Say you're a practicing Muslim, and you abstain from sex (which I assume/hope most of you are!)

Would you be able to carry on a friendship with people who have premarital sex all the time and also talk freely about their sex lives, or would it make you uncomfortable? Would you be judgemental and not want to be friends with them at all because of their choices/sex life?

I ask this because I have a friend who frequently has one night stands, and doesn't hesitate to give me all the details over coffee/lunch/dinner/whatever. I don't ask for details, but somehow she always ends up spilling it all. I don't mind it really, she's always got interesting and sometimes funny things to share :p, but I know a few people who wouldn't be able to handle it.

I hate it when married ladies talk about their husbands in bed! it's just sooo non of my business! too much info! lol

my Friends always talk about there sex lives and stuff its no bother, u gotta tell someone and u want it to be someone u trust not ramdon grls...

my Friends always talk about there sex lives and stuff its no bother, u gotta tell someone and u want it to be someone u trust not ramdon grls...

Don't you think that it's a private thing between her man and herself?

I think its too much to share lol.
I don't think I will be ok if they keep repeating it maybe after the first time I'll ignore or something until it becomes too much and boring.

a girl is gotta tell someone...she cant tell her man everything...i believe its the grls choice....i'd honeslty tell my best Friend

dont find ANYTHING wrong with it

I'll be cool with it, after all h/she is just speaking their mind :)

im telling u guys shes ALWAYS fresh ;) fdaitich wallah((love her))

Maybe its alright with girls, but I don't imagine my male or even female friends coming to me saying how good they had sex with their wife/husband ....

Well i c guys says taht but when its there wife no but gf guys do talk about it and if i had a gay guy friend i'd tell him almost everytiing it would be fun lol

#1 if i'm not mistaken it's haram to talk about your sex life (I'm assuming you're married) if you're a muslim.

#2 it's not polite to reveal such private information especially since it doesn't involve you alone (hopefully!).

#3 if a person comes to me talking about it I'd shut them up and tell them it's just too much information that I have absolutely no interest in at all. It happened before and I don't care how rude I might sound by saying that, but some lines should not be crossed and I WILL make sure that they don't.

I don't think Libellula was referring to married women or men talking about their intimate sex lives with their friends. She was referring to premarital sex, so I am assuming our friends who are sexually active before getting married.

I've a couple of friends who are sexually active, and some of them don't talk about it, because they know what I think about girls who sleep with guys before they're married especially when they're Muslim Arab girls. But other friends from other nationalities, tell me, and it is completely fine. I find it funny. If the girls want to talk about it, sure. I think I will just laugh it off.

Hahaha; funny times :p

I have this girl... she's Omani.. she's my calssmates..
And she tells me how she so loves it when she and her boyfriend makeout in the car xD... and I'm like.."hehe...ok..:hmm:"

I wouldn't mind if she wanted to say anything... after all, it's all about her..

Hmm I can only answer from my point of view.

I would not mind it, but if it's the only thing we have to talk about 24/7, it may get annoying. If I was abstaining, what can I do apart from nod my head? It's a one sided conversation.

Some people behave like they're the only people in the world having sex. And it's lame.

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On the other hand, (since the thread kind of took on two facets) I have a very good friend of mine who's married too, and we talk about everything. But, we don't put intricate details of our sex lives into it. We laugh and joke about it, but we don't sit and explain our bedroom fetishes and exactly what happened or what we did. It's no one else's business.

Like I've mentioned before, my husband has a friend (a muslim) who is married to a maltese woman and he is apparantly not happy in this section of his married life, and he goes telling my husband all the ins and outs of it. Since he's not gloating and discusses it under the excuse of him having a 'problem', my husband can't exactly tell him to shut up. But on the other hand, if I was this man's wife, I would be DEEPLY upset that my spouse went revealing what I will or won't do in bed, how many times a week, for how long etc... It's a complete violation of privacy about the most intimate thing in my life.

Some people have no shame.

I wouldn't wanna hear about it, specially if it was from someone I cared about.

