People keep saying that they dont want to get married as it is a big resposibilty etc.

To me marriage is beautiful because it allows ppl who love each other to live together and start a whole new life together in love and happiness.

But nowadays ppl r like NO WAY i am not getting married...etc.

Personally i am not married but if i do come across the perfect person for me i will not hesitate...

tell me what u guys think about marriage and y do u think ppl r acting this way as if it was a crime to get married.

Keeping in mind the the Divorce rate in Oman is increasing enourmsly...


[Edited by 4-ever-young on 10-24-2000 at 08:52 AM]

I agree with you brother that the marrige is wonderful thing and its the 2nd half of the religion.;)

The people who say it's hill ,, actually doesn't want to get married and want to live single as long as they can because they think its joyiable ( except the people with hard excuses like money and etc).

About the difforce, I think we are still at the save level ( openion ).

alsalam 3alykum wa ra7mat allah wa barkatu,
well this is the first time for me to reply in this sabla although i have been reading some topics now and then.I liked the topic that 4_ever_younge has posted and I beleive it is an important topic.
In my opinion, people who always say that they want to stay free and they dont want to enter the obligation of marrige are acting that way because they still didnt find the person who they loved and want to sacrify thier whole life for them. I think when they find their perfect patner all thier refusal to marrige will vanish . It had happned and at the end everything is maktoob and qatha2 wa qadar ( fate )

arbprnces

welcome in your sabla:)

and we are waitting for more reply

First of all Welcome arbprnce to omania and i hope that u will be contributing more and more to the topics here.

Well i am glad that u found my topic intersting as i am new at it is my first topic so that is encouraging that u like my First idea!

Well i totally agree with what is said...
ppl who say that they dont want to get married havent found "LOVE" coz if they have they would defentely take the next step which is marriage.

Althought a alot of ppl still think that being Single is Enjoying life but imagine enjying life with the one u love that is what i call Enjoyment and that is what i call life..

I dont understand y some ppl discourage others to not get married...it is part of life...
sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt and i think we just have to be sure of ur choice and work hard to make it last..

what do u think is ther perfect age for marrige either for men and women here in Oman?

If anyone disagrees with me plz post it here and we can discuss our differnces...this is what we r here for

Cheers!

4-ever-young

I think the perfect age are

men 20_25
women 18_24

But it depend up on different people

i think that what hate quom loot suggested for the women is right coz here in oman if a aldy is over 24 she is considered old and undesirable although it is not true..

for the mens age i think that 20 is too young at least 23 onwards,unlike women the older the man is the more mature he is..

It is a fact the women age faster then men..

i have another q ...Why do men think that if a lady is over 24 is undesirable?? and y do they want younger ones?

You where asking for the best age to get married;)

It doesn't mean that after that is old ,,I mean the best only:)

Hate qoom lott i didnt mean that what u said was worng i just refferd that to me 20 is too young for a man....that is all...u feel that the best age for a man to get married is 20!!?
i am just stating my opinion...but about the old page part this is what ppl r saying...that at 24 up wards a girl is too old?

no age is right guys , some people are 18 and more mature and understanding that those in their 30's . its the maturity of the heart and the soul, and it is a great responsibility. and one who is lucky finds a partner of pation and devotion, as for me, ill keep my fingers crossed.

thanx guys for welcoming me .. actully iam not new at omania as I was joining in the arabic sabla .. any way lets return to our topic ..
In my opinion .. the best age for both guys and girls is when they feel they can take the responsibilty of getting married .. some guys are only 19 and they are like guys who are 30 and some are 30 and still not ready to get married .. but what I think is sooner you are ready you should get married because that is what our religion asks too and that will stop alot of other problems.
May ALLah grant us all to find our perfect partners

it is ture i think in the end it all comes down to how the person is and how mature he is.

I don't think ppl should rush into marriage if they r not sure about it or have a doubt or even worse be pressured into it!!

We should all take our time to finding the right person,understanding each other,trusting each other and the most important is LOVING each other.

I hope in time we will all find the right person

WELL WEELLL WELL WELL ARENT WE LITTLE MS/MR 1950's?? you talk as if its all hunky dory and all getting married like its something out of a fairytale. What it comes down too is what standards of living you are used to and how comfortable you are. Getting married is a stress, moving in buying stuff paying kids school fees medical expenses gotta pay for insurances of all sorts, bills up to your neck. Are we still enjoying living together?????? HUUUUUUUUUH UHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHUHHHHHHHHHH ????

welcome to the Sablah fishfood21 :D

well there r different ways to look at marriage depending which angle u look at it u ,get different views!

when u look at it in this way ....(the way u described it)
it is i must say a stressful one!

If Marriage was that bad ppl will not get Married...
everything in life has good and bad....life itself has good thing and bad things...

we shouldn't take things so seriously...

4-ever-young
I agree with you .


fishfood
Don't you think buying things and food and having children is a fun ( try it and tell me ). :)

Having a child is a big fun. :)

Thnx HQL for ur support :)

well u see this is what i am trying to point out...
y do ppl make Marriage a sad part of life we all have to go thru...and the later the better???...y is getting married so much trouble?

i mean i agree that it is a big responsilblity and there r a lot of things involved and u have to be ready to face them..


but this is part of life...isnt it??

Do you have any kids ? Some people go crazy, those little turds crapping and peeing all over the place. And whos going to clean up ? YOU! So apart from the good times there are many many bad ones too. Divorce is increasing because young people think marriage is the end all and be all and then they get divorced after a year or two, with the kids still crapping and peeing everywhere. Enjoy living together cuz it won't last unless you know what you are doing and you have security and stability in your life.

Ok Ok buying stuff for kids is kinda cool, but what about the drooling and poopy nappy changing ?

fishfood...i totally agree with u...
having babies is a part of life we cant do anything about it,it might be yucky to chnage nappies ans stfuu but hey someone gotta do it heheh

I am sure that Marriage isnt total Heaven! but i am sure it is not as bad as hell heheheh

Hi bro as everyone says there in Oman no life with out wife but not really wife ,they mean girlfriend someone who makes you feel better.sorry to say that but this ia true.be cool1

Hi every one here
Young4ever I think your topic is interesting. Although I'm not married, I can say that marriage is like everything in life. If you don't have it you say it's wonderful and as soon as you get it keep saying its boring and thinking of old days.
I agree with what all of you have said'' marriage is wonderful''. It is really and we are the ones who can turn it to a disaster.
How?
You know that marriage means responsibility of having children, managing a family, and affording money and other things. Some says this is headache, but it is not. These things mean that you are alive and there are some people who need you. These make ones life meaningful
Isn't it nice to come home and find your wife waiting for you and smiling, to see your children running and making noise, to find someone who cares for you and miss you a lot when you are a way?

Welcome to the Sabalh Atyab :D

i thank u very much for liking my topic ;)

I am glad that u share my opinions on this subject as i agree with what u say and i think what u said makes perfect sense.

Hooti(welcome to the sablah too :D) i can see what u r saying is true too..coz everybody is doing it...but u have to think ppl who r acting in this way r teenagers who r looking for love,so they start by looking for a girlfriend....

if u ask an elder person 20-23 i dont think they will say that they want a gf for ever?! :)
they will start with a gf/bf yes but looking for the right person for him or her to marry.


[Edited by 4-ever-young on 11-11-2000 at 12:28 AM]

wow i just found my first topic thanks to Arby!

no thanks to my thread :D
i am just kidding

Merrige depends on the people who get engage to gather they must be mature enough to respect their marrige

i think marriage is a gift.... because it combines 2 people who complete each other

I've had girl friends, been in relationships and all that ...

AND ... I don't mind responsibilities at all, but marriage definitely IS a big step.

I don't believe in divorces and re-marrying, unless something really terrible happens ... so, I want to enjoy my life, come across the perfect one for me, and ask her out.

Till that happens, I'm staying single. Period! ;)

WTF?

This was a topic started @ 2000?

I beleive that marriage is a beautiful thing. and can grow to become the best step u did in your life. the thing with marriage is that its simply a serious relationship between 2 ppl. 2 ppl to love and cherish every single moment together. to share LIFE together. share the joy of having and raising kids. it may also involve some bad days ... but those days will be erased easily by remembering the good days spent together.

I'm not married, but looking forward to the day I'll get married. so that I can say goodbye to my lonely years, and welcome my new life with my new Best Friend, wife, mother of my Children inshallah, and the grandmother of my grandchildren inshallah.

so if your out there Love, this is for YOU !!

Originally posted by Shinoda LP
WTF?

This was a topic started @ 2000?

yes it was the first topic i posted...