I had to tell someone close to me that they are an alcoholic.

Man, this is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life but feel it is necessary. I have a friend who abuses alcohol. He drinks every day after work and on the weekends (his drink of choice is diet coke with rum). He has to have this cocktail in his hand it seems all the time. Life cannot be so hard and terrible that you have to numb yourself to its beauty to want to forever be in a haze. Yeah we have our hard meoments but crap. :angry:

So, as a friend I had to let him know he has an issue. Course he denies it.

What has been the hardest thing you had to tell someone?

I dont say alcoholic..but I said "I think your drink too much..dont you think so?"

I dont say what you did was stupid...I said "I dont think it was a smart move...right?"

I dont say you are lazy...I said "I think you need to invest more time on what you are doing"

....

I am happy the way I am as long as those people are not my children or my subordinates at work... :)

What has been the hardest thing you had to tell someone?That I had lied to them. Not going to go into deatils but that's the hardest thing I've ever had to tell someone.

You're friend does seem to have a problem that I'm very famaliar with. He will have to hit "his" bottom before he even attempts to stop this. All bottoms are different. It may be the lose of his job, or a loved one or both. He may have to really hit skid row before changing and the horrible thing about this is he may never change!

This guy, (and it makes me mad to think about it)....cannot see he is an alcoholic. How can a person NOT see it. Everyone has stress. Even I do. He said he used to drink more than he does now. But man....to have to have a drink when you come home from work and then on the weekends have that rum and coke filled up the whole day???? He would sometimes call late at night and I would know he was hammered. When I tell him about the conversation we had he says he doesn't remember some of it. I am like WTF?

And I have known this person for close to 2 months. I was stupid enough to get in the car with him and he had a huge glass filled with Rum and Coke...and I mean filled to the top. That is when I realized he has some major issues. I was slow I admit or maybe in denial myself but I knew I could not continue to let him get away with such behavior. Obviously other friends or family don't care or he simply doesn't care what they think since he still does it.

HOW can someone be this way? He makes good money, he has a great son who does well in sports. WHY is he throwing it down the toliet for temporary relief????

To tell the truth to someone...
Because before I used to lie my way out of everything..
Until one day I wanted to be good and tell the truth because I knew the road I was taking was wrong...
It took me like... 1 week...
It hurts until now when I think of it..

Man, telling the truth DOES hurt but letting a lie continue (esp. the big ones) or being in denial hurts worse later because memories are involved, feelings, betrayal, closeted skeletons etc.....the bravest thing anyone can do is tell the truth esp. when a person's life depends upon it.

If its hard for my to hear it i dont think i want that person to go through the samething well atleast i dont them finding out from me...

I once had to go and tell a man in prison (who was innocent, and released a while later) that his wife had given birth prematurely to their twin sons, and one had died. The next day I had to go back and tell him the other had died.

That was a tough thing to have to tell someone. But you know what he said? Once he regained his composure he told me "wow...it must have been really hard to come and tell me that..thank you, I'm glad it was from you". Some people are amazing at the worst times in their life...

When my father found out I had a "boyfriend" and had to explain everything to him!!!!!! That was the worst by far.

when i had to tell my brother that our dad -god bless his soul- passed away

to tell an employee that she was fired ! it was the 1st time i ever do this.....am used to it now:P

-When I told my young cousins that their father died.
-When I broke someone's heart- someone who is special to me till this day.

Thanks for sharing guys. I know this stuff is hard. With me I had to talk to my dad about his health and finances. I always remembered him being this big bear of a guy...no one and nothing could affect him and to see him weak was hard. He has several health issues and when he lied to me about something I had to confront him on that and trust me that was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.

The toughest 2 things I've had to tell someone are too personal to put down in here.
One concerned an event in my past, and one was something I did behind someone's back.

Seeing their reaction doesn't help. In the end, you gotta do what you gotta do.

when i had to tell my parents i flunked

The hardest thing that i ever had tell was to my dad when i didnt get my g2 the second time when i went for the test

Well, my friend and I worked things out and he admits he has an issue and will seek help.

i had once to tell a friend of mine u r a lier...
and i was series
it was so hard to tell him such a thing like that
but i had to
because i iove the best for him
so i said that so he do it the right way...

when i had to tell my dear friend: im sorry i didnt know ur father died a year ago...

When i had to tell my mother that my grandfather passed away.
It was by far the most challenging thing i have ever faced. I still get nervous thinking about the whole situation.

When my parents find out i did something wrong and i have to confess

So far the worst was me fluking math last year :s

Well, my friend and I worked things out and he admits he has an issue and will seek help.
that's good news marianna.. :)

He has a good friend in you. I'm sure you only want what's best for him..

When I had to lie to mom about couple of things, maybe more.

that's good news marianna.. :)

He has a good friend in you. I'm sure you only want what's best for him..


Thanks Thalia. I just feel life is too precious to numb it...the problems are still there.

When I was a kid I remember the hardest thing I had to tell my mom was that I broke something of hers. Now if things could be that much simpler! :no::cry:

To my close friend: Sorry your make-up made you look 10 years older on your wedding!

WOW! But you know what makeup CAN do that if applied too heavily. Also with older women they say not to put make up on too heavy, instead go lighter. We were talking about weddings and makeup just today here at work with some of my teammates.