Do you really believe that opposites attract??? :think:

most of the time (of what i see and hear), people like to be with people they have a lot in common with. So what do you think?

would you like to be with someone whom you have quite a lot in common with? or would you like someone somewhat the opposite for you?

for example, if a woman is very spontaneous, would she be better off with someone who is very calm and not enthusiastic about adventure or whatever??

Beliefs, principals and your visions in life is what you should both have in common. Your interests to some extent can be as diverse as black and white. It would be nice to have an interest or two in common, but you should not share everything because that would be boring, and you should not be exactly opposite because you won't get to enjoy any of your interests with your partner which otherwise would be a great way to spend quality time together. I guess as everything in life, it should be a balance of the two.

I would want my partner to be adventurous and into camping, because I love those kinds of trips and I know it is something we would have fun doing together. Lets say, if I am into history, he does not have to be. He can be into cars and bikes, but I don't have to be. This is the diversity I am talking about that might spice up my life. He can teach you what does the term horse power mean, and I might teach him something about his Majesty dynasty throughout history.

But the foundation and the fundamental part of marriage is something you should both agree on and see eye to eye on. Other things if in right dosages will only help spice up your life and give you more things to do by yourself (if you are in need of your space), and sometimes in educating your spouse, and you never know, they might just turn out to be interested which is never a bad thing.

yup, am clumsy and reckless but i want my girl to be rational and umm clumsy too :D

Do you really believe that opposites attract??? :think:



My wife and I have nothing in common. We both have different upbringing, different mentality, different everything, but we are truly attracted to each other, so yes, in some cases.

Doesn't matter whether your the same or different.
The right person is the right person, not really your choice :p.

this rule doesnt apply in everything :)

there r some stuff that must be common, like Lym said: values and beliefs ...

Well, I think opposites can attract after all my Omani ex and I were together 8 years. He Muslim and I Christian. We both came from different cultures and backgrounds and that lasted a long long time. Now, at the same time though such opposite issues CAN tear a couple apart so is best to have more similarities in regards to core issues in a relationship and NOT let hormones or lust override common sense. With my ex and I it wasn't hormones but a variety of factors that kept us together but I do know of couples staying together because they feel the sparks will continue to fly romantically but in the end such sparks end up being those of anger and not romance.

Being very different is exciting because everything is a little mystery, everything is like a book you're going to read and explore the pages of.

But once you've read that book, and the excitement dies, what? Then the differences become obstacles. They become problems. And life is hard enough as it is.

My 2c.

Being very different is exciting because everything is a little mystery, everything is like a book you're going to read and explore the pages of.

But once you've read that book, and the excitement dies, what? Then the differences become obstacles. They become problems. And life is hard enough as it is.

My 2c.

This is the most logical answer I've read in this thread. I'd rather be with someone I have things in common with because I know for a fact that having nothing in common with someone whether it was a friend or a partner usually results in conflicts and problems.

True, a little mystery, a little chase is exciting but in the end can you live just off of that?

Being very different is exciting because everything is a little mystery, everything is like a book you're going to read and explore the pages of.

But once you've read that book, and the excitement dies, what? Then the differences become obstacles. They become problems. And life is hard enough as it is.

My 2c.

This is also true to some extent, bec I have seen marriages torn apart due to differences

I love all your answers...Especially Lym's and Thalia's. I have to agree with both of you.