I have been keeping all my anger in me..
I tried to take it out but i can't suppress it later on.
So all I do is keep it in.
It makes me feel....... *have no word to describe it*

And in the end of this feeling is the anger toward my parents!
I feel like killing them, hurting them and making their life hell!
(i know i shouldn't be saying this but to let you know how bad it is...)

How can I make my anger go "woosh" and not go "BOOM" ?!:help:

Get rid of your anger by:

Bocksing

I think it's just a phase you are going thru.

All I can tell you is that when YOU become a parent, you will fell like killing YOURSELF for the grief you caused your parents.

Parents only do what they think is good for you... even though it might not look like that right now.

Get rid of your anger by:

Bocksing
believe it or not... THOUGHT OF THAT! :hyper:
But I might be too hard on the person?! :XD:


I think it's just a phase you are going thru.

All I can tell you is that when YOU become a parent, you will fell like killing YOURSELF for the grief you caused your parents.

Parents only do what they think is good for you... even though it might not look like that right now.

And believe me. I know there will be something I would regret and feel bad about but not a lot.
What they are doing now is TOO much.

That is precisely my point.

Every teenager goes through this phase where he thinks his parents are out to get him, and sincerly believes that his parents have a malicious intention in what they do.

But when you get a little older, you will discover that nothing can be further than the truth.

Your parents would give their lives for you if they had to.

I have been keeping all my anger in me..
I tried to take it out but i can't suppress it later on.
So all I do is keep it in.
It makes me feel....... *have no word to describe it*

And in the end of this feeling is the anger toward my parents!
I feel like killing them, hurting them and making their life hell!(i know i shouldn't be saying this but to let you know how bad it is...)

How can I make my anger go "woosh" and not go "BOOM" ?!:help:

Will this make you feel better ? If yes then do it though am sure the answer is NO. Use your anger to do something good for your life, not necessary destructive anger . Make it constructive.

That is precisely my point.

Every teenager goes through this phase where he thinks his parents are out to get him, and sincerly believes that his parents have a malicious intention in what they do.

But when you get a little older, you will discover that nothing can be further than the truth.

Your parents would give their lives for you if they had to.

Well.... When I see how they treat my brothers and me that doesn't help really...
And I know what you mean!:cute:

Will this make you feel better ? If yes then do it though am sure the answer is NO. Use your anger to do something good for your life, not necessary destructive anger . Make it constructive.

TRYING!
But what?:rolleyes:
I tried to use it for studying... bad idea!
Umm.. tried to calm myself and just walk around and make it leave me... didn't work..
talked to some people.. helped for some time then i was going to lose it so i left them! :os

Maybe i am just messed up!:no:

TRYING!
But what?:rolleyes:
I tried to use it for studying... bad idea!
Umm.. tried to calm myself and just walk around and make it leave me... didn't work..
talked to some people.. helped for some time then i was going to lose it so i left them! :os

Maybe i am just messed up!:no:
can you speak to a professional? don't look down on it, it can really help...someone who'll fully understand you.

can you speak to a professional? don't look down on it, it can really help...someone who'll fully understand you.

I just don't want to explode on anyone..
and I am afraid of that idea..
And at the same time I think they make me "feel" that I have a problem!:os

Not sure if I am right or wrong...
But it is hard for me to explain things face to face...
or even in writing...

I just don't want to explode on anyone..
and I am afraid of that idea..
And at the same time I think they make me "feel" that I have a problem!:os

Not sure if I am right or wrong...
But it is hard for me to explain things face to face...
or even in writing...
if you go to a counsellor, even a student's counsellor at university, they won't think you are a problem, but they will help you direct your anger in a better way. and they won't be judgemental. there is no rights or wrongs. what's wrong is that you are feeling bad and feeling angry and it's eating you up inside. so someone like that might help you let it out and offer solutions.

Seems like u r angry because something is distrubing you. You have solve the problem and it will help. If there is no way out of this issue u r goin through then try to talk to someone about it. Cant trust anyone then create some account , hide your identity, make friends with some strangers online and discuss ur problem with them. Obviously dont take their advice but just talking about your problem will might make u feel better and reduce some of the anger u hold.
What i suggested could soound stupid to other but at least it work for me.

get yourself to the nearest youth psychologist you can find. there's nothing absolutely wrong with you. you only need to talk with someone competent.

^^ I have been telling him to do that for weeks. He doesn't seem to be considering it.

I have the same problem.. am kinda guy who u better f**k off when am angry, otherwise you will be f**ked up!!

But a way to avoid hurting people or my self, is by staying alone for a while, and talking to certain people..
I remember some1 said:
When some1 speaks.. let him talk, and listen to him; it is not that you're being thoughtful and caring by listening to him, it is rather him caring for and about you, and that's why he is openning up to you.
So find these people who you trust and care for... and talk to them.

