're old!"

ANNOYING! Parents are extremely irrational at times.. Or lets say "Fathers" :bored:

Honestly speaking, I've gained serious weight in the past year. Mostly due to the fact that I've become less active. Actually, I'm not active at all any more. I'm like a couch potato. I appreciate what my dad is doing. He even volunteers to go walking with me. Which I think is great, but I'm too lazy. lol

Imagine how do I feel when my dad points out specifically where are my fat! He'd actually say something like: "Your hips are getting bigger, and if you keep eating the way you do, and stop going to the gym you'll hate yourself when you're old!"

ANNOYING! Parents are extremely irrational at times.. Or lets say "Fathers" :bored:
but you are only 17...your hips are bound to get a bit bigger because you are growing.

I was surprised today when my uncle called me aside and asked me to take his daughter (Superbia) to the gym becaus she's building up fat and calories!



Hahahaha..

My parents comment on how thin I am and that I should eat more healthy food instead junk food and fizzy drinks all of the time.

Imagine how do I feel when my dad points out specifically where are my fat! He'd actually say something like: "Your hips are getting bigger, and if you keep eating the way you do, and stop going to the gym you'll hate yourself when you're old!"

ANNOYING! Parents are extremely irrational at times.. Or lets say "Fathers" :bored:

It's better he tells you or points it out to you instead of ignoring it and pretends it's Ok. You should love your father for this :D

My mom is the typical Latina if you are your "normal" weight she thinks you are too thin and have to eat more. I remember my daughter was normal in her development as a baby and mom thought she was too skinny. My doc told me I had to make sure my infant didn't get too fat! Yes...parents indeed....of course now my kid is skinny skinny and I have to make sure she eats right. :)

OMG you should see how it is in my house. I think this is the only topic we talk about. Fatness. I think the reason to why I'm so concerned with my weight is my parents, I never used to care until my mum pointed it out once then twice then all the time. The food in our house is also low-fat and that's why I hate home food and always eat out. My dad never eats junk and hates the fact that we do almost everyday. My aunts and uncles never interfere though, they just point out when I've lost a few Kgs. I started going to the gym 4 years ago and haven't stopped and I don't think I will, I guess I got used to feeling "fat" even though most people outside my house don't think I am.

It's better he tells you or points it out to you instead of ignoring it and pretends it's Ok. You should love your father for this

He makes me feel insecure, while I'm not even fat! Not even close to fat! :os Frankly speaking, I'm satisfied with my body shape, and I go to the gym just to maintain it.. Not 'coz my dad thinks I'm fat.

Looking at it differently, do you what your family is doing (picking on your body), is helping you to maintain your figure and to watch out? So, you're also thankful of what they do? :rolleyes:

If my family told me how to look I'd tell them to shove it.

To the girls saying they eat 'low fat'-

the idea that fat is bad, is a myth from the 80's that got out of control. This New York Times article explains how it happened:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/09/science/09tier.html?_r=1&oref=slogin

here's an account from a girl who started eating a high fat diet:

11 ways fat can help you (and 4 ways it can’t hurt you) (http://calorielab.com/news/2007/05/21/the-lipid-phobes-guide-to-eating-fat-11-ways-fat-can-help-you-and-4-ways-it-cant-hurt-you/)

(but notice she does NOT get the fat from junk or fast food.)

He makes me feel insecure, while I'm not even fat! Not even close to fat! :os Frankly speaking, I'm satisfied with my body shape, and I go to the gym just to maintain it.. Not 'coz my dad thinks I'm fat.

If you think that your body is fit then you don't have to listen to your dad. Just say Ok. As I said my parents always telling me that am thin and should eat healthy food and more but I also feel that my body is Ok to me and it doesnt make me feel insecure at all cos I know my body better than anyone else. But what I know for sure that my parents say this for my sake ( At least it's what they think ).

btw...eating low fat is bad. very bad.

for example..butter...would you trust a load of scientists producing fortified vegetable fats instead of real cows' butter?

would you forfeit proper sugar and go for sweeteners, which have the same ingredients as weed killer?

i think it should all be down to MODERATION.

eat well, live well, eat as naturally as can be, have lots of olive oil, work out a bit each day, laugh a lot..there you'll be truly beautiful.

