Let's say you come from a very wealthy and rich family and you meet this person and fall in love. The two of you are happy to be together and decide to get married. However, you have doubts that he/she may only want you for your money, how would you know if he/she loves you or loves your money?

Any tips or tricks to find out? :p

well i guess there is no simple straight forward way to know...

u will know it while ur talking to that other person, and it wont be that hard...

(and some would go with the old trick of telling the other person that they became broke n see the reaction) :p

Hard question. If they are asking you how much money your family is worth that is a tip off.

Hard question. If they are asking you how much money your family is worth that is a tip off.
But would you get married to someone not knowing what their financial situation is? I mean, if their dad gambled and got into a load of debt and he passed away, doesn't that debt fall on his kids?

Just taking an example..

I'm not sure how you could find out if they were after your money. Should a day come when you lose it all, or spend it all or stop doing what you do that earns it all, and things between you suddenly turn sour and bad... you'd know. :hmm:

I'm not sure how you could find out if they were after your money. Should a day come when you lose it all, or spend it all or stop doing what you do that earns it all, and things between you suddenly turn sour and bad... you'd know. :hmm:

You don't want to wait that long, do you?

You probably will be aware of his financial situation way before getting involved in loving him !

Cause by a way or another, you will be able to notice it on him.

You don't want to wait that long, do you?
Well, if I had it, I wouldn't mind sharing it.

So if I were going to get married and still weren't sure of the guy's motives, I'd hold out a bit more until I were satisfied. You can't ever be sure. It's a risk you take I guess, and life is full of risks. When you stop taking them, you might as well lie down and die.

Your best shot is to get to know him as much as possible before hand.

Tell him that your parents said if you married him, no money will be tied to your name. Lets see if he still comes through.

Obviously, this is only a test :rolleyes:

You can try and lie by saying:
"My dad told me he is not giving me any money when we get married!
He said I have to work and earn it!"

And see what he says? :p

If it was a girl...
the guys could say:
"I got a letter from my dad saying the money he has will only be spent on him and his family. As for me, I have to work on my own to build "my" family and that includes you with me. That means I will have to work hard and from scratch"

But wouldn't you get upset if you knew your would-be husband or wife actually made up lies because she or he thought you were after their money?

They can say: "I just wanted to make sure if you love me or my money"

I think some of them will get mad but some may keep calm and understand! :)

They can say: "I just wanted to make sure if you love me or my money"

I think some of them will get mad but some may keep calm and understand! :)
I don't know. I kinda understand, but at the same time, that would still hurt me.

I know that is why some said it is complicated.
But really, how can you make sure easily without hurting anyone including yourself?

Yeah, if my husband ever conducted such a test on me by lying at me because he thought I wanted him for his money I would get really upset. I am not saying he shouldn't investigate, but not at the risk of hurting me. If he lied previously, he should find a better lie just so I don't find out he lied at me.

I know that is why some said it is complicated.
But really, how can you make sure easily without hurting anyone including yourself?
You can't be sure.. if the family has money, someday, who ever you marry will get some of that, no matter how you look at it.

And this is just money. What if they're with you just to get out of daddy's home?
What if they're with you just because they want cute babies?
And how will a woman know if he's with her only because he gets to have sex now?
Or to get a green card and live and work in her country?

And the list goes on and on and on... you never know. You just look at what that person is to you, what you seem to be to them, and if you can see yourself happy in 10 - 20 years time with them, then go for it. There is always a risk.. but that's life. If you worried too much about all that, you might miss out on alot.. you'll miss really living.

Yeah, if my husband ever conducted such a test on me by lying at me because he thought I wanted him for his money I would get really upset. I am not saying he shouldn't investigate, but not at the risk of hurting me. If he lied previously, he should find a better lie just so I don't find out he lied at me.
And the web of lies keeps growing.

Best policy is: Don't lie.

Ask him to divorce you, if he didn't agree it means he wants your money.

Ask him to divorce you, if he didn't agree it means he wants your money.
lol

or maybe.... he loves her? :hyper:

Icey, the scenario is based on "pre" marriage.

