Will you raise your chidren the same way you were raised? if no, what will you do differently?

90% yes.. :)

I think we all tend to pick out the little bits we think our parents did wrong with us and try our best to not do that with our kids.

^^ she said it all :yes:

I think we all tend to pick out the little bits we think our parents did wrong with us and try our best to not do that with our kids.

Same here :)

riiiiiiight on thalia!!!!!!!!

first of all everthing has changed. what was in the past will not work now :) so rising a child is totaly deffirent then be4 :)

Not a chance i will raise my kid differently!

I will make him strong and open minded i want him\her to come up to me and tell me wht's wrong when there sad i want my kid to tell me bout there iner feelings i want to know who my daughter's falling in love with i wont be harsh i will just tell her to wait its a bit too early and all that

I want to be there friend not parent nor enemy ..I just wish my parents were like that :D

i hope so :P

exactly wut thalia said we pick the right stuff and leave the wrong
but thank god most of the things my parents did were right so ya i'll try to raise my kids the way i was raised :cute:

i'll plant the same principles my parent did in me but i'll do it a bit differently

I am more receptive of listening to my kid's problems and trying to find a common sense (logical) solution for them plus help guide them to make the right decisions for whatever problems are out there.

a parent should be a parent not a friend.
a friendly parent, who's open but always should be a point of reference. always disciplined and consistent with the child..which does not mean harsh. children have their peers to be friends with..they need an adult figure to teach them respect and love.
and a good listener, who has time to talk to the kids daily.

a parent should be a parent not a friend.
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can't be both? a parent and a friend at the same time

I think they SHOULD be both i mean i want my kid to love me not just respect me i want him\her to open up with me freely without being afraid

can't be both? a parent and a friend at the same time
depends what you mean by a 'friend'...
i don't like mums who dress like their kids and try to hang out with them and their friends and all of a sudden start liking their kids music...
but as to a kid who can open up and talk to a parent freely about anything...well that's a parent isn't it?

Lol i dont think we meant ''to be like our kids'' but we just want them to tell us everything without having 2nd thoughts..

To me a parent is a person who loves you and wants you to respect them and you cant tell them everything cause they always want whats good for you ..

depends what you mean by a 'friend'...
i don't like mums who dress like their kids and try to hang out with them and their friends and all of a sudden start liking their kids music...but as to a kid who can open up and talk to a parent freely about anything...well that's a parent isn't it?

no not this one Lol

Lol i dont think we meant ''to be like our kids'' but we just want them to tell us everything without having 2nd thoughts..

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This one :yes:


i mean when you deal with your kids deal with them as grown ups no matter how old they are ( this is a friend ) and when you advise them be strict sometimes when it requires ( this is a parent ).

there is no shame parents play with their kids and watch cartoon with them but not to act like them. i know a father who wrestle with his kids and they always beat him up lol and he plays football with them though he sucks in it and when they go outside he treats them as they are in his age. and they madly love and respect him when it comes to serious stuff.

this is the kind of parent i want to be

^Mee tooo !:D

no not this one Lol



This one :yes:


i mean when you deal with your kids deal with them as grown ups no matter how old they are ( this is a friend ) and when you advise them be strict sometimes when it requires ( this is a parent ).

there is no shame parents play with their kids and watch cartoon with them but not to act like them. i know a father who wrestle with his kids and they always beat him up lol and he plays football with them though he sucks in it and when they go outside he treats them as they are in his age. and they madly love and respect him when it comes to serious stuff.

this is the kind of parent i want to be

that's being a parent no? maybe my definition of parenthood includes your definition of friend. what i wanted to say is being a friend does not mean trying to enter and be part of their youth culture.

I'll raise them just the way I was raised :cute: lot's of love and nurture and letting them be who they are, but to a limit :p hey! I am the parent! :p

^a7laaaaaaaaaaaaa..you'll have the powa (power):XD:

I wish I could raise them the way my parents raised me .. I understand they were a bit strict compared to some parents around but I think it was for my benefit at the end.

^ you have a point there.

Will you raise your chidren the same way you were raised? if no, what will you do differently?


sorry but i didn't get it clear ... did u mean the principles we have been tought or the ways of rising ??? :rolleyes:

^dokom...the principles and way of teaching are the same thing..lol..that's what i mean...la tiglis tetsakhaf! (dont be rediculous):XD: OMG ROFL
i mean, they way you were raised and taught...will you do the same with your children?

What about you AE? How are you gonna do it?

I think we all tend to pick out the little bits we think our parents did wrong with us and try our best to not do that with our kids.

^^ Ditto.;)

wolf doll: there are a few things i'd do the same..and a few things i would change...for sure;)

I will make my child a slave and force him to do my will in every unfair way. I will lack all understanding and compassion and even complain when he doesn't make his bed. I will torture him by denying him the fun that every single other kid in the whole world gets to do except him. I will do totally unreasonable things and force him to yell at me and then PUNISH him!

Well, that's his version anyway... :p

^you might as well not have children then :XD:

I don't have children so anything I say I will do now is speculation and assumption. I guess I'll know what to do when the time comes, but one thing I know is that I'm not going to be a very easy going parent.

Angel Eyes:

Billy would agree with you sometimes! :p

Of course, then sometimes he sees it differently:

"You're the best Dad in the world!"

(I guess all the others must be REALLY horrible then, right? :p )

nabhan: wabooooooooooooook :omg: oh dear lord i pray that nabhan has mercy oh his children :os what do you mean by "not easy going"? you will be strict?:os
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jeff: yep :yes:

of course the same, i want them to turn out as wonderful as i turned out to be :p

well, there are things i hated as a kid and now appreciate.
sometimes you just don't see the good in things you think are absolutely horrible.
but i agree with Thalia, you basically look back at they way you've been raised, and look for the weeds you need to pull.