If you think that your body is fit then you don't have to listen to your dad. Just say Ok.

Oh that's hard to do :p I usually just scream and run off crying to my room.. :os

Yes, my parents do this. It started when I was in high school. I was always super skinny, but then after puberty I suddenly started gaining weight. They'd point out where the fat was and just say things like, "My God, look at how fat your arms are", or "Gosh, your bum's getting bigger by the day", or my mum would say, "You're only 16 and you weigh 55 kgs! I was 47 kgs when I got married!" (she never took into account the fact that I was a lot taller than she was). Thing is, I wasn't overweight at all, just not bony and skinny anymore. Their criticism actually motivated me to lose weight although I did it in an unhealthy way - I'd only have one meal a day, and that would consist of cereal and low fat milk.

I lost the weight and was back to my skinny self, then after I went away for uni I started putting on weight because I wasn't eating properly. Same story happened all over again. Every time I'd go back home over vacations I'd hear the same things. And somehow that motivated me to start working out at the gym. My aunts would also notice if I've gained or lost weight, and they would comment on it and warn me.

Even though I was alright for my height, before I got married, I started getting all worried about how I'd look and since my husband to be was like Mr. Perfectly Fit, I started working out religiously at the gym. I really pushed myself. I was at the gym 6x a week for at least 2 hours, and I'd go for a pilates class every week. I can now finally say I'm back to how I was when I was in high school. I still work out regularly but have cut it down to an hour a day.

When I first got home over Spring break, one of my aunt's was like, "Wow.. you've really lost weight. The thinner you get, the more I love you. Keep it up. No McDonald's when you're here, ok? Do you want to come to my aerobics classes with me? I go every day." :os Uhh..

My husband doesn't exactly criticize me, but like if I'm eating a pack of crisps he'll take it away from me and go like, "and then you wonder why you have a flabby tummy". Every now and then I also ask him if he thinks I've gained weight. I guess I welcome his criticism, because it motivates me to watch what I eat and to work out more. So yeah, last week's, "Your tummy is worse than it was, and I think you put on some in your thighs and butt" should motivate me to lose it all ASAP.

"You're only 16 and you weigh 55 kgs! I was 47 kgs when I got married!"

And to this day she still reminds us! :bored:

What are crisps? Potato Chips?

i am shocked.

What are crisps? Potato Chips?

The chips that comes in the pack..

What are crisps? Potato Chips?
Yup... usually it's a pack of Walkers or a can of Pringles.

And to this day she still reminds us! :bored:
Trust me, we're never gonna stop hearing it!! lol

i am shocked.
Me too.
I'm skinny so naturally my family urges me to eat more, but they know I eat enough and I'm healthy so they don't really make a big deal out of it anymore. I don't think they ever tell any of my sisters they're fat (and they're not), just maybe mention something every once in a while, and never in a nasty way. On the contrary, whenever they complain about feeling fat they'd tell them to quit being silly.
I think parents should interfere when it's quite a serious case that's causing health problems.

Yes my mother also says "before I got married I was 50 kgs" because I'm 56 kgs.

They didn't have normal food in their days.

(Mcdonald's, Baskins etc)

Yes my mother also says "before I got married I was 50 kgs" because I'm 56 kgs.

They didn't have normal food in their days.

(Mcdonald's, Baskins etc)
LOL didn't think anyone said that other than my mum.

I don't think they can compare though. Our bones may be heavier, our heights are different. You need to take these things into account.

I'm 56 kgs now. I went down from 66 to 56 in just three months, and even though I continued working out and watching what I ate, the lowest I could manage was 54 and that was when I was sick and throwing up continuously.

The 47 kgs is so not gonna happen....

Libby, you were planning to go down to 47 KGs? Crazzzzy! You're SUPER HOT the way you are now! Seriously..

Awww thanks :blush: I'm still a work in progress though :p

I wasn't seriously thinking of going down to 47. I knew it wasn't possible. Just wanted to see how far I could go, although I guess I could've gotten to 50 if I cut down on meals. Fortunately, I've come to my senses and that's not the right way to do things.