Don't let it get to the point where it gets extremely dangerous and you might explode. Always try to tackle down the way you feel as soon as possible. If it's too late, I'd always recommend that you talk to someone who you know CARES. It's not enough taking it all out, but I think it's important that you know you've been heard and cared for.

Seems like u r angry because something is distrubing you. You have solve the problem and it will help. If there is no way out of this issue u r goin through then try to talk to someone about it. Cant trust anyone then create some account , hide your identity, make friends with some strangers online and discuss ur problem with them. Obviously dont take their advice but just talking about your problem will might make u feel better and reduce some of the anger u hold.
What i suggested could soound stupid to other but at least it work for me.
Then I can do it here since you all don't know me, right?;)


get yourself to the nearest youth psychologist you can find. there's nothing absolutely wrong with you. you only need to talk with someone competent.

^^ I have been telling him to do that for weeks. He doesn't seem to be considering it.

Believe me.. I really want to.. I am just afraid of it..
I really am...
You don't know how I feel Lym that is why you say that..
I am trying... I just can't let this fear go..
I always reach in front of the door and get stuck!
I can't go in......

Don't let it get to the point where it gets extremely dangerous and you might explode. Always try to tackle down the way you feel as soon as possible. If it's too late, I'd always recommend that you talk to someone who you know CARES. It's not enough taking it all out, but I think it's important that you know you've been heard and cared for.

Who cares?
My family make their words on top of mine.
My friends have enough of me..
They can complain but I can't..
That is why I am trying to know how to take it out in a good way...

Ok... I am angry again.. This time I hate staying home..
I can't say anything here.. I am always wrong and I can't express my feelings.
What should I do?!
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

And there is another reason which is I can't talk about specific things to people because it is either wrong or Islam says it is forbidden.

Can anyone help me on this?
Tell me how to take out my anger!
Drawing is not a solution now because i can't even draw a line when i am mad because i have no mood for it!

Depends on what your nature is. You can go to an empty beach n scream as loud as you can. You can run as fast as you can in any safe place OR you can try push ups.
For some people, anger is like energy, you have to let it out one way or another. If that doesn't work for you, read about techniques that calm you down and try them and see what suits you.

Might try push ups or start singing.. but when i am mad i don't feel like anything..
will try singing and push ups..

Most of us went through that stage of yours. Am 25yrs, and just couple of mounths back, i felt the same, but it wasnt coz of my mom or family,,,, Just bcoz i felt helpless, hopeless, and nasty.

The best thing i did, was to join a gym... anf after gym, 15 mins " walk on beach", you should learn how to breath!!! Yeah learn how to breath... And man, it helped me alot...

gym and me don't work well.. :shy:
That is why i don't go there..

And everyone is different you know? :)

Squinty u seriously need to talk to someone, and you shouldnt feel ashamed or embaressed about it.. I just think it's better that, Than having you commit suicide, Blowing up some school, Or Actually hurting your parents..

I kidd you not, I can actually see you blowing up one day, and It doesnt look pretty!

I agree with other members.. IF u dont wanna talk to somebody about your issues, Than u really need to find something that calm your @ss down, And not be so Angry!

Inshallah everything goes well with you though, And you'll go back to being happy! ;p

Depends on what your nature is. You can go to an empty beach n scream as loud as you can. You can run as fast as you can in any safe place OR you can try push ups.
For some people, anger is like energy, you have to let it out one way or another. If that doesn't work for you, read about techniques that calm you down and try them and see what suits you.

Beleive it or not Braiki, i do that" ofcours when am sure no one is there"

In Addition, i raise the volume of whatever music am listening to , and just drive safely.. try that to, it dose help.

J'adore... You seem more angry than me! :XD:
I will try to talk to someone about it..
and i will follow the advices i have in this thread and in time inshallah i will get better :cute:

LOOOOL!!!

Nah, I'm Gewwd Dont worry.. ;p
I think I just watched enough Documentaries on kids who were upset or angry and retaliated back in a Freaky Waaay!!

I'm tryna Save you, thats All :D Lool

& again inshallah you get better`

SAy it loud: AM HAPPY, I LIVE ONLY ONCE< SO I WILL LIVE HAPPY!!! repeat it all the way long, you ll feel better, inshallah...

Can anyone help me on this?
Tell me how to take out my anger!



Squinty, I and all members who posted here genuinely want to help you. So to make it easier for all of us, maybe as a start, if you can list down the things that really upset you and make you angry, we can then take it step by step and try to guide you into calming you down. You sound like a bright kid, so dont let your anger take over you.