And the web of lies keeps growing.

Best policy is: Don't lie.

Yes, but all tricks involve lies!

You can't be sure.. if the family has money, someday, who ever you marry will get some of that, no matter how you look at it.

And this is just money. What if they're with you just to get out of daddy's home?
What if they're with you just because they want cute babies?
And how will a woman know if he's with her only because he gets to have sex now?
Or to get a green card and live and work in her country?

And the list goes on and on and on... you never know. You just look at what that person is to you, what you seem to be to them, and if you can see yourself happy in 10 - 20 years time with them, then go for it. There is always a risk.. but that's life. If you worried too much about all that, you might miss out on alot.. you'll miss really living.
I know what you mean... Life has its risks and I know at times you just have to go for it!
Since I don't care about money I don't care if she married me for the money really but there will be a point where you feel there is "no" love which will make things worse and she will be happy since she will have got what she wanted while I would get nothing.

As you said, if you will be happy with the person then I don't mind if the whole world crumbles on me. Since she will make me happy then I don't care what happens! :)


Yeah, if my husband ever conducted such a test on me by lying at me because he thought I wanted him for his money I would get really upset. I am not saying he shouldn't investigate, but not at the risk of hurting me. If he lied previously, he should find a better lie just so I don't find out he lied at me.
Yeah I know what you mean. But what if he couldn't find any other way except lie and say things to see what you are after?
I can't find any way to know UNLESS you know the person and you might find it from the way they speak or look while talking to you!

I don't have money to be loved for.

I don't have money to be loved for.
i won't marry you then :hyper:

Well, I can create a scenario to test her. Lets say I will ask her this question 'Would you marry someone for his money?!', if she replied with no, then I will be like you know my family is that rich. But, I won't get anything from my family, if we are going to get married, so we should depend on whatever I earn from work.

I should see what could be her reaction after that.

Marrying someone only for money might be unethical but it's not wrong

Just as a skinny blonde marrying an African giant for his one eyed monster

Or marrying a hot tanned Latina that has her whale tail exposed every time she bends

Nothing wrong as long as they are happy together, regardless of the reasons, it's a give & take world

I guess with time everything is clear..

Let's say you come from a very wealthy and rich family and you meet this person and fall in love. The two of you are happy to be together and decide to get married. However, you have doubts that he/she may only want you for your money, how would you know if he/she loves you or loves your money?

Any tips or tricks to find out? :p

This situation is already in too deep. This should have been figured out before the Love and Marriage stage.


If the other person seems too interested in the wealthy person's financial status, that should be a clue.

If the other person is a show off and likes to shop for status symbols yet has little wealth, that should be a clue.


Does whatever country this person live in have pre-nuptial agreements?

See how the other person reacts to the idea?

I think your heart will tell you if s/he loves you for your money or not. Love is a feeling and if you can't feel what love you have then you don't have real love.

That my friend, is the reason why our parents always advise us to choose people of our status :p

That my friend, is the reason why our parents always advise us to choose people of our status :p

I totally agree with you, marrying someone from a different status creates a lot of unnecessary complications. Even if he didn't marry you for your money, he might not allow you to spend your parents fortune and you will have to change your lifestyle and most of us resist in changing our quality of living especially if it means you have to change it to poor one.

and say he allowed you to use your parents money, He might sometimes feel insecure since he cant provide you with what your parents can.

To make one's life easier, just avoid falling for someone that has a different status so that you don’t have to doubt him and raise questions like whether he wants you for your money or not?

i won't marry you then :hyper:

You can't marry me anyways :dev:.

Marrying someone only for money might be unethical but it's not wrong

Just as a skinny blonde marrying an African giant for his one eyed monster

Or marrying a hot tanned Latina that has her whale tail exposed every time she bends

Nothing wrong as long as they are happy together, regardless of the reasons, it's a give & take world

ROFL really I almost fell off the chair, laughing hysterically! Gr8 analogy! see we all do it!

