My friend and I were having a discussion today about married people whom are studying together abroad.

~ Are you with the idea of marriage while both couples are students?

~ Do you think it's a good idea to get married and study abroad in the same time?

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The best time I shared with my husband was the last year .. when we were married (malka though) and were studying togther. We used to set our study time togther, support each other when there are assignments and so on .. it was fun. I got my best grades that year and so my husband.

^ Were you guys living together?

~ Are you with the idea of marriage while both couples are students?
I would support it but it's not that I think it's ideal.

~ Do you think it's a good idea to get married and study abroad in the same time?
As long as the husband and wife understand each other and know that they won't be able to fulfull their duties as husband and wife, fully, then it's okay.

[B]~ Do you think it's a good idea to get married and study abroad in the same time?
As long as the husband and wife understand each other and know that they won't be able to fulfull their duties as husband and wife, fully, then it's okay.

You mean will :think:

Well, they get married, go abroad for studying purposes right. But then, If they got into arguments, what are they going to do then? Especially that they'll be away from family members who might intervene to help solve the probs. You think it's still a good idea?

You mean will :think:

Well, they get married, go abroad for studying purposes right. But then, If they got into arguments, what are they going to do then? Especially that they'll be away from family members who might intervene to help solve the probs. You think it's still a good idea?

I meant "won't"! Because when you're away for studies, you can't really perform all your duties as a husband or as a wife and also take care of your studies. So that should be understandable from the beginning. For example: the wife won't be able to cook all his meals and do all the house-work when she has studies. The husband can't support her financially well or the way she would like to because he's still studying..

If they get into arguements, they should try solving it themselves. If they got married, that also means they are mature enough to handle their own problems and take care of them. If it gets too extreme, then that's a different story.

I'm not with the idea of marriage while the husband and wife are still students. For me, I would like to finish my studies then think about marrying. Though i don't mind having to do my masters/phd while I'm married and with my husband. Having to study abroad would be very hard for a female so a man's support will be good!

I meant "won't"! Because when you're away for studies, you can't really perform all your duties as a husband or as a wife and also take care of your studies. So that should be understandable from the beginning. For example: the wife won't be able to cook all his meals and do all the house-work when she has studies. The husband can't support her financially well or the way she would like to because he's still studying..


:yes:, I totally agree with you on that.

I'm not with the idea of getting married when both the guy and the girl are studetns unless they're abroad and they feel they SHOULD get married.

^ Were you guys living together?

No, since we only had malka.

My sister got married while she was studying, she even had a baby. She graduated as the top student from her collage.
Yes, it might not be the easiest way, but if the right person is there and the only thing thats stopping them is school then it shouldnt be an obstacle. I guess it all depends on the circumstances and the family.

Depends on the course they are studying.. not really.

I think if the marriage conditions are set then I do not see a problem in that. There will be two type of hills to climb; the marriage life and the studying issues especially being away from both families.

But overall, the outcome of it will be very very good if they stood up for each other. Their marriage life just will be strong because of the unexpected troubles that they were able to overcome.

However, I have heard this phrase many times: Our mistake was that we decided to get married while we are still studying!!

i love this idea! i also very much wish i went through it but iv graduated n i dont know if ill have that dream come true! hehehe

well i think it just makes the couple stronger, show how each person is.. i mean the real him and her, because they r alone n dont have to face the in laws being put in the middle for any problems that they face. and its just fun and i think its a very good way to start a life..

but both have to be understanding n helpful to each other!

~ Are you with the idea of marriage while both couples are students?
No, I mean why can't you wait a lil bit longer? I find it really hard to balance between your studies and your marriage life. However, if they're both studying abroad and TOGETHER then I think yah, getting married is a good idea cause this way, they can live together.

~ Do you think it's a good idea to get married and study abroad in the same time?
Yah as I mentioned above it's better this way so that you guys get to live together as husband and wife. If you weren't married yet, you won't be able to live alone at the same place

No, since we only had malka.

My sister got married while she was studying, she even had a baby. She graduated as the top student from her collage.
Yes, it might not be the easiest way, but if the right person is there and the only thing thats stopping them is school then it shouldnt be an obstacle. I guess it all depends on the circumstances and the family.

And also depends on the couple themselves.

Yours is a different case, since you weren't living together. But am sure it helped a lot to have your husband by your side and him to have you throughout your course. It must've been a good enough reason having him around to trigger you into accomplishing more and more study-wise :)

Seems like your sister is a lucky girl as she managed to take care of a family plus ace her studies mashallah :)

I'm not with the idea of getting married when both the guy and the girl are studetns unless they're abroad and they feel they SHOULD get married.

Why are you against the idea?

May you explain :)

Depends on the course they are studying.. not really.

I think if the marriage conditions are set then I do not see a problem in that. There will be two type of hills to climb; the marriage life and the studying issues especially being away from both families.

But overall, the outcome of it will be very very good if they stood up for each other. Their marriage life just will be strong because of the unexpected troubles that they were able to overcome.

However, I have heard this phrase many times: Our mistake was that we decided to get married while we are still studying!!

As I said, I think it mainly depends on the couple themselves in the end.

Libbyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! I think she's the best to answer these questions :D

i love this idea! i also very much wish i went through it but iv graduated n i dont know if ill have that dream come true! hehehe

well i think it just makes the couple stronger, show how each person is.. i mean the real him and her, because they r alone n dont have to face the in laws being put in the middle for any problems that they face. and its just fun and i think its a very good way to start a life..

but both have to be understanding n helpful to each other!