The worst part is when I go to family gatherings and the old women start talking about marriage and lailat al-dukhla "wedding night", and how "ripe" the young girls are..ugh
I get goosebumps

I wouldnt share my own unless I seek help
I wouldn't want to listen to others' unless they seek help

well 1 of my friends who isnt muslim telz me about her private life,i dont feel like im nosy or whatever, i mean im not forcing her to tell me right???sooo hey,wuz the big deal??but when i get married i dont thin ill share my stories,it kind of shows that u disrespect your wife by telling ppl how she was last night,dont yall think so??

The worst part is when I go to family gatherings and the old women start talking about marriage and lailat al-dukhla "wedding night", and how "ripe" the young girls are..ugh
I get goosebumps
Oh God. You reminded me of a film I saw once. Never understood a word of it because it was in Arabic.. but it was one of these series on an arab station, where the women are loud and over dramatic.

Anyways, this couple who looked like they never saw each other before have just gotten married.. and the mother of the groom is ushering them into the main bedroom of the house (as the guests are just outside in the next room) and they're like bewildered and not sure where to start or what to do (yeah right lol) and she's like really excited, has a beaming smile that would make Ronal Mc Donald jealous, and is backing out the door like some maitre d'.

Then she she closes the door slowly and stays there for a few seconds, almost like evesdropping, and backs away just a few feet next to all the female extended family and neighbours.. and they just look at the door in complete silence and anticipation.. then after a few minutes, the door opens and the husband gives his mother a hanky that's supposed to be blood stained and all the women get up cheering and making that sound with their mouths...

It is burnt perfectly in my memory, because if that bride was me, I would beg God for the earth to open and swallow me up. Please tell me these things don't REALLY happen?!

*bangs head to erase memory*

^ That is quite disturbing. There's a good reason why honeymoons are far, far, FAR away, lol. Silly old bats.

Oh God. You reminded me of a film I saw once. Never understood a word of it because it was in Arabic.. but it was one of these series on an arab station, where the women are loud and over dramatic.

Anyways, this couple who looked like they never saw each other before have just gotten married.. and the mother of the groom is ushering them into the main bedroom of the house (as the guests are just outside in the next room) and they're like bewildered and not sure where to start or what to do (yeah right lol) and she's like really excited, has a beaming smile that would make Ronal Mc Donald jealous, and is backing out the door like some maitre d'.

Then she she closes the door slowly and stays there for a few seconds, almost like evesdropping, and backs away just a few feet next to all the female extended family and neighbours.. and they just look at the door in complete silence and anticipation.. then after a few minutes, the door opens and the husband gives his mother a hanky that's supposed to be blood stained and all the women get up cheering and making that sound with their mouths...

It is burnt perfectly in my memory, because if that bride was me, I would beg God for the earth to open and swallow me up. Please tell me these things don't REALLY happen?!

*bangs head to erase memory*

well it happens but am not sure if we,omanis,do it...itz a really barbaric tradition,our islamic teacher said its forbidden,and so unnecessary 2 share with tha world

Nope...
What happens in the bedroom, stays in the bedroom...If a friend of mine does it, I'd be annoyed. I mean, seriously, that's just sick...It's like he can't get enough of it in bed, he has to relive it again when not.

as far as i know..in islam , it's haram to talk with others about what goes on between you and your husband in bed.

Simple I was taught to avoid talking about such things.

I wouldn't mind it, if she was my bestest friend or one of my sisters. I would feel uncomfortable if she went into serious details though. Yes, you had a great time last night, but thats it no less, no more. :P

I used to think that I would be okay with it. A close friend of mine told me about her private life, and I realised I did not want to hear about it. I just think it is too private, I really would not want to hear unless there is a problem and she needs advice.

As for myself, these things should stay private and sacred between the two I feel.

I would rather not hear about another person's sex life. What's the point??? Who wants to have a mental picture of someone you know having sex? :yuk:

Now like everyone else said here,,,only if there was advice needed.

The worst part is when I go to family gatherings and the old women start talking about marriage and lailat al-dukhla "wedding night", and how "ripe" the young girls are..ugh
I get goosebumps

I can´t help it, but :yuk: .

