Some couples may have one kid, then they decided to have another (God's Will), So they keep thinking: "How many years between the kids enough to make them more in harmony?"

Some may suggest maximum 2 years so that they share they level of interest and games. Others see 5+ is minimum so that there is not comparative / comparative in between them.

From your experience as a 'kid' with your brothers and sisters or as a mother to more than one kids what do you think the best optimal spacing between kids?

I don't know. I see some who have two years in between really close and some with 10 years in between really close. But of course the relationship differs. The ones with two years apart are more like friends. The one's with 10 years apart, especially if the eldest is a female, will act very responsible (like mothers and fathers) towards the younger brothers and sisters.

I think three is good.

My family is kinda split into two generations. The first generation is composed of three sisters including me having four years age difference between us, then there is a gap of six years, then another three kids with a one year difference between the first and second and 2 years between the second and last baby in the family. Watching my three youngest siblings, I'd say having a smaller year gap between babies is better than a large gap. It will lead to more understanding between them and also friendship will blossom. Us first generation kids are friends now that we've all grown up, but this wasn't the case as we grew up as we were each in a different growth phase and so couldnt really relate to each other.

The one's with 10 years apart, especially if the eldest is a female, will act very responsible (like mothers and fathers) towards the younger brothers and sisters.


true lol. I'm the oldest in the family and the feeling of taking care of my little siblings like a parent comes naturally. People sometime think they are my children when I take them out :p

I think my parents did it best. 3 years between each kid, but then my younger brother came in by mistake which lead to a difference of 5 years between me and him!

We were brought up together, we hardly gave our parents trouble because we had each other to play with and shared alot of things..

Interesting,,
my experience as a member of a family of 4, the difference between my sister(eldest) and I is 12years, and I am the youngest..We have a good relationship but not as strong as it would be (I think)if the years were less(in time it gets stronger).For example my brother and I 3 years difference we are quite close..
I think 2-3 years is a good gap..
When my parents had my eldest (brother7 yrs between us) there was a 5 year gap between him and my brother, and he got quite jealous of him:p..
My sister and my elder brother had 3 years gap and are quite close, he listened to everything my sister said n all...

So in the end :p if they are all raised properly they will grow up to get closer to eachother, because when you reach at a certain age or stage(mostly after marriage) in life you become like the same age group...

Sometimes they come same day, in case of twins.

Also boys at close age means more fight.

But this is not in our hands.

Interesting topic.

I think a gap of 2-3 years is enough! I want my kids to get along and think alike, but by having a long gap between them I don't think they would get along as good and won't be as close.

Interesting topic.

I think a gap of 2-3 years is enough! I want my kids to get along and think alike, but by having a long gap between them I don't think they would get along as good and won't be as close.
Between 2 and 4 years is ok.. but I guess the longer you leave it, the more detached they'll be from each other..

For the mother, It's best to leave at least a 18 months I think.. she'd need to get her rest.. it's tough having a year old baby and a newborn too.. not that it hasn't been done before.. but it's just alot tougher on the mum.

Mine are all close together. For sure they are close that way, but I think it also makes them fight more!

i don't care if they get along or not, i need my rest! xD

well, i'm pretty close to my baby sister (10 years Gap)
i'm close to all my sisters actually. :D
i think it's a matter of how you've been raised and the interests you share more than how many years is there between you, 'cause age somehow..doesn't make much of a difference. there are siblings with 1-2 year gap and are pretty distant from each other.