I don't know how to explain really well but.... anyhow...

These days I have seen a lot of people who go out and have fun. They do this and that. The real question is "Are they themselves?"

Maybe you will see a girl who is WILD in front of people but an angel in front of her parents.
A guy who acts like an ANGEL with the people but a DEVIL with his parents.

What happened to the times people can just be themselves?
What is the reason that made everyone change and have 2 personalities?

And because of that some people even CAN'T be themselves because others don't like it when they are themselves like:
- if a girl is shy people might leave her
- if a girl is girly people might leave her
- if a guy is sensitive they will call him "abnormal"
- if a guy doesn't fight they will call him a girl
etc, etc, etc.....


I can't think now but you know what I mean.

Share your views!:boo:

I think they do it to be "involved". At time I did that to fit in yet sticking to my principles - usually during my young teenage years - but then I realised I didn't have to be like them to be liked. And when I say I did that to fit in, I mean I pretended to be okay and "cool" with everything they did, however I never took part in it. I knew it was wrong and my reputation is simply too important for me to ignore.

Anyways that is beside that point, but do be yourself and you will be surprised how much people respect you for who you are and genuinely enjoy your company for who you are. I no longer pretend that I'm something I'm not and it is not as exhausting. I don't know why I ever thought that I had to pretend I was okay with their activities, I could have just walked away and I would have been perfectly fine.

They do that to fit in a crowd they want to be part of.. I don't think it's wrong to do that as long as there are boundries and limits. I believe that one person has many faces; each face shows up depending on the situation, the people around him/her and what they're doing.

:rolleyes:
But if you keep changing a lot for the situations it will affect the person and MAYBE he/she will change permanently!
Which is happening these days..

why should a person have one "personality" all the time? I think that its normal for ppl to act differently in front of different ppl and when they are in different moods...... i mean when i'm with a hot guy I'm gay and when I'm with a hot girl I'm straight.. does that make me bisexual??? i don't think so i think that it just means that I'm a mixture of gay and straight.. i don't think that i should be the same person in front of every1 coz then i wont have as much fun.. imagine being straight in front of a hot guy??? or gay in front of a hot chick?? WHAT A WASTE


NOT :P
IM AS STRAIGHT AS A RULER..... a small ruler

I'd much prefer to be myself and naturally surround myself with people who like me for me. For who I am, just the way I am.

When people put on an act and try to change the way they are, it never lasts. Their true selves will come out sooner or later..

There are people I can't be myself with. I just can't express myself openly infront of them.

For example, you know how I love talking :p, but if I was surrounded by people talking rubbish, I won't join in and remain very quiet.

I wouldn't care if that made me seem like an introvert or made them not want to be friends with me. 'A7san', I'd think. I'm not being myself, but at the same time I'm not being someone I'm not by joining in something I don't like.

:rolleyes:
But if you keep changing a lot for the situations it will affect the person and MAYBE he/she will change permanently!
Which is happening these days..

Channging personalities doesnt mean they are not themselves. People act mostly according to the souroundings they have. For example, you can't talk about girls and sex or shout and jump with older people than you and with religious ones but you can do this with your friends. When am with my friends I talk alot and we fight, laugh and have fun in different ways, however I don't do this with some other specific people coz it will seem weird to them and I didn't adopt myself of doing it with them. Not being yourself is when you do something you don't like just to fit yourself, but doing things you think is right depending on the souroundings is being yourself by adoptation.

I always act as myself and the ONLY time I am not "me" is when I meet new people.
The 1st thing I do then is see who they are and what they like doing, etc.
Once we get to know each other then I am "me" again.
I am myself with my family, friends, citizens, enemies (yes i know.. weird..) and I never change for no one but me!

Why do you change?
To please who?
The people while "lying" at them and make them have doubt in you when they hear you do this and that when you are not with them?

That is how I take things...

Agh not again. Who talked about lying ? You don't lie nor act. You are yourself but in a different way that's all. Maybe you are stable all of the time and you act with your friends as with your family, but not all people like you squinty. Take this example: Your parents don't talk to their little kids about everything while they can talk about the same thing with older people in their age, why do you think they are doing this ? simply coz they believe that this talk doesn't suit the kids but it's ok to talk about it with older ones. They are still themselves right ? It's the same case about others here. When you talk and deal with others you take into account their age, gender, cultural background and how close they are to you.

to me, if you take all that into account that means what you say is "inappropriate" most of the time. Really, what I say and talk about I know it is ok if all people listen to it.