You still have time, go for masters or PhD ;P

Yes, I also am with this idea as long as both partners know exactly what they're going to be going through and are perfectly able to keep up with it.

In my opinion, understanding is the most important element here.

According to my mother, she will only allow me to marry someone now if he was with me here - she says this way is perfectly okay, but being away from each other is not an option (as in I'm abroad and he is back in Oman), because it is too hard to bear being away from each other and to "detach" twice a year.

I think if the couple are mature enough, want one another, then they should go for it. It is better they are married, than living in sin. He will just be another important person in your life whom you will accommodate into your student life. And as Endure said, you should both understand that primarily your studies is of priority and your full duties as "husband and wife" can be put on hold for the time being.

Why not, if they're willing to go through with it then I don't see any reason why it should be perceived as inappropriate.

Well, most of the examples i've seen, where people get married while they are still students, thier grades fall bcuz they get so busy and try to fulfill both jobs...

but there are people who made it, great marrige and great grades :yes:

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I'd rather both graduate with at least bachelor degree, before they get married.

Don’t get married…the toughest part about study is time!
Married people cannot stay out past 9 or 10 pm while exams, group work, research…etc most often require you to stay out until after midnight.

Being single (while busy with study) gives you more freedom to take extra courses, schedule your time the way it works best for your study and allows better financial management and investment at earlier stages of your life-if you have a good source of income while student.

I see rare circumstances were marriage becomes important and urgent.

Well, most of the examples i've seen, where people get married while they are still students, thier grades fall bcuz they get so busy and try to fulfill both jobs...

but there are people who made it, great marrige and great grades :yes:



You should meet me and my sisters ..all of us managed to get better grades after getting married :D

i guess it goes back to what a couple expect from each other. When me and my husband got married, we knew that we are entering a challange and personally I didnt want people to say I did the wrong thing .. so I was motivated more to do better in my grades and my husband supported that since he was studying too.

I'm personally against it, especially if the guy is still studing too and won't be able to support his wife financially. It can also be a major distraction, and you can't just assume that you'll always work better if you're married, although it happened in some cases. Also, what if the wife gets pregnant?

I dunno, it's up to them I guess. I barely have time or make time to study now, so I don't think I'd have to time to study if I'm married.

^ same here. i'll probably fail if i got married while studying.

I don’t see how marriage can affect studies. If both couple can work while being married why can’t they both study? Especially abroad where no social comment is required one has even more spare time.

I'm personally against it, especially if the guy is still studing too and won't be able to support his wife financially. It can also be a major distraction, and you can't just assume that you'll always work better if you're married, although it happened in some cases. Also, what if the wife gets pregnant?

Pregnancy is definately an issue. But I've seen couples with kids which have no problem in studying abroad and alone. The kids would be in a daycare and they'd pick them up once their done with school, plus their doing perfectly well in their studies.

However, I've aslo seen couples who have probs between themselves, and that's when their study level declines, and their marriage requirements are not met.

This shows that it actually depends on the couples and their attitude..

You should meet me and my sisters ..all of us managed to get better grades after getting married :D


Same here! My GPA kept on going high and high after marriage :p I am telling you, marriage does wonders :angel:

^ interesting.

i personally wouldn't mind being married to someone who's still studying. as long as he can support us financially. my dad had to start working when he was just 12 years old, when my parents got married he was still working and in his last year in Uni.

I'm a married student studying abroad while my husband works back home. It's hard being apart from each other but at the same time marriage seems so much easier since we don't live together day in and day out and therefore seem to have next to no arguments. Our situation allows us to gradually get used to living together (over holidays and some weekends) which is probably a good thing since I'm young and it's nice to take things step by step rather than jump in right away. It's not like I had to go through a drastic change and turn my whole life upside down and get used to a new way of life and all these new responsibilities overnight. It's more like I live the single student life half the year, and the married woman life the rest of the time. I also feel like we appreciate each other a lot more so that when we're together we make the most of our time together.

Some people can do long distance and some can't. You need to be able to trust your partner despite the fact that you're not together all the time. Also, it does get lonely and sometimes it's miserable when you miss them, so you need to be an emotionally strong person. I must admit there are days when I feel like I just can't deal with the distance and not seeing one another for months at a time is pure torture.

Personally, my grades have improved a lot since I got engaged and married, although I can't say for sure it's because of the change in my marital status. I know that I am more positive, I feel happy, and I have stability in my life. Just knowing that you have someone can really change your attitude to a lot of things. I'm definitely more motivated when it comes to my studies and I feel like I'm getting a lot of encouragement.

I can't say that I'm for or against this kind of marriage. It depends on the individuals involved and their situation. All I know is it seems to be working for me, so far.

Pregnancy is definately an issue. But I've seen couples with kids which have no problem in studying abroad and alone. The kids would be in a daycare and they'd pick them up once their done with school, plus their doing perfectly well in their studies.

However, I've aslo seen couples who have probs between themselves, and that's when their study level declines, and their marriage requirements are not met.

This shows that it actually depends on the couples and their attitude..
I think that pregnancy is not a problem unless you let it be one. If you're irresponsible, then it's an issue. As long as you take the necessary precautions, you should be fine.