Let's say a girl gets married. She finds herself financially stable with her husband thus takes less care in her studies and doesn't bother anymore.

She doesn't know how to cook and doesn't even try to learn.

Would stay home the whole day doing absolutely nothing but entertain herself from time to time by watching tv, surfing the net.. etc. Waiting for the husband to come back home to spend some time with him.

She's not thinking of having kids anytime soon and she's not practising any particular skill just for the sake of upgrading herself in this specific skill.

What do you think of this?

Would you be comfortable living this life?

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?

Yes. Actually, I see myself that way but I wouldn't do it because there's more to life than just "doing nothing". I am sure it will be comfortable and very relaxing but it won't give me the sense of satisfaction I am looking for.

^ If it doesn't give you the sense of satisfaction that you're looking for, won't you try to change your lifestlye to a more satisfactory one? Especially that you find yourself able to?

What do you think of this?

if it makes her happy, then its her choice

Would you be comfortable living this life?

No, I need a purpose in my life .. I wont be able to live freely without anything in my hands.

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?
Nop

What do you think of this?
If thats all she needs to be happy, then good for her. Less stress should give her more time to devote to her husband.

Would you be comfortable living like that?
Nope, not my cuppa tea. I think I'd probably lose my mind. But if I had a good stack of books to read...mmm maybe

Do you ever see yourself in such a situation?
I'd like to stay home a little more but I certainly dont want to stay home and be bored senseless :dev:

What do you think of this?
i'd prefer to get married from a house maid instead of her :)

Would you be comfortable living this life?
Ofcourse not , any lazy house wife woman cant be my type , especially when she is not even trying to improve her skills

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?

never.

What do you think of this?
pooor lady !!!

Would you be comfortable living this life?
not at all! id die ! i can never just sit n do nothng!

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?
im not sure..but i think id be cooking n taking care of the house.. n ill join a gym.. ill be driving.. ill just INVENT something to do ! who ever loves to just waist time n do nothing ??

maybe she's just enjoying life for the time being.
there will be plenty of hard work once the kids come along.

^ If it doesn't give you the sense of satisfaction that you're looking for, won't you try to change your lifestlye to a more satisfactory one? Especially that you find yourself able to?

That's why I wouldn't just sit and do absolutely nothing. I mentioned that I see myself like that but I won't because I love to feel satisfied.

maybe she's just enjoying life for the time being.
there will be plenty of hard work once the kids come along.

Exaaaaaactly!

Well if the couple is happy with it and both Bob and Margaret are quite sure that their marriage life is going well then that's okay.

But I doubt that such marriage-life-style is the perfect one even in term of happiness. All these stuff are temporary and either Bob or Margaret will start to get fed up and look for something different.

Personally, I would explode in such style ( راح أطُق ), marriage life is about couples experiencing each other in all different aspects. It has to be an hyper active lifestyle. Especially the first stage of marriage you have to see the attraction point of part of brain that you need to relay on to share and make your partner enjoying his/er life rather than filling him/er with money and relaxtion.

This will help them to be at least 70% ready for the big down in their marriage.

For myself no....I could never see myself doing this. Been working since I was 17 and coupled with that went through with my college studies. Everyone has their comfort zone and maybe for this gal this is hers but hopefully she would find some sort of sense of fulfillment in life because what a way to wile away your days....life is more than this.

If I am in her place, I will enjoy that life for couple of months ( cause I can’t what she is doing now :( ) but after that I will definitely will find something makes me productive person

Being absolutely meaningless person isn’t my style at all

As for her, if she is fine and happy with this life style and her husband is accepting it then let her, as said, she will have the hard busy life coming with kids later and she like or not will have to change her life style

What do I think? I think this girl is naturally very lazy and the boredom she is feeling has nothing to do with her not completing her education.

She can always find a way to keep herself busy. I know many women who don't work, but they always have something to do. Social work, learning something, 9elat ra7em (visiting family/ friends), cleaning the house, reading a book, surfing the net, excercizing, finding a hobby ...

I don't mind not having dinner to cook and chores to do.. sometimes having young kids around 24/7, keeping them entertained, happy, out of trouble, clean and with full tummies is enough to cope with but I couldn't live like that if I didn't have kids.

I'd need a hobby atleast, something that is time consuming. But I'd prefer to go out, work my @ss off and upgrade my life in some way. Maybe go on a holiday or get a new car.. etc.. In short.. I need a reason to wake up in the morning.

What do you think of this?

-I think shes careless and not ready for responsibilities and not ready for getting married!

