For those who are not married:

when you get married, how long do you want to wait before you have children? or do you want right away?

For those who ARE married:

How long did you wait before having kids? did you have them right away?

Me=Soon

Imma make him wait 2 or 3 or maybe even 4 years lol

^but what will you do if HE wants them sooner?:think:

^ oh TRUST me.. Ive been told by family especially from my dad, that im gonna be the women of the house LOOOOOL

Depends. If i get married im my early 20's then 3yrs. If i get married when i'm older then 1.5-2 yrs

I agree with Superfreak...depends on which age I get married at

juju: looooooooooooooooool! you GO GIRL :hyper: awesome!
superfreak: define "older" . :think:

I agree with Superfreak...depends on which age I get married at

interesting :hmm:

Thats It Girls ! We Must Rule From Now On !!!!!!
Just stare into your husbands eyes and say it.. saaaay it...
BABY?! I DONT WANT BABIES ..NO MO NO MO NO MO NO MO <- u dunt have to say that... but say BABY?! u no u alwayz on ma mind:D y ruin the fun ? LOOOOol..
ima seriously not okay today.. ill leave now...

juju: looooooooooooooooool! you GO GIRL :hyper: awesome!
superfreak: define "older" . :think:

23+ is older to me.

juju, i think that is one of your funniest posts yet! :XD:

superfreak: i see:)

me not married. when married gona ask wife, from now my own guess is wait 2 years after marriage den bring em on!

^sounds good :)

but lets c wat the wife will be planning, have to obey like JuJu says lol, thinking about having kids makes me think I'm Old for some reason, but when i play wid my lil nephews n neices, its fun, duno if i would do that till they grow up!

yes...if you want to live happy, keep your wifey happy, and the only way to make her happy is to always say, "yes dear" :XD: (as Dr. Phil says)<my friend :XD:

Moved from General Sabla

Ana oreed, wa anta tureed wa allah yaf3al ma yureed (I want, and you want but Allah does what he wants).

when me baby squinty get married.. me work maybe for 2 years then baby come?! :p

True AP, but if you had the choice, when would you have wanted to have babies?

I think you need enough time to know that you are in a stable marriage, financially and emotionally; that you as parents are comfortable and compatible enough to raise a family. Also, if you can afford to have children. I think it would suck if you know you and your husband are not likely to make it, and then you get pregnant. This might make the wife or husband stay in the marriage only for the children, which I don't think is the right idea of marriage. So ideally, I think getting pregnant after 2 years should be enough to achieve all the above.

I wanted to wait two years, but I didnt really do something about it. Allah gave me 5 years and I am not regretting it :)

My life is very limited .. so i would always want to see my own child .. so i guess it wouldn't be very late after marriage ..

^that sounds like something a guy would say..hehe
most of the women want to wait and the guys want right away.

Probably 2-3 years

most of the women want to wait and the guys want right away.

Actually, I want one as soon as possible - I :heart: kids . However, I know the most reasonable and right thing to do is wait after marriage as I mentioned before.

i wana wait at least one year to have our time together before i got dumped for the kids Lol

^that sounds like something a guy would say..hehe
most of the women want to wait and the guys want right away.

The ones that wants to have kids right away doesn't necessary mean that they don't want to have sex .. because there is birth control this days .. but I am guessing they just want to see their kids ..

For me personally .. I would rather wait so I can settle with a women first than trying to settle with a women and her child .. I believe its a big responsibility .. But as i said before .. I cant

4-5 years max, I don't want my love life intruded with kids right away :bored:

Kids are a blessing from God, don't wait, start working on it straight away...

Kids are a blessing from God, don't wait, start working on it straight away...

But you need to think how to take care of them and you BOTH have to be ready for it and not just DO IT...

i'd say 2-3 years

wanna get along well with my wife, and enjoy, then take this responsibility :)

i won't be reddiculas so i'd say 1 year :p
honestly? it depends on my mood
right now am LOVING kids :love:
ask me later i'll b like i wana wait 2-3 years :p

i love kids so much, QuEeN...
But i am thinking of my future wife really..
if it was me.. and i can afford everything for the kids.. i would want them immediately!

No matter how my plan is, in the end I know it's going to be in his hands.















His hands=God's.

I do not care about the first one, when it comes. The second one we have to plan for it, I hope so.

lol, u don't care bout the first one? so u gona go wild after marriage, YAY!!

who's the one who's gonna give birth... you or him? :p

I personally think both need to be ready for a kid and both need to want it.

Thats It Girls ! We Must Rule From Now On !!!!!!
Just stare into your husbands eyes and say it.. saaaay it...
BABY?! I DONT WANT BABIES ..NO MO NO MO NO MO NO MO <- u dunt have to say that... but say BABY?! u no u alwayz on ma mind:D y ruin the fun ? LOOOOol..
ima seriously not okay today.. ill leave now...

