Let's say someone comes and talks to you about their problems or something that's annoying them. They need sympathy and support..

Some people can only give support by listening to the person in need and that's it. I am the opposite; I talk. When someone talks to me about something, I always reply and tell them what I think.. It's not really what people need (because most people just need a listener ONLY), but I can't help myself from talking too and making them feel better by telling them I've been in their shoe, and it's not the end of the world, bla bla bla..

So what are you like-- The Listener or Talker?

I am more of a listener and when they ask me my advice I will give it. I was lucky to have had some training in counseling while in the military and college so I tend to use the verbal, nonverbal cues and techniques. Sometimes it is good for people to "let off steam" so that they are not as stressed. The key though is for them to find a resolution to their problem if there is one. Never be a victim but active in one's life.

I am more of a talker but I listen sometimes when they just want to TAKE THINGS OUT!
At times, I would tell them I have something to say and ask them if I may say it, if they say they really just wanted to let it out then I don't mind and AT LEAST I was abl;e to help to let them take it out from their chests and they feel relief which is better then keeping it in.

However, I started listening more then I talk back. So I am not suer if I can be called as a talker or a listner.
Since I think it depends on the situation...

I think I am both.

I listen till they're done, then I talk. Or we take turns...listen, talk, listen, talk.

I listen till they're done, then I talk. Or we take turns...listen, talk, listen, talk.

same.

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I am both...i have to talk and listen give advise if needed, tell me concerns...

When it comes to talking about personal problems, am always the listener. I never talk about mine. And my friends trust me in their personal stuff so they always tell me what annoys them and what they want ( I don't know if it's good or not but sometimes it's just tyring ).

I am a listener but at the end i tell them about my opinon and how the problem could be solved .

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I believe in that no one talks unless that person cares about you, and therefore he/she expects you to listen and care back.

To me it doesn't really make sense for someone to tell u their issue if they dont expect you to give ur opinion about whats going on.. I hear them out at first .. and Than I always give it to u realistically. Soo.. Yeah I do my share of talking u could say :p

I'm more of a listener, though I hear them blab their hearts off and at the end i might give them a few words on how they can work it out. Sometimes I just feel useless since I don't know how to help them but they actually find me helpful. Oh well thats good i guess :cute:

Im actually both, i listen and reply back...ill tell the person wat i think about it and how i can help them...if they need help.

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Because you want them to keep talking and you keep on listening only?

A very very good topic. I'm a little bit of both but MOSTLY i'm a listener:D

Listener, i dunno how to talk or im not very talkative so listening will be teh best option for me :D

^oooh i can sooooo see that :rolleyes:
but what happens when two listeners are in a conversation? :rolleyes: no one will talk! :XD:

^ Not possible. A person is calling to complain.. So, they have to talk! You won't be able to listen to them unless they talk.

I tend to listen…I don’t know if asking further questions about the case is appropriate….i am sure many people would like you to get involved I uust don’t have the courage most of the time.

I just say…
I see what you mean…
Ya I know how it feels…
Have you tried this….?
Have you tried that…?
What if….
I can do so and so if it would help…

I'm a listener. :)

- I can take everything inside me .. I just don't find the right words to say what's inside me.

^ ditto.

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A very very good topic. I'm a little bit of both but MOSTLY i'm a listener:D

me too.
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Give them the chance to talk first and let it all out, then I tell them what I think they should do..ect.

i listen. and always try to propose a solution.

hmm..it depends on who is it i'm listening to really. but i'm not very talkative in general. i usually just listen. and it often does the job.
i rarely talk, propose a solution, etc..

I'd listen and listen and listen, and then talk and talk and talk!

if its someone whos close to me i guess i'd talk and tell them what i think they should do, but if its someone who isnt very close to me then i guess i'd listen, and help if that person asked for help..

personally, when somethings bothering, talking to my best friend can help bigtime