Would you be comfortable living this life?

no i wouldnt ,, i need to to have alife! and feel responsible.

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?

no way! I would never put my self in such a situation
I will be even MORE responsible and try to help my husband in anyway possible. and we both will discuss about kids and see whats the perfect time for us both to handle this responsibility.

I bet she got married just to satisfy her lust & to fulfill the dream of having a snake as her pet

I bet she got married just to satisfy her lust & to fulfill the dream of having a snake as her pet
and why not? :hyper:

maybe she's just enjoying life for the time being.
there will be plenty of hard work once the kids come along.

But how would she know that there'll be another tomorrow for her to live?

I have absolutely no respect for any woman who wants to be like that. Sorry..and I would never want to end up with anyone who's remotely similar to that description.

What do you think of this?
Waste of time.

Would you be comfortable living this life?
It would be nice for a while but then i guess i would find my self really bored and feel that there is not point of me living. I would eventually get depressed.

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?
No way, I can’t just stay at home doing nothing. Even on holidays, if I am not travelling,I work part time.

For me, I don't mind to get married to a woman like that *if thats what she wants to do*... However, I don't want that to reflect on me. I mean i don't want her to blame if she started feeling bored soon or later.. nor I want her to become grumpy because of her own behaviour, and start fighting with me. Moreover, I won't hesitate to poke fun of her if she started to put on weight and become Duba ( bear)!!
And she will also have to learn how to take care of kids.. play with them.. play with me:D.. etc.

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Let's say a girl gets married. She finds herself financially stable with her husband thus takes less care in her studies and doesn't bother anymore.

She doesn't know how to cook and doesn't even try to learn.

Would stay home the whole day doing absolutely nothing but entertain herself from time to time by watching tv, surfing the net.. etc. Waiting for the husband to come back home to spend some time with him.

She's not thinking of having kids anytime soon and she's not practising any particular skill just for the sake of upgrading herself in this specific skill.

What do you think of this?

Would you be comfortable living this life?

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?


I think .........where on earth are these weird women?:os

Would i be comfortable? hmmm..maybe only for a very short while..IT's nice to relax, have a break, have a kitkat (LOL) and take some time off, but eventually i'd have to work ...have kids...learn to cook more things. Everyone has to face it..we can't be lazy no matter how much we want to! What's the point of living or getting married anyway if you're just going to be a ZOMBIE!?:os

Me? in a situation like that? LOOOL oh please..There's no way i can handle doing nothing! I am very active and my life and time would go to complete waste if just sit and do NOTHING!

i'd never live that way, i'd clean my house and take good care of it, i'd even work to help my husband around, iam definitly want to have kids :D

well Pizzazzoo.. What I'll do is.. Have children, go out everyday with my desperate housewives group to some cafe, keep the children with the maid or if the child is still an infant hire a nurse to take care of him/her. Thats how I'll spend my days. Why would I need to work when I am financially stable? I dont need to tire myself out, I dont need to get stressed, and I REALLY dont want wrinkles on my face, (oh and come on, I'm not going into the kitchen, I dont want my hair to smell like food), cleaning is not my thing either, nonetheless I want my house to be SPOTLESS, so I think I might be a tad bit harsh on the maids.. So, I'll spend his money, live my life, travel when ever I want, tan next to pool, etc etc. I think you all catch my drift. I really encourage woman to work though, it is great to see woman in the work force, makes them lack that sense of dependence.

Hahaha who am I kidding, I'd work, but still I would catch up with the desperate housewives at our local cafe that we always go to (I do that now, so why should I stop??)

Take care users.

xoxo

Drunk Girl

It's a choice I guess. I think there are two important things: First is that both the husband and wife need a clear picture of how they expect to live after marriage. Second is that this lifestyle will only work if they are both happy.

Personally I don't mind marrying a girl who isn't interested in a career. But she has to be interested in something! OK, if she's not quite ready for children at the beginning, then at least take an interest in the kitchen here and there!

^ i agree. not having a career is alright, being a housewife is more than enough for a job sometimes, but having no interest in anything is weird! you can't just sit and do absolutely nothing! you can have a self indulgent day every now and then where you just lay in bed, on the couch, take a very long hot bubble bath, etc..
it's ok to do absolutely nothing for a day, a week or even a month if boredom didn't kill you.. but if i had to do nothing for more than that i might as well go insane!

This is a fact of life today, specially in the Middle East: Most of the people get married without understanding what it even means. Some idiots actually get married thinking they "love" the other person. Others get married because their family asks them to do so. There are many men who get married for the sex, and many women get married their career, yes, marriage as a career.