LMAO JUJU im dying OMG im tryin to study lool :XD::XD::XD: lmao "pants" :D

right on tee and wolf doll! :hyper:

who's the one who's gonna give birth... you or him? :p

I personally think both need to be ready for a kid and both need to want it.

I would say you are right but mostly the girl has to be ready.. that is my opinion.. Since she has to suffer and go through a lot...

^perfect! well said. :) You'r wife will LOVE YOU:D

I'm married, but too young to be popping out kids anytime soon. I'd want to wait about 5years before I seriously consider the idea of kids.

^perfect! well said. :) You'r wife will LOVE YOU:D

That doesn't make my life LOVE me more! :p
I just believe most of this should be thought and done by the wife..
Because the husband will not suffer as much as her...:yes:
So... That is why even if i wanted a kid now i will let her decide!:cute:

I'm married, but too young to be popping out kids anytime soon. I'd want to wait about 5years before I seriously consider the idea of kids.
That's a very good plan, if I may say so. :yes:

A lot of people say that they will wait for financial reasons. But I was thinking of something I heard recently: My neighbour Ali was talking about this, because he had children at difficult times financially, and it all worked out well. His theory is that if you are down on your luck and you have another child, then the child brings his own "baraka"...Allah will give you something - not for you, but for the child's needs...! Anyway, it seems to have worked for him...

^^^ yah i believe that's somehow true

and many told me the same...

mimosa, very true :yes: children ARE indeed a blessing..i cant wait to have my own but for me, i'd like to wait max 1 year..and no sooner than 6 months..i want to enjoy life with my husband before the kids come into the picture. I just love kids to death and i know that i will be a great mother. (btw, these are not subluminal messages):XD: i'm just curious to see how YOU all think and if you think like how i think you think.

I want to have fun with my hubby for at least 3 years :D

I dont want babies there to much trouble :p..One baby is enough for him (talking bout myself :p)

A lot of people say that they will wait for financial reasons. But I was thinking of something I heard recently: My neighbour Ali was talking about this, because he had children at difficult times financially, and it all worked out well. His theory is that if you are down on your luck and you have another child, then the child brings his own "baraka"...Allah will give you something - not for you, but for the child's needs...! Anyway, it seems to have worked for him...
So by the 8th or 9th, one should give up waiting for that baraka I guess.. :hyper:

Ten is a nice round number, Fungus...get to it.


Evil Eyes...yeah, bring it on...I'm not scared :p :hyper:

I suddenly am having great difficulty counting past 2.

You inbred Maltese...take your shoes off....

haha i think her two like my two are more than enough. you don't want to be in the same room when those four girls are together :D

*tries not to think of scenarios where he's in a room with four girls...astaghfirullah astaghfirullah astaghfirullah....*

.........I would like to wait for 1 year...then think about having a family with a maximum number of 6............3 girls and 3 boys.............:)

............Although, its better to wait for a year just to make sure of your choice of the husband.........before any problems and having to find your way to your family's home..........with your divorce paper in your hand............:s

..........No kids + divorce = good situation to remarry..........kids + divorce = big problem and no escape..........kids + no divorce = good...........no kids + no divorce = depressing.................:bored:

^divorce should be the LAST LAST resort!

mimosa??? excuse me? LOOOL..you're not scared? bring it on? what are you getting at? :6:

^^^^...nowdays is the first thing a new bride will hear........

It really depends... if I get married right after graduating from university, when I'm not COMPLETELY dependent and still not financially stable, I guess I will choose to have kids after 3 or 4 years at least, when I'm sure that I am financially stable and I can raise my own children in the same way/atmosphere I have been raised in, or at least something close to it. But if I marry after graduating by a couple of years when I'm completely dependent and financially stable then I don't think there would be any problems if I had kids the next year of marriage. Either way, as Arabian Princess said, ana oreed w anta toreed w Allah yaf3al ma yoreed. So it's all in Allah's hands.

farasha: HOLY.... :omg:

good answer Amjad:yes: now THAT'S the way to think and plan :yes:

AE..........just recently i was told of a girl i knew..........that she got divorced..........after ONE WEEK of her marriage..............cause she did not know how to cook....................:no:

^ you have GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! :omg: :omg: :omg:
that's ****ing rediculous! :angry: that PISSES ME OFF! divorce should not even be on your mind UNLESS there is NO ABSOLUTE solution to fix the marriage!!
THIS IS just pathetic and sad! what is wrong with people?!
well, THANK GOD i know how to cook:bored:

^ you have GOT TO BE KIDDING ME! :omg: :omg: :omg:
that's ****ing rediculous! :angry: that PISSES ME OFF! divorce should not even be on your mind UNLESS there is NO ABSOLUTE solution to fix the marriage!!
THIS IS just pathetic and sad! what is wrong with people?!
well, THANK GOD i know how to cook:bored:

.....check my thread "divorce in one week".........:)

.....it ain't no joke.......:(