I get the gender and age sometimes comes to account but that is what I take as "adult" talk and not "you" talk.

I think it depends in the society you live in...if it is strict or more liberal...esp. in Oman where family honor, saving face etc...can sometimes dictate how you act in public. I remember when my ex and his brother had to return to Oman they were going to miss being able to just "be themselves". Not saying they did bad stuff here in the USA but that they did not have to look over the shoulder to see if someone they knew was approving their behavior or not. I remember the brother told me that his only privacy when he was back in Oman was when he had to use the bathroom. To me that is sad.

I think this relates to people being insecure of being accepted in the society if they behave like the real them, they probably lack confidence and fear losing people. Then again, there are people whom don't care about how people label them and say about them. Anyhow, either cases it will get to a point where you know how a person's nature is with time.. Time is the solution to everything in my eyes.. :)

But as a person, you've lots of different dynamics and sometimes certain dynamics are brought out because of the environment you are in. That does not mean you are being somebody you're not, it simply means you are bringing out a side of you more than the others. Essentially, you are still you and that is the most important. It's when you pretend you're somebody else, that is when it is no longer a good characteristic.

The person won't be unique or special until he acts himself. Only people who lack self confident tend to act/be themselves.

I don't care what others think about me, they should accept me the way I'm. Otherwise, goodbye :p.

people has been doing this since 10,000 B.C.

it's human nature, everyone wanna feel wanted, the problem is, they think that they need to be "someone" that's not them to be wanted...

^you must have watched that movied recently otherwise u wouldn't have mentioned 10,000 BC :XD:

i agree with what endure whisper said. :cute:

squinty wid his probs...................
well i duno how it is, for me, wateva i am, im m in front of everyone!

I don't respect people who pretend to be something just to fit into a crowd. I am the way I am with everyone I know even here in sabla, I find it hard to trust people who are good at pretending to be something they're not.

I don't care what others think about me, they should accept me the way I'm. Otherwise, goodbye :p.
That is what I say to my parents! :p
I tell them people either like me for who I am or leave me! :D


squinty wid his probs...................
well i duno how it is, for me, wateva i am, im m in front of everyone!
Not my problem.. Society's problem..
And everyone is better be themselves anyway!

I always hated people who change them selves just to fit in a crowd and I hate it even more when they look at me as a lower person just because I don’t share what they like or have.

I think they do it to be "involved". At time I did that to fit in yet sticking to my principles - usually during my young teenage years - but then I realised I didn't have to be like them to be liked. And when I say I did that to fit in, I mean I pretended to be okay and "cool" with everything they did, however I never took part in it. I knew it was wrong and my reputation is simply too important for me to ignore.

Anyways that is beside that point, but do be yourself and you will be surprised how much people respect you for who you are and genuinely enjoy your company for who you are. I no longer pretend that I'm something I'm not and it is not as exhausting. I don't know why I ever thought that I had to pretend I was okay with their activities, I could have just walked away and I would have been perfectly fine.

:yes: i agree. i've been through the exact same thing when i was a teenager.
and it doesn't have to be a 'fit into a crowd' sorta thing, some people take time figuring themselves and their principles out, they're not really changing themselves to be liked, even though that might look like it, they just don't know who they are!

marianna, that is the bitter truth, people question every breath you take in our society, or at least my part of the society - in case anyone is going to question that :rolleyes: - almost everything is a taboo. and being a girl is not making it any easier. sometimes there are things you can't do. you can't be yourself outside home, or in front of people.
and i always get 'you're not in America! you can't just be yourself in front of people!' lecture from my sister whenever where out and i do something that people might find unladylike. what your ex's brother said is so true haha.

Maybe we should differentiate between pretending to be someone else & fitting into a group of people without losing your real identity or personality. Though myself I show this person of mine within different group of people, groups might show different interests, I am the same person fitting myself in, without losing what represents me.

^ i think you made a point on this: :yes:

Maybe we should differentiate between pretending to be someone else & fitting into a group of people without losing your real identity or personality.