Either way, in my view, whether you marry late or early, your mindset should be clear and reasons noble, and above all, the person you choose should be someone compatible, honest, mature and understanding.

I would never make a woman work , I'd look after her so she could do whatever she wants. That's how it works in natural hunter-gatherer societies, and natural is always best.

What do you think of this?

i think this is very common in middle east. As mentioned above, it is the girl choice to live her life. As personal view, i won't encourage that. I believe it can lead to depression later in life, getting older sooner, maybe obesity. I also believe that major relational problem may occur specially with a hard temper husband.

Would you be comfortable living this life?
Never..... there must be smth else than just TV and sleeping

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?
No, ...Thanx to allah ,

I would think in a marriage you would want a partner who keeps you mentally stimulated (not saying this is his job but that is part of the package of being in a dynamic relationship) because well...as we age and well...as our body ages sometimes the physical can diminish. Anyway, I think having a full partner is having someone with whom you can converse with intelltectually, have fun physically, and simply enjoy the person 200% in their mind and body. Maybe she is not like this. Maybe she is young and immature, maybe lazy who knows but all in all down the road I would wonder how she will find external stimulation (intellectually or socially) if her husband is too busy with work or friends?

I can understand not having a job, but taking care of a family and the household is work enough I guess. If she wants to sit at home and do nothing but eat and sleep then ya that's stupid I would never be able to just do that. I would love to be a stay at home mother, you know just take care of the kids, drop them to school, go grocery shopping, go to the gym etc etc..

However, for the time being if I got married anytime soon I know that I would want to work and have my own career until I started a family, with kids and everything I don't think I'd be able to balance working and spending quality time with my kids. I don't want to leave them with the maid or whoever..

Interesting. Good to see that most of the female members are against this kind of lifestyle.

It's a completely different story when kids are around, a woman's eternal job is to take care of her kids, husband and family as all. A job is a bonus for a woman if she really can see herself balancing well between her work and family. I myself see myself as a working wife inshallah.

I would never make a woman work , I'd look after her so she could do whatever she wants. That's how it works in natural hunter-gatherer societies, and natural is always best.

No you can't make your wife work, but isn't it your job to take care of her? And isn't it a part of taking care of her by guiding her to a better living? Would you just have her moaping around the house doing nothing but entertaining herself, sleeping, eating and whatnot? Even if that makes her content, do you think that this style of living is healthy at all?

No you can't make your wife work, but isn't it your job to take care of her? And isn't it a part of taking care of her by guiding her to a better living? Would you just have her moaping around the house doing nothing but entertaining herself, sleeping, eating and whatnot? Even if that makes her content, do you think that this style of living is healthy at all?

I'd say this imaginary girl should hang out with her friends or family to be healthy, but I don't think a girl needs a job to be healthy... if I'm taking care of a girl then I'll handle everything, so she can do as much or as little as she wants.

Honestly, I wouldn't mind living the sort of life you described - doing absolutely nothing - but only for a short time. I love just sitting about and being lazy when I'm on summer vacation. Four months of not lifting a finger is like heaven to me! But towards the end of the four months I normally get bored and find myself itching to get up and be active again.

I wouldn't mind taking a year off after I graduate, not applying for a job right away, and just sitting about doing nothing.

If I had to be a stay at home wife indefinitely, I think I could do it as long as I also took on little projects from time to time to keep myself occupied - ie furnishing the house, learning a new skill, going to social events, working out at the gym, taking classes at the gym, etc.

What do you think of this?
While her husband seems to be her whole life, she is only a small part of his.

Would you be comfortable living this life?
Only for a few days or weeks. Definitely not full-time.

Do you ever see yourself in such situation?
No. I don't like just sitting there doing nothing day in and day out. Maybe I'd take time off to take care of the kids later in life, but I see myself with a career, or at least some sort of activity, etc. before they come into existence.

I'd say this imaginary girl should hang out with her friends or family to be healthy, but I don't think a girl needs a job to be healthy... if I'm taking care of a girl then I'll handle everything, so she can do as much or as little as she wants.

Fair enough.

Libby, you say you won't mind that type of lifestyle as long as you have something to fill your time up with, Gym and whatnot. That's fair. But what about someone who's only purpose seems to be to eat and 'leisure' around, no workouts, no hobby, no nothing. Do you approve of that?

I could never see myself in that kind of situation @ all, I'd feel like a piece of furniture and born for nothing if I were like that!!