I reckon you can figure out what I want to address in this thread right from the "first sight" on the topic

is your judgment on people based on first sight?

"oh she's cute I like her"

"she's fat, I don't want to get closer"

"damn he's short, I can't get along with him"

"he has got devil eyes, I'd rather be away from him"

"god damn her, she's black I hate blacks"

"he's as white as girls are, I don't see any manhood on him"

etc




or

you never judge until you know the person well regardless the look!?


personally, if I have to deal with someone, I'd like to stare at his/her eyes and also watch their way of talking and dealing with things, so that I can draw a conclusion about their personality, on which I can rely to decide whether I can get along with this person!

in other words, to me character matters more than look or skin colour! :)

I'd appreciate your point of view :)

The look attracts me but I don't consider that a judgement. I always judge after the first mistake :p

personally, if I have to deal with someone, I'd like to stare at his/her eyes and also watch their way of talking and dealing with things, so that I can draw a conclusion about their personality, on which I can rely to decide whether I can get along with this person!

Yeah I agree...its the body language that I judge, usually their facial expression.

I think everyone makes judgements, consciously or sub-consciously, as soon as they meet anyone new or even passes someone in the street. It's a basic skill of animal interaction and survival that is just as important in humans i think!

But it's only a first analysis, and I think any reasonable person then goes on checking and re-checking as more "information" or experience becomes available: I don't mean in some conscious way really, just that we notice more things over time.

I don't think there's anything wrong with taking a first impression and making a quick judgement - we all have to do it every day, but it's important to be realistic that many times our impressions can be wrong - too negative OR too positive, and over time we need to adjust our reactions accordingly.

I have made so many friends, learned to like so many books, been impressed by so many ideas, by forgetting my first impression that I have a word for it that I use with myself:

The Second Look.

My feeling is it has made my life so much richer and more fun--and even in the end more genuine--that I can't imagine doing without it.

the eyes dont lie... if you can read them you can know a whole lot about the person...

reading the body language would help as well :)

i agree that the first impression judgement sometimes is wrong but in the othertimes we have a hunsh, deep feeling inside tells us that this person is not good, avoid him/her..

s/he doesn't make me feel comfortable in his/her presense.. and most of the time i go with my ' hunsh'

First impressions eh..

Well, you learn a great deal about that once you make friends online. Because you get straight to what makes them who they are instead of what their outer covering looks like. And by then, it doesn't even matter.

And it goes to show how stupid we are when we meet someone out in the street, at work or school and never get to know them because their looks are not appealing to us right away. You never know how much you might be missing, really.

It's hard not to imagine what a person is like from their physical appearance, but the truth might take you by surprise.

I recall seeing someone in the hall ways in one of the offices getting a bad vibe from him...

then one day I had to deal with him, so I met him and spoke to him... he was so nice that I was wondering why did I get a bad vibe from him...

after dealing with him I had to meet him again to finish off the deal, from the way he delt with the issue, I got the bad vibe again...

I asked my colleuges about him and all of them didnt like him because he delt with them in a bad way...

So he is able to give a good first impretion after talking to him, but unable to maintain it...

First impression, they say its very important in professional life, in businesses etc. well I think that is sort of true but in my opinion it is the same thing as racism lol.

It takes me sometime to find ppl's real identity and character. Anyone can act, body language, talk, words, all can be practiced. To know a person can take some time and to trust them, even more!

Some couples married for more that 10 years and they still don’t know each other 70% !!


My self, I do judge from the first sight .. I might give it 20% weight as I do read the body languages and I see the short- term behaviour

Further dealing with same person, might give me 50% more knowledge about him/her .. Travelling with person might give me additional 20%

In short I based my judgment on 70% knowledge


The funny thing that these days ppl judge others without seeing them, without even talking to them, it just other people influence, and that’s a shame.

eyes + body language tells alot about the person but it kinda depends on the person too,, some people are good making you see what they want you to see so I guess you can't always depend on what you see 1st time.