Ok.. seriously people..

If someone you loved so much and cared about came to you 1 day and just said "I have been raped..." or "I was raped when I was young..."

What will you do?

From what I hear, some people never get over it and they expect you to be there for them and "cure" them from it.

What would you do at that stage?
How would you feel knowing that?

I have tried to make things better for some of the people that got raped... Can't say I made things PERFECT but I think I did ok?

I just need advice... At times I think it is too much for me to handle...


P.S: Police and authority have been told about this in most cases

woaaah... ive never been in that situation before.. but if i was i would try to be there when they need me, talk to them alot and just give them advise and whatever.. idunno this never happend before

thanks for answering anyway.. :)

But to make you feel better, I did exactly what you just said!
But at times... it is not easy... you just feel you can do more but you feel stuck...
until this day.. at times i think about them.. and wish they don't think much about it..

Freaky...
That's quite a sensitive issue dude...I dont really know since I've never been in such a situation and would hate to give you the wrong advice. I guess the only thing is to be there for them and listen to them whenever they wanna talk. I don't really think you can quite cure them since rape will leave a person scarred for life, but atleast be there when they wanna talk...

i am always there.. i think.. hope so!
But i always tell them if they need anything i am there for them!

hope it gave its affect..

Just be there. That's all.

Most of the time, people just need someone who'll listen to them and someone's shoulder to cry on. It helps alot more than anything you could say.

Just be there. That's all.

Most of the time, people just need someone who'll listen to them and someone's shoulder to cry on. It helps alot more than anything you could say.

Just what i was going to say.

^ most of the people who'd actually tell you about this, just want to let it off their chests.

i've been there twice, and i just listened.

the people who told u this trust u, da best thing not to tell anyone. these might be hints of hittin on u as well u kno! be safe kiddo!

man! this is a movie situation! I would try to calm the person down, make em feel at home and safe, make them smile and happy, crack some jokes when i see. dont make em feel like ur pitying them. just be a friend and be there!

be as u are .. dont change or treat them different .. coz they wont like it

i have been there... when the person told me .. i was shocked but i always try to put myself in that person place,, and ask myself what would make me feel better in general?! and i try to listen and then try to make them feel better about themselves coz they didnt do anything wrong,they have been victims ,and its something from the past ,why we have to look at it again and again

anyway hope u feel better

I would have that intention of hunting down the bast***s that did that...and beating him up....LITERALLY! :angry:
i would stay with that person who was hurt..i will be with them and try to help them as much as possible..Make them recover in the way that i know how.
That is just so sad and a heartache...i cant handle things like that:shy:

^ most of the people who'd actually tell you about this, just want to let it off their chests.

i've been there twice, and i just listened.

I do listen... :cute:
and try to talk to them about it to make them know i know what is going on..

the people who told u this trust u, da best thing not to tell anyone. these might be hints of hittin on u as well u kno! be safe kiddo!

man! this is a movie situation! I would try to calm the person down, make em feel at home and safe, make them smile and happy, crack some jokes when i see. dont make em feel like ur pitying them. just be a friend and be there!

making jokes at times will make them feel like i don't care but i know what you mean.. i do all that... let us say it doesn't work always...

be as u are .. dont change or treat them different .. coz they wont like it

i have been there... when the person told me .. i was shocked but i always try to put myself in that person place,, and ask myself what would make me feel better in general?! and i try to listen and then try to make them feel better about themselves coz they didnt do anything wrong,they have been victims ,and its something from the past ,why we have to look at it again and again

anyway hope u feel better

I am me... but i just get more quiet and afraid that i might say something wrong and they will feel worse...
They keep remembering it because theya re afraid of it and they wish it never happened... but we have to try and make them live their life and forget it if it is the best way to live...

I would have that intention of hunting down the bast***s that did that...and beating him up....LITERALLY! :angry:
i would stay with that person who was hurt..i will be with them and try to help them as much as possible..Make them recover in the way that i know how.
That is just so sad and a heartache...i cant handle things like that:shy:

Believe it or not... I thought of killing them for what they have did but people change... i am not saying they deserve to live and i am not saying they desreve to not die.. it is complicated when it comes to this sometimes...
but when it came to me i wished if i can at LEAST hurt them a bit to let them know what being hurt MEANS!

^ yes, sometimes. I think you are right :)

If he was rapped, it would be too weird to handle.

I'm not exactly the type of person you'd want to be around when one is going through a bad day, but if it was something this serious, I'd definetly be there for that person! What if I was in her place? How woould I feel? I'd desperetly want someone to comfort me and tell me that this is NOT the end of the world, 'coz it isn't! I'll try my level best to make her understand that she's just a victim and was at the wrong place and at the wrong time, it's just fate and what God has written. Also, I'll go wild for her sake and do crazy things just to get her mind off it and make her understand that guys whom rape are nothing, but a disgrace to mankind!