this was inspired by my thread (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?p=1052740#post1052740) in Art sabla

now we see little girls and boys trying to act older but not in a good way ,they try to act like people who they see around or on TV, girls wearing tight clothes and lot of makeup shows what they got! little boys walking around in a weird kinda walk *some call it the cool walk* or have those freaky hair cuts and wear like rap singers :bored:


i think its wrong becuase they dont live their childhood and their teenage life they try to copy what older people do or what they see and hear from magazines,TV and movies!


-what do you think about it? do you think is Ok?

-and how you think you can solve such a thing if your kids tried to act older in the wrong way ?

my kids try to act older all the time. they watch high school musical a lot. thank god that's quite innocent. but they love the clothes, the music and the dances.
they try to look older but they are still very innocent, so most things just float over their heads. they wear makeup because they think it's a girly thing to do, and they see me do it every morning. they steal my makeup, my perfumes, my face products. i don't mind that much because i know they are not corrupted. they don't watch violent movies or anything overtly sexy. they just wanna be girls. although sometimes when they combine clothes, i send them back to change, because they do look adult and not just girly.

-what do you think about it? do you think is Ok?

-and how you think you can solve such a thing if your kids tried to act older in the wrong way ?



I feel bad for those kids; they get to miss out on alot from their childhood, and they're going to regret it. I mean, they don't know it now because they're having fun (they think they are), but then when they grow up there wouldn't be much of a difference and they won't feel the change. They didn't go through life stages and they did not grow up the way they should have.

I don't think you can solve this. Kids are pressured by their friends and the last thing you want is to embarass them in front of their friends and make them do something they don't find 'cool'! What I think you can do about it is try to involve the kid in 'kid activities' when they are not with their friends who act elder. They'll balance out eventually and enjoy both.

kids, when they try to act 'cool' or 'oldr', these days they start cigs and alchohol. Cigs usually in public, go to Shatti and u'll c so many kids there smokin' their life away. I have no idea if it adds to the "cool" thing but if my kid (when he/she comes) did it, I would punish da kid and give words of wisdom and hope it will be ok.

Basically show em some horrific cancer cases!

about dressing like rappers, my kids will never do that because I don't like it :D and girls dressin like adults (woo wat i saw in DXB!!), well mom should knock some religion talk in their heads!

my kids try to act older all the time. they watch high school musical a lot. thank god that's quite innocent. but they love the clothes, the music and the dances.
they try to look older but they are still very innocent, so most things just float over their heads. they wear makeup because they think it's a girly thing to do, and they see me do it every morning. they steal my makeup, my perfumes, my face products. i don't mind that much because i know they are not corrupted. they don't watch violent movies or anything overtly sexy. they just wanna be girls. although sometimes when they combine clothes, i send them back to change, because they do look adult and not just girly.

this i dont call it overacting i call it cute acting of girls lol
little innocent girls always try to look like their mommy but they know they are not allowed to do those stuff like putting make up and wear high heels out side.. its ok in the house and in front of our eyes :)



-what do you think about it? do you think is Ok?

-and how you think you can solve such a thing if your kids tried to act older in the wrong way ?



- think the kids who overactign and wanna be like adults in a bad way are missing so much and they are taking that innocent part for their lives, and i dont think its ok to act that way ..

-the parents should tell their kids what they are allowed to wear and do and what they arent allowed to do and what they see on TV is not always true or right! and living your age is the best thing ever and when they get older they can chose what things they want to wear and do but in limits as well ..

or you can just dont let the kids watch those kida music videos ..nowadays i think music videos is like a poison ..no point lot of bad acting bad moves and nasty clothes .. so yeah i think kids should not be allowed to watch such a thing and if they accidentally did we have to tell them its wrong to act like what we see
;)

I think it is wrong but because of the West effecting the world I wouldn't be surprised.
I hate it really and I will never think of being like someone else.

To solve it with my kids?
I will have to etach them the right way?
But it really can't be helped always... Some kids love to copy others while some love to be themselves.
Kids are known for copying things so they always have a high posibility of falling in the wrong direction...

^^ but you can let them copy in limits
we cant just look at them and say oh hes such a cute copier

Sometimes I think that kids need to spend more time with adults and less time with other kids.

In a funny way, I think it lets them be kids at the same time it helps them practice to be adults. I have a lot of friends who home school their kids and these kids try less to "act grown up" than other kids, but at the same time they are more mature and self-confident than most school kids.

I don't know what they solution is, though. The world is a complicated place...

[/quote]Sometimes I think that kids need to spend more time with adults and less time with other kids. [quote]

I agree.

The problem is not with the kids, it's with the adults. The adults never give the child a chance to express themselves, always making them feel like they're less and that they should 'remain silent while the adults are speaking.'

I remember listening to someone on TV tell a story, I laughed so much because it happend to me too.

He said once he sat with 'the men', remained quite and listened to their boring topics so at the end he could have lunch with them, not the kids outside. He said: "For two hours I sat there, paying attention and behaving like an angel while the others were having fun playing outside." He believed that by acting this way he'd get to eat lunch with them, but to his shock, when lunch came, the men told him to 'go eat with the kids, yalla.'


Our children don't get to sit with the adults to see what being a respected adult is about. They don't get that attention! Everyone likes to feel important, if they don't feel it from the adults around them, they'll look for another way to. Sometimes they take a wrong turn, sometimes they're lucky.

^^

:p

Yeah, maybe the best way of living is on a family farm or something, where kids and adults have to work together.

Anyway, I think there is a big difference between a kid who is really mature and a kid who is trying to prove he is grown up...often by mimicking older kids!

We can't see the kids acting like real kids anymore. Once they're grown, they won't ever be kids anymore, so why don't they just enjoy their childhood and act their age.

The other day I was outside with some friends in a restaurant and I was really amazed to see little girls who're 12 years old or maybe younger. They were wearing TOO much make-up and dressing in a weird way. Sad thing indeed.

^^ but you can let them copy in limits
we cant just look at them and say oh hes such a cute copier

Yeah but you can't control them on WHAT to copy, right?
That is where I think raising a GOOD child comes in mind...

I've seen a girl who wears so much make up and dressed in a very grown way. I was wondering why her mother let her leave the house that way, until I saw her mother.

:hmm:

^^ Nice one :p

What about those parents who ask their lil girls to wear abaya..long/loose dress or hijab..... I just feel its not right...why ....they are just kids for God sake:bored:

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That teaches them good things.
Like covering their body and all.

this was inspired by my thread (http://www.englishsabla.com/forum/showthread.php?p=1052740#post1052740) in Art sabla

now we see little girls and boys trying to act older but not in a good way ,they try to act like people who they see around or on TV, girls wearing tight clothes and lot of makeup shows what they got! little boys walking around in a weird kinda walk *some call it the cool walk* or have those freaky hair cuts and wear like rap singers :bored:


i think its wrong becuase they dont live their childhood and their teenage life they try to copy what older people do or what they see and hear from magazines,TV and movies!


-what do you think about it? do you think is Ok?

-and how you think you can solve such a thing if your kids tried to act older in the wrong way ?


I dont think is right but blame their parents, it is easy to discipline lil girls/boys...actually who is buying them clothes? their parents..may be thats how they wanna them to look.

how to solve is explain to them why they shouldnt wear like that because they wont look good anyway hahaha... I normally tell my kids, u either change ur dress or u r not coming with me:hyper:

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That teaches them good things.
Like covering their body and all. but they are just kids(innocents)...and those dresses are not allowing them to be like kids...too heavy, hot... not neat..they cant even wear the hijab properly...what the purpose? but when they reach right age teach them.

For example my niece (15 yrs) I insist that she should wear properly cover her head... wear abaya...

But my daughter (10 yrs) I normally tell her NO you aint wearing ABAYA/ no need hijab:no:...i know she will one day wear abaya but not now..jeeez

But that teaches them what kind of clothing to wear.
I am not saying MAKE them wear abaya and all.
The abaya and hijab shows them that they have to cover their bodies.
My cousins are 10 and 11 years old but they wear the hijab and not the abaya because they WANT to and because their parents advised them and not FORCED them.

Because of that they never EVER wore a mini skirt and wore all that "hip" clothes that girls wear now.

I don’t know what toxic meant by kids copying elders…

I think kids need to look forward to their future roles as elders… I think kids who practice elderly roles at earlier stages tend to have a better sense of responsibility.

That wont happen with my kids inshallah :) It's all about the parenting...not media.

cool thread, and its so true.
i see my 7 or 10 year old cousins dressing up like rappers, clothes 3 times their actual size, huge sneekers and big caps. And oh dear, those bling bling chains and spinner watches. Its hilarious!! What happened to pokemon card swapping days?! LoL

lol take a look at MY brothers! GOSH! :yuk: well...sometimes they think it's "cool" to dress like a rapper!:os i hate it...but most of the time, they are disciplined to dress like a normal person:XD:

^^ LOL XD i swear parents dont know what to do anymore

^^ LOL XD i swear parents dont know what to do anymore

:no:What u have mentioned is very serious...if parents dont know what to do anymore..Allah istur...

I am defenetly sure how to discipline those lil devils:hyper: if words dont work then I had def. use stick...(khenzran):hyper:

That wont happen with my kids inshallah :) It's all about the parenting...not media.

Sorry but that is wrong.
Parents can teach their children the way to behave and how to wear "sutible" clothes but they might not listen because they see that the people on tv and what they wear is BETTER and more... loose?
So it can effect the kids.

My brothers are different then me but we had the same parents.
So what is different here?
I think the media has a role here.

That wont happen with my kids inshallah :) It's all about the parenting...not media.

not its not just about parenting

its something in everyone.. when we are young we want to look older
and when we are old we want to look younger

but everything has limits.. your kids will want to look like u or like their father or even like someone on TV or at school or even in a mall

we have to tell them and teach them whats wrong and whats right

we can play at home but out side its not allowed to look nothing like ur age!

so yeah its not just the parenting ..

i have seen lot of good parents but their kids still wanna wear like celebrities or their friends!

believe me its not easy! specially with teenagers

^^ LOL XD i swear parents dont know what to do anymore

not true!

u mean calress parents dont know what to do

but real parents who knows how to raise their kids do know what to do!

its not about the parenting its about the whole society