Why many Arab men live duplicated ( double standard ) life’s ?

Here are examples,

A man marries an Omani women and then he marries another foreign women ( two wife’s) even some are foreign Arabic women. If the Omani wife dressed as his foreign wife or told him about her x-relationships with men before marriage. It will be disaster and he most probably will divorce her ( though he would have a past and will keep on talking about it as if its his right ) . On the other hand, his foreign wife, will talk about her x-men and it would be normal to him, she will not wear Abaiha like his first wife, but that won’t change a thing. Even the children from each wife, will be treated differently in terms of traditions, so the men even destroy their children’s mentality by acting in such way.

A married man or single, with restricted manners in relation to his wife or sisters. When it comes to any other women, try your best to abuse her and take advantage. Take advantage of whom, some other men wife’s, and female relatives strangely some don’t mind betraying their own friends female relatives. If men are at work in any organization or in the road or any where, they will try to put obstacles and cause a lot of problems pressure for women working with them or any other place where they can have power over her. She have to start with him a sort of relationship to fit in, or continues fights and tension. For example, if it is a boss or college at her work if she didn’t go to social talk with them and set for coffee at their office. Then she is really into hell, if there is work transaction should be done , or any thing related to work duties. Will try their best to do any thing to make it delayed and if you complain it get worst. They find a way to sneak out of it, even by faked fact. Wow once they form a group of friends, every friend covers the other. At the end, you get out of it a loser and the one to be blamed.

And the list goes on, many of them will run when it comes to prayers and talking about Islam callings. Blindly believing that they will be forgiven sooner or later.
Sometimes I believe that Islam callings religious people believe in need modification. Even if all the punishments that many Muslim men will get of doing that, they believe they will be forgiven if they go to Haj or pray a lot. They do not really take it seriously harmful.

This example is so common nowadays. I know many real examples.
In short, to me the man who has a duplicated personality/life is not a MAN!

I think its very wrong to generalise .. there are bad people, and there are great guys out there too.. and its the same with girls.

Yes, a common arab man will be stricter with his sisters, wives and daughters because they were brought up to be the protecting ones. They were asked to always take care of thier sister so the feeling of the respoinsibilty will always be there. However, its not always a bad thing. Ofcourse if exagerated its bad but otherwise its fine.

If the first wife isn't happy with him then let her ask for a divorce

Or maybe she should start taking care of herself more often & stay in shape by doing some regular household work & mild exercise & avoid developing those saggy titties & the out of shape butt that would wiggle her husband to death

I don't blame the man

If the first wife isn't happy with him then let her ask for a divorce

Or maybe she should start taking care of herself more often & stay in shape by doing some regular household work & mild exercise & avoid developing those saggy titties & the out of shape butt that would wiggle her husband to death

I don't blame the man

Not only that..some don't have class! One word: HAMAG! (someone please translate).

An example .. a man would say to his omani wife: I love you .. she would say: 7abbittak garaada (Let a grasshopper love you!) ..Lol..

An example .. a man would say to his omani wife: I love you .. she would say: 7abbittak garaada (Let a grasshopper love you!) ..Lol..

you're getting confused, it actually goes like:

wife to husband: i love you
his reply: 7abbitish garada

The funny part is that, the wife blames the husband and the husband blames the wife .. wu ba3dain?? who started all this?!

I agree with AP first post in this thread, there are different types of men and women out there, you just need to stick with the right company. People need to empower themselves and stand their ground - not be pushed about by anybody. You should obey Allah and you should be alright.

Hitman, jumping to divorce is not the best option. Divorce is hated and should be avoided as it causes alot of sadness, upset and break up of families. Majority of people divorce nowadays on selfish and pathetic reasons.

Both Sexes should simply respect each other and not overstep the boundaries, whether its in marriage, work or college.

The point here is 2 show MANY ARAB MEN DO NOT RESPECT WOMEN though they claim Islam calls for such thing but they never implement it.

HITMAN, first, even though some wifes are really in a good shap but yet still they are left behind. Second, Arab men, don't accept such as HABibIY UNLESS its his girl friend not his wife afcourse not all but mainly. Third even if she was fat, got out of shap cuz of children, instead of being SHAHEM and accepting her as she is and trying to help her through it just leave her behind 4 another one. how would you feel if just once you got out of shap your wife leaves you for another husband without valuing any sort of relationship between you both GET REAL.

Here in Oman there is a 'different' concept:

Men here do differentiate between tow type of women. One woman is the one in front (Omani) his cousin usually and that lady is the 'official' wife. He most probably will not be loving her, he actually suffered to marry her, or obliged to do so. He was at the beginning of his life, he was fully loaded with depts. and social awareness. That woman is more or less a 'must'. So he won't care much for the details as far as she is 'breed-able' [pardon me for the awful word]. If she can lay 'kids' then fine it is enough for the job. This woman gets the least emotions and sure most of the frowns. This woman has lots of relatives like brothers sisters and probably mother and a father. So she independent and he know that.

Ok the other one sure the opposite, and sure she is more pretty, pampering and sure having what he is missing in the other rigid one. He knows that he pays for everything he get, and again this other marriage is after a long suffering years and now it is time to enjoy (after 20-25 year of hard work). So he picks up with an 'able pocket'. Now she dances for him and she does all the 'magical' movements that the 'other' one can't even imagine doing. Now she gets the honey, the sweet face and the big cash. He knows that she is so much dependent on him (being an expatriate without a family probably). So he give her less attention in the terms of 'what she said and what she will do' opposite to the other one who will jump out to her father's lap in case of any confrontation. Now the kids are more beautiful and more 'sweet' They don't make lots of problems because they know that this dady is not going to stay at home if they missed up. Sure they look more beautiful because of the mother's race.

Now think that way and compare why men here do this. I think if the Omani wife got to give it a try, Omani men won't run away and try their look somewhere else.

Good Luck@!

Sheikh Mohammed Al-Maktoum came to mind when reading this thread. His first wife is of a UAE nationality and she is never seen in the public, but his second wife who is a Jordanian princess accompanies him almost every where. There are even pictures of her being the only female between 30 men eating lunch, on the desert floor. I doubt Sheikh Mohammed will allow that for his first wife.

I think it is all about the wife's background and environment. His first wife will not even dare be alone with him in a room full of men. Neither, would she dare go out without Abayah. It is how she was brought up, therefore Sheikh Mohamed got accustomed to her way of life and accordingly expects her to conform to social norms. The 2nd foreign wife has been raised differently and therefore, it is expected of her to be different. No body is going to speak ill of a foreign wife, because people do realize she is different. That does not apply to his local wife.

I, too, don't blame the man for treating his wives differently. It's how society is, not necessarily his doings.

I remember someone I knew, Omani---here in the USA he was pretty much relaxed and went to mosque only on Ramadan, did not pray five times a day, associated with women at his college and had college parties at his house (although nothing illicit went on at these parties). Now plant him back home in Oman, he is always nervous, wondering who will see him with a certain woman, tense, and claims he lives under a microscope.

Though I see good and bad issues living in West and Middle East I just wonder how some men and sometimes women can do this???

I think its very wrong to generalise .. .

The princess is right...

Why Arab do? Why Arab are? ....... any statistics?

Generalization is wrong….

The only thing I saw is that many (I didn’t say all not even most) Gulf Arab…when they send their wives home…they take off the wedding ring and start going to clubs and hanging out with women…even if it is Ok in the culture of that woman…I say to such a man…it is not Ok for you to do that unless it is OK with you to see your wife doing the same with another man…I see such an act as the dirtiest!