Anyway, "testing" someone before you make a commitment says more about you than it does about the other person. It shows that YOU are dishonest, insecure, maybe even a little selfish? If you really loved her, it wouldnt matter. Hey its just money. If youre so worried about it, that shows that you love your money more than her? Youre more concerned about what will happen to your cash flow than your heart? :( If someone is only after your money that would indicate that you are not that interesting? hot? intelligent? Cmon, get real. Sure there are gold diggers out there but the truth is - you'd never know. look at McCarthy he got zapped. Heres a quick list of some of the most famous gold diggers:
1. Heather Mills
2. Kevin Federline
3. Anna Nicole Smith
4. Abigail Clancy
5. David Furnish
6. Nancy Dell’Olio
7. Coleen McLoughlin

Its a part of life. :DEven some of the smartest people have been zapped, you cant avoid it. So you just have to take the risk and enjoy it while it lasts. Not everyone marries for money, believe it or not some ppl still marry for love......:)

I think that it's pretty evident from the person's personality, if he/she's materialistic and likes to show off then it won't be really difficult to know exactly what he/she is really after.

you agree to marry someone who u have no clue if he really loves you or is after your money? that isnt real love!

u can test him.. but i dont know how..

Well you'd be surprised of how many people who've been together for so long but didn't know the awful truth. My cousin, for example, didn't know that her husband was waiting for her dad's death to get her money (inheritance). They had 2 kids, her father dies and there goes the husband asking for her inheritance!!!!!

And because she refused to give him any, they ended up divorced! Ouch!

ROFL really I almost fell off the chair, laughing hysterically! Gr8 analogy! see we all do it!

Anyway, "testing" someone before you make a commitment says more about you than it does about the other person. It shows that YOU are dishonest, insecure, maybe even a little selfish? If you really loved her, it wouldnt matter. Hey its just money. If youre so worried about it, that shows that you love your money more than her? Youre more concerned about what will happen to your cash flow than your heart? :( If someone is only after your money that would indicate that you are not that interesting? hot? intelligent? Cmon, get real. Sure there are gold diggers out there but the truth is - you'd never know. look at McCarthy he got zapped. Heres a quick list of some of the most famous gold diggers:
1. Heather Mills
2. Kevin Federline
3. Anna Nicole Smith
4. Abigail Clancy
5. David Furnish
6. Nancy Dell’Olio
7. Coleen McLoughlin

Its a part of life. :DEven some of the smartest people have been zapped, you cant avoid it. So you just have to take the risk and enjoy it while it lasts. Not everyone marries for money, believe it or not some ppl still marry for love......:)
colleen (although i am not a fan of hers) made her own money. she earns two million a year. plus if you're gonna put up with a mug like rooney, might as well put up with him for a few designer bags and shoes :hyper:

I know it is inevitable that your finances will mix, but I will not accept a man who loves me for my money and not myself. It's not okay and if I can find out using techniques, I will. I am not going to trick him, but you can always know how one thinks, how he stands on this issue or that, bring it up hypothetically or something.

I totally agree with you, marrying someone from a different status creates a lot of unnecessary complications. Even if he didn't marry you for your money, he might not allow you to spend your parents fortune and you will have to change your lifestyle and most of us resist in changing our quality of living especially if it means you have to change it to poor one.

and say he allowed you to use your parents money, He might sometimes feel insecure since he cant provide you with what your parents can.

To make one's life easier, just avoid falling for someone that has a different status so that you don’t have to doubt him and raise questions like whether he wants you for your money or not?

that is so true! my mom comes from a much higher financial status family than my father. he had to work when he was just 12 when she was going to Europe on summer vacations.

and he's reluctant to living off anything she has from her parents. he wouldn't live in her house, etc..
she's adjusted to the new lifestyle since she never gave much importance to money anyway. and i really admire her for that. changing lifestyles is no easy task, specially if you were to change it to a not as luxurious one.

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i think most of the time it's quite evident if your, lets say fiance/fiancee is going after your money or not, unless they're really good at hiding it, or you're simply too dumb to see it.