Anyway, I will lose the flab when I start swimming regularly over the summer. Swimming really works for me more than anything else (in terms of toning up).

I better laugh when I read this thread.

I was a healthy 14 year old one day. I wore size 10, had a woman's figure and ate properly.

My dad, who happens to be a health nut, and used to be a pro-body builder, used to tell me I was fat. I was certainly not fat. But you tell a teenager they have fat and they'll believe you.

Instead of motivating me to do anything, nasty criticism usually does the opposite with me. It puts me down and I get this "I don't care" attitude. So, I eat. and eat and eat. Slowly I begin to gain weight and start climbing sizes. Size 12.. size 14.. and my dad always telling me how fat I'm getting just made it worse and worse and worse. In the end, I just learnt to ignore him. I will lose the extra weight at my own pace, at my own will.

And when he gets a white hair, a couple of wrinkles or some flab, I never hesitate to point it out for him. Just incase he don't have enough mirrors at home.

I always thought that I was fat because my parents and sisters would constantly point out on how fat I am until recently when I calculated my body mass index and my weight turned out to normal according to my height.

I seriously don’t get why they keep saying I am fat. It is certainly irritating especially that I am a uk size 8 – 10 and I am sure if I lose any more it would be hard for me to find clothes that would fit properly.

No offence but some of your parents are ****ing assholes.

ah my mam used to say when i was pregnant of you i was thiner than you do -_-

well i tell her well its not my problem if am taller :p its the weight of my BONES!

they used to tell me to watch what i eat and thats all and when they say so i know that i really got out of the limit..

so its not bothering me
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well parents wants us to be more healthy and yeah i know sometimes its hurtful but its true we should take care of our selves you can be thin and NOT healthy its not about losing or gaining weight ...

if i ate everything in the house they wouldnt say anything
but if i ate fries from Mac they wouldnt let me go

My parents never picked on me when I was piling on the kilos; they just told me to eat healthy since I was suffering from anemia and iron deficiency but it was never about the weight till I started pointing it out.

After I studied abroad, it was only natural when I traveled back that people would comment if I gained weight or lost. So when I started hearing my relatives telling me that I've gained weight, I didn't care much till the weighing scale read that I was 57kg (the fattest I've ever been) and I knew they were right!!! That is when my mom said something. She said: "I was 58kg after I've had all four of you children! Well five, since technically one died. I am fat today because of a surgery, what is your excuse?" :omg:

Also, I have an aunt who is a fit freak and she had a ball pointing out that she is 44 years old with three kids and weighed the same as me (and yes we're relatively the same height).

So I started working out, eating healthy and I lost the kgs. Now I am as thin as I was before I traveled abroad. I still need to lose 3 kg though but that is for self esteem issues :rolleyes:.

i always got the ( your too skinny ) phrase before i went abroad for uni, but after i went there i gained quite a bit of a weight.. so my aunties n mom always tell me that when i ws in ur age i was only so n so ... wt would happen to u if u got married!

or u have a tummy..okay im working on it, but they just never stop! especilly my mom.. n in the end she goes n buys all the fattining food that i love n asks me to eat! im like mom helo im supose to lose alil wieght remember!?

I think maybe, he is relating the obesity at his house to the famine in Africa!

My parents (esp. my dad) pressure me to actually gain the weight xD. He thinks he can solve this by bringing in junk food into the house and not allowing anyone to touch it but me...I feel spoilt :D
Gets annoying though cause the rest of the family assume I have an eating disorder, although I eat like an elephant.

Elephant!!!! ^_^

oh my god..i'm shocked! xD

people only point out if i gained or lost weight when i come back home for vacations, since they haven't seen me in awhile and it's only natural. other than that, they keep their opinions to themselves. i'd feel very awkward if my uncle pointed out the fat in my thighs! what the? it's none of his business to start with!

my dad never comments on anything regarding my physique. i'm not sure if he doesn't notice, or doesn't care. lol

my mother though is a different story, we talk about diets, healthy food, working out all the time. and it's kinda fun, just the lil kick we need to start. no negative motivation whatsoever. and i love her for that. :p