I wouldnt mind it at all again i second dam3eti, i would get annoyed if i heard anything from a close friend/family of mine. I would totally accept it if she was not from our culture ie an arab. Everyone has their own culture plus i accept ppl the way theey are. However, if she started talkin a lot about it i wud put a full stop to the talk lol!!

Don't you think that it's a private thing between her man and herself?

I agree.

When you find out that so and so likes _____ in the ____ .

It's like NO, I just imagined them doing that!!!!:o

as far as i know..in islam , it's haram to talk with others about what goes on between you and your husband in bed.

Why is this? I bet they just want to cover up the fact that guys won't satisfy the girls well. Poor Arab girls. Thank God I'm in America

whats personal remains personalllsuch thing is one of the ultimate private matter that should not be shared with (unless if there is a scientific or valid reason) BUT just to chat?
let the religion aside...
in terms of ethics....to me its Not ethical...unless if that person is of not respective nature.....
remember this:

today she/he talks about such thing...why not about you in the future for whatever you tell...cause there is no restricting ethics to her/him..
as a partner put ur self in the other talked about shoes...
Would you like it???? comprehensive discription about each details including your body parts???
would you like it?!

Its better than for people to run naked every were (wo hoo carnaval!!)!

I bet they just want to cover up the fact that guys won't satisfy the girls well. Poor Arab girls. Thank God I'm in America

to avoid embarrassment, please refrain from posting such ignorant assumptions? :) instead..try to post some FACTS like how the United States has the world’s highest rape rate of all countries-It has a conviction rate of 12 times higher than the world average. Google it
In Your America, Every day four women die as a result of domestic violence, " the euphemism for murders and assaults by husbands and boyfriends. " (Violence Against Women: A National Crime Victimization Survey ). .
poor american girls. Thank God I'm not in America

whats personal remains personalllsuch thing is one of the ultimate private matter that should not be shared with (unless if there is a scientific or valid reason) BUT just to chat?
let the religion aside...
in terms of ethics....to me its Not ethical...unless if that person is of not respective nature.....
remember this:

today she/he talks about such thing...why not about you in the future for whatever you tell...cause there is no restricting ethics to her/him..
as a partner put ur self in the other talked about shoes...
Would you like it???? comprehensive discription about each details including your body parts???
would you like it?!

Its better than for people to run naked every were (wo hoo carnaval!!)!


i couldnt have said it better . 10/10 :yes:

to avoid embarrassment, please refrain from posting such ignorant assumptions? :) instead..try to post some FACTS like how the United States has the world’s highest rape rate of all countries-It has a conviction rate of 12 times higher than the world average. Google it
In Your America, Every day four women die as a result of domestic violence, " the euphemism for murders and assaults by husbands and boyfriends. " (Violence Against Women: A National Crime Victimization Survey ). .
poor american girls. Thank God I'm not in America
When you want to compare between the Middle East and America, *name other western country here*, there is no use in doing it by statistics. They don't exist in the middle east, remember? (and if they do, they are faaaarrr from being reliably indicative of actual happenings) because as of March 2007..

Battered women may file a complaint with the police but often sought family intervention to protect them from violent domestic situations. Likewise, families sought to intervene to keep such problems from public view, which is the cultural norm. Some employers reportedly sexually abused domestic servants. There were no government programs for abused women.

The law prohibits rape, and the government enforced the law effectively. Spousal rape is not criminalized. source: http://www.state.gov/g/drl/rls/hrrpt/2006/78860.htm

Don't wanna know about anyone's sex life & i would share if hell turns to heaven and heaven turns to hell ( means impossible )

basically, i highly doubt anyone who share there sex life with a friend that doesn’t feel comfortable hearing about it, GOD ppl

I wouldn't share mine that's for sure.. Unless maybe it was a female friend of mine, err, she has to be really close though.. lol

But I would love to make fun of such things with my friends.. XD

I`m Still not crazy to share my sex life with anyone! even my best friