so sabla parents or even single sablanians who will be parents one day inshallah :D am intrested to know

would you secure a decent life for ur kids? like build houses for them or buy lands etc etc or would you think "oh they'll grow up and take care of themselves and they must learn to be independant i should look after myself this is my money that i worked hard for"

what about ur parents did they do anything to secure your life?

Personally, regarding my own case I'd build my own place so that I can secure myself if anything happend to the place i'm currently living in as a place to go if anything unexcepteable occurs. and ofcourse, they would understand (children) that it was so hard to achieve this and it will be passed to them without them feeling it, that is the case of having your own land, own home. In case of living in a country other than your home, they should take care of themselves with my recommandations and advices. because they will eventually have to be independant somehow.

God said: Let those (disposing of an estate) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own if they had left a helpless family behind: Let them fear Allah, and speak words of appropriate (comfort). [04:09]


In this verse, God assures us that if we fear him, then he will take care of our children after we die.

Of course I might do things that I, with my limited mind, might believe will make my children live a good life if God takes my life when they are still young and helpless. But I cannot depend on it. I must fear Allah and speak appropriate words to make sure they will live well after my death. If I have children Insha'Allah.

I remember a story of a man who started praying more after his first child was born, his wife asked him why, and he replied with the verse I shared above.

well in my case, my parents already had their own house so they baught lands and built houses they're renting them at the moment but of course when each of us has her own life we'll live in these houses :) am really happy they secured our lives
even if we move out to another house we could use these houses for renting so i thank them for that
as for me am planning to do the same to my kids coz i learnd from the best

I would definately secure their education. If I had the money to leave them financially better off, then that too. But, giving them their education is giving them the key to making something good out of their lives.

I don't want to see my kids being ignorant in large villas. I'd rather have educated kids who live with me till they can afford their own places.

Education first, if anything is left after that and I see they haven't wasted the opportunity to get educated, they can have it too.

well, if i could i would. no question about it.

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I worked hard for my money, I wanna have fun with it. Let them get their own!

I worked hard for my money, I wanna have fun with it. Let them get their own!Booger ... :hyper:

My parents did OK. They were far from rich though. But by the time both had passed ... there wasn't anything left to pass down.

I have given my daughter every opportunity to get ahead. Hope she does.

But I'm afraid it may well be the same with myself. By the time I die there may be nothing left.

My family secured me a very good financial life till I left school.. that's till around the age of 18.. and that the same for all my brothers and sisters. *FULL STOP!!*

For my kids I will do the same.. only one thing extra which is a saving of 20 R.O. each month till the age of 20.. so basically a cash of 4200 R.O. by the age of 20 for each one.. after that they have to drip off some sweat.

I agree fully with Fen..Thalia!

Thalia is an excellent parent role model ;) that's what I would do as well!

i wouldnt do any thing , i want them to do what i did by my self , i wont ensure any thing , when they reach 18 years old i will kick them out side home.

I would definately secure their education. If I had the money to leave them financially better off, then that too. But, giving them their education is giving them the key to making something good out of their lives.

I don't want to see my kids being ignorant in large villas. I'd rather have educated kids who live with me till they can afford their own places.

Education first, if anything is left after that and I see they haven't wasted the opportunity to get educated, they can have it too.

:yes: bravo thalia i agree with you education is number 1 coz without it they won't be able to survive in this world especially girls
Haroundb should read this :p

for me

first religion then comes the education in general ..

I want them to be faithful ,Islam will give them the power of loving their parents, life,education,country and everything good in life... if anyone knows what does Islam try to teach ,s/he will know it does teach us every little thing in every life section beginning from loving god till loving every little thing god created ...

this is how i want to raise my kids..

I think we should at LEAST secure something for them and not everything..
Since it is hard to find land and build houses later on because of how expensive everything is getting..
My parents are doing really great and I wish I can repay them back!
I will do everything I can for my kids but at the same time I should let then learn to do things themselves!

I think we should at LEAST secure something for them and not everything..
Since it is hard to find land and build houses later on because of how expensive everything is getting..
My parents are doing really great and I wish I can repay them back!
I will do everything I can for my kids but at the same time I should let then learn to do things themselves!

exactly that's the point :yes: am glad you have parents who care about securing ur future:)

There is a pretty good insurance offer provided by Bank Muscat.

the parent tells the bank how much money he needs to secure his kid's life when he/she reaches 18. Lets say the parent wants the kid to have 10 000 rials by the tie he is 18. \The bank then asks the parent to pay small instalments every month/year (to complete the 10000), until the kid reaches 18. If the parent dies, the kid gets the 10000 after hs dad's death, and he keeps getting whtever installemnts his dad was supposed to pay each month!, and he also gets another 10000 when he becomes 18!!

i wanna do that :D

i'm securing money for my kids for when they turn 18...and so are other members of our 'extended' family. when my kids turn to adult age they won't have the worries i had. but the best investment myself and my husband are doing is investing in the kids' education. that is giving them all the possibilities possible to reach the highest they can reach. so when they turn 18 and the money the family has bestowed on them becomes theirs, they will make best use of it...hopefully to further their education even more!

wow thanx for the info pintu am gona do that as well :D