When I was 18 I remember I became so angry with my mother....feeling she treated me like a child and so I didn't write or call for almost 3 months. She got so worried she called the American Red Cross and I received the longest and severest tongue lashing anyone at that age could receive from a superior (First Sergeant)....and was made to write a letter to her and send it off. Years later I feel bad for treating my mother that way....though parents feel in their heart their intentions are for the best when we are young we think otherwise. But we only have one set of parents....if you cannot sit and talk to them one on one like an adult the best thing as Mini said is to talk to a counselor. They are paid to listen and they have the necessary skills and education to help guide you into a healthy alternative.....The point of all this rambling........there are always choices out there to choose from...don't think you reached the end of your rope....there's always a safety net to catch you when you fall.

alright markov.. will do!

1. my parents saying what is good and bad for my life and doing whatever they want without consulting me (it is my life after all, right?)

2. my brother treats me like... garbage? and acts all high and mighty and my parents are not saying anything to him but when i do they shut me up.. (is it wrong to want my brother to be good and respectful?!)

3. People from my family talk about me and keep saying bad things about me and yes it annoys me since a part of my family let me do things when it comes to their family buy when i do it with my other family they get upset and start talking.

4. my head is not as good as it used to be really.. i would say all because of hormones and i am working on that most of the time and for some reason i feel tired when i deal with it and hold it in...


If I can think of anything else I will tell you all..

Wriite..Write everything down, it'll look simpler than you might think, When I'm angryI b*tch.. Noone can stop you from B*tching, my parents can take everything away from me except b*tching, and oh I'm good at it..
Or just let it go, learn how to let it go and say WHATEVER, I used to care what people think of me but now I'm like who cares! Why should I? It's only going to get me thinking and going to make me feel bad and so on..And you don't deserve that..Try to think of something else once something is bothering you as well..

Work out in the gym , then take a deep hot bath.
working out is one the best way to release your anger inner struggle !! yeah Take Heavy weight and scream out loud with PURE ENERGY OF HATRED AND AGONY !!

Have u ever been abused in any ways when u were younger?

Squinty did u ever try like maybe doing something that would make u happy? like get a gf or something

just think of the good not the bad


but im pretty sure its just a phase

Boy...the only thing to use the anger is simple, drink a soldier pill with avogadro's shake.
and get a chick or two to relase your anger on them =). thats asolution.

the next one is to kill your self suffocating in the toilet, thats another.

third one is to follow what the people tell you and hit a doctor.

Wriite..Write everything down, it'll look simpler than you might think, When I'm angryI b*tch.. Noone can stop you from B*tching, my parents can take everything away from me except b*tching, and oh I'm good at it..
Or just let it go, learn how to let it go and say WHATEVER, I used to care what people think of me but now I'm like who cares! Why should I? It's only going to get me thinking and going to make me feel bad and so on..And you don't deserve that..Try to think of something else once something is bothering you as well..
If I never did that and never want to do that! :XD:
It seems like no one can calm your storm! :p
Hmm when I get angry I do shout and all but it gets worse...
So I am thinking of other ways?


Work out in the gym , then take a deep hot bath.
working out is one the best way to release your anger inner struggle !! yeah Take Heavy weight and scream out loud with PURE ENERGY OF HATRED AND AGONY !!
Umm.. me and gym do NOT work together.. but if nothing works then i will do it! :)

Have u ever been abused in any ways when u were younger?
yes i was.. they made me bunjee jump when i was 3 years old! :hyper:


Squinty did u ever try like maybe doing something that would make u happy? like get a gf or something

just think of the good not the bad


but im pretty sure its just a phase
I am following Islam.. Yes it is hard to be 100% right but I don't want to have a gf because it will make things worse now since I am sure everything we will do is wrong...

And I do think of the good but when things like that happen it is not easy to go like "hey.. you are bad.. GO AWAY! I will only think of good! :love:" Don't you think?! :)


Boy...the only thing to use the anger is simple, drink a soldier pill with avogadro's shake.
and get a chick or two to relase your anger on them =). thats asolution.

the next one is to kill your self suffocating in the toilet, thats another.

third one is to follow what the people tell you and hit a doctor.

I might go for number 3...:rolleyes:

^Squinty: you have been turning down every solution suggested :os.
Then what do you wanna do instead? :os

^ he said he's goin to c a doctor.
But let me tell you something squinty.. if u r tryin to c a doctor just to talk and express your feelings, then shall it be.. but it wont help u overcoming the issue.
If you really want help, then you will have to go there willing to discuss the issue and accepting some of wht your doctor will tell u.
I have gone through this, and i got help needed.. so am talkin frm exp.

^Squinty: you have been turning down every solution suggested :os.
Then what do you wanna do instead? :os
i am not.. :os
i hate going to to the gym but i said i MIGHT do it if it is the only way..
I don't want a gf because it is against Islam rules (you want me to not follow my religion?)
And someone said talk to someone i trust and can listen to me.. i am doing that.. i am getting better but there was some anger left..


