how common is it to have cold feet when you're about to make a big commitment? is it normal to have doubts about your future together? or does having doubts mean you're not ready, or they may not be the one for you?

It goes back to how you take your decisions. When I make a decision, I decide thats what I am going to do and I am going to accept the circumstances. This is why I dont get cold feet or I dont hesitate, I accept that my decision might go wrong.
I know people who are very hesitant, they dont make a decision easily and keep hesitating till the last moment .. those people get cold feet.

I get cold feet on almost everything I do, I don't really know what I want most of the time! I think it depends on what type of person you are really.. A consistent or an unsure person.

well, i think i have an Indecisive character, but i don't really get 'cold feet' over any trivial matter. it's just the big decisions that might affect my life in a drastic way (e.g: commitment) that make me hesitant.

^ same here.

cold feet?... nah. If I know it's what I want, no place for cold feet there.

some worry too much... others go with the flow... and others just know what they want.

It's not uncommon to get cold feet when you are feeling beautiful...

It goes back to how you take your decisions. When I make a decision, I decide thats what I am going to do and I am going to accept the circumstances. This is why I dont get cold feet or I dont hesitate, I accept that my decision might go wrong.
I know people who are very hesitant, they dont make a decision easily and keep hesitating till the last moment .. those people get cold feet.

Couldn't have said it better. I am like you AP :)

ok, thanks everyone. but i'm not really talking about cold feet in general, i'm talking about committing to someone kinda cold feet..umm, taking a relationship to the next level kinda cold feet, kapeesh? xD

I never had cold feet - most of the time when I do something or I'm about to, it feels natural to pursue it no matter how big it is. But I guess I never encountered something SO big that might send my feet freezing. When I do, I will know my precise nature.

ok, thanks everyone. but i'm not really talking about cold feet in general, i'm talking about committing to someone kinda cold feet..umm, taking a relationship to the next level kinda cold feet, kapeesh? xD

I quoted AP's wording but mainly explaining myself in a relationship :)

its commen.. we r all afraid from what the furture brings.. especilly if your way of life is totally gonna change.. we r afaid of the risk.. so we get cold feet!

I just feel cold feet when I think about what "I" can do for her...
Since I fear that I will mess up and then she will have to suffer because of me which I would never want to do.
But I don't get cold feet if I want to be with her and all that! :)

how common is it to have cold feet when you're about to make a big commitment? is it normal to have doubts about your future together? or does having doubts mean you're not ready, or they may not be the one for you?
It's a normal fear....it doesn't mean you have doubts! It just means you are scared of the responsibility and the unknown that lies ahead!!
At least i know MYSELF :rolleyes:
I don't know about others :mmhmm:
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great great thread you opened nella..i'm glad you opened it :cute: :rolleyes:

well, i think i have an Indecisive character, but i don't really get 'cold feet' over any trivial matter. it's just the big decisions that might affect my life in a drastic way (e.g: commitment) that make me hesitant.

I'm soooooo like that.. so I feel u on this one!

But like u said.. Things that would effect ur life in a drastic way..
So if u dont have cold feet over that.. then wth would u get cold feet over?..

With me.. The decision comes down to..
If w.e thing im making a decision on.. If it doesnt go well or as planned

would I then regret it? ;p

I'm not that type of person really...sure, sometimes I question a decision I've taken, but never with the thought of reversing it. It's just normal to worry about how something big you've just decided on is going to work out.

But it's very common and normal to question yourself and doubt yourself sometimes when there is a huge decision to make, like getting married, choosing your career direction, even moving house.

I wouldn't worry about it Nella; you're normal and sensible, and I think your concerns are just because you're an intelligent and responsible person who likes to think things through. But at the same time, try not to beat yourself up: I like what Princess said (happens a lot ;)) - once you've made your decision, there is no point re-thinking it over and over - prepare yourself for the consequences and subsequent decisions instead. It's all part of learning in life, and that never stops :)

I was hospitalized on the day I was getting married. Even though the doctor said I was throwing up because of some bug/virus, some people seem to think that it was cold feet! I don't know what to think about it..

I get somewhat nervous before any big event: exams, giving speeches/presentations, meeting someone who I'm trying to impress, having to be under the spotlight, etc. Usually I find out later that I didn't need to be so worried after all. Everything seems so easy later.. lol