^ he said he's goin to c a doctor.
But let me tell you something squinty.. if u r tryin to c a doctor just to talk and express your feelings, then shall it be.. but it wont help u overcoming the issue.
If you really want help, then you will have to go there willing to discuss the issue and accepting some of wht your doctor will tell u.
I have gone through this, and i got help needed.. so am talkin frm exp.
I know doctors might do that or say things i don't like but i am ready for that.. :cute:

^ Ofcourse ... but at the same time u might try to negotiate something out.. its always good to have some input from the patient for a better outcome.
so share .. comment.. ask.. bt if the doctor says thts his opinion n nthng cround it.. then be sure tht its the best he/she could do.

alright thanks :)

2. my brother treats me like... garbage? and acts all high and mighty and my parents are not saying anything to him but when i do they shut me up.. (is it wrong to want my brother to be good and respectful?!)

I feel you for you in this one .. sucks doesn't it?

Yeah especially when your voice is never heard. :)

SQuity really my advice to you is Gym, i know ppl are diffrenet, bs you have a try, you will love the place, it will disconnect you from all" bad feelings" you have;)

OK, lets take this one by one.



1. my parents saying what is good and bad for my life and doing whatever they want without consulting me (it is my life after all, right?)
You see, there is a difference of one generation between you and your parents. This is very common for the parents to see things differently than their kids. When a kid hits teenage years, it becomes very disturbing becaus they feel restricted, they want to grow up, see the world, explore, where parents want to be protective, and keep the kids safe. The safest way is for both the parents and the kids to maintain balance, but unfortunately with Arab parents this wont work.

Solution: Try to understand their point of view, be in their shoes, gain trust. Am sure there are things you do they disapprove of, not sure what it is. But it cud be, not doing well in school, or coming home late at night, or having friends they disapprove of, or anything of that sort. The safest way is to reduce what they dont like, in order to gain their trust, once they trust you, you can then talk over and explain your resoning. But trust me, going head to head will not achieve the desired results, and make you more angry.


2. my brother treats me like... garbage? and acts all high and mighty and my parents are not saying anything to him but when i do they shut me up.. (is it wrong to want my brother to be good and respectful?!)

Is he younger or older, if he is older, just keep your distance for a while. If he is younger, you definitel deserve respect from him. But if you handle point 1 above well, your parents will trust you and hence help you deal with your brother. I suggest this is now a secondary issue, so just leave it alone.


3. People from my family talk about me and keep saying bad things about me and yes it annoys me since a part of my family let me do things when it comes to their family buy when i do it with my other family they get upset and start talking.


Squinty, whatever you do in this life, no matter how good ti is, you will have ppl criticise you, and you will have others praise you. So just ignore those who talk you down and try to hang around with family members you are confortable with. Those you dont like, still show them love and interest, they will finally come back. I know its not easy, but it can be done.


4. my head is not as good as it used to be really.. i would say all because of hormones and i am working on that most of the time and for some reason i feel tired when i deal with it and hold it in...

Not sure what you mean here, I understand it as sex hormones. You just need to curb your sexual urge by occupying yourself full time. For example, have a timetable of things to be done and check it on daily basis. You need to get your full day occupied, that way all polluted thoughts will evaporate. Some suggestions will be: Take extra classes, have long walks on the beach, and another more useful activity is join a charity club, to help the poor and the needy, there are plenty of charities in Oman.


You can use this month of Ramadhan to transform yourself. For example, target to finish quran 3 times, make sure you pray 5 times at the mosque, do not miss traweeh, qiyam laya.

I hope this helps, am not a psychologist, just your average Joe. But some of the suggestions here might help you.

All the best and let me know how it goes.

Yeah especially when your voice is never heard. :)

Just ignore them.

Yeah especially when your voice is never heard. :)
squinty, dear, bear with it....ignore it, find ways to deal with it.....find a creative way to unleash your anger and don't let them beat you down. be strong from the inside, repeat to yourself 'nothing hurts, i will rise above this'. always think of the fact that in a few years time you'll have a life of your own, independent...and there's pretty little much they can do about it. ;)

Rosso and minerva... i have been ignoring them a LOT! :XD:
But it seems they keep on doing what they want in front of my face.
seriously, it started disturbing me..
But I understand what you both are saying! :D

markov.. WOW!
You wrote a lot! :p
You are absolutely right about everything you wrote!
However, about the 1st thing you wrote about gaining my parents trust?
They do trust me but they never listen to me... As in no matter how much i prove to them something or show them what is wrong and I hate this or that. I am never heard.
But I will do everything you said.
Thanks a lot! :D

Squints, let your hormones out before your pencil explodes. Or you brain.

Squints, let your hormones out before your pencil explodes. Or you brain.

GOD! I am sooooo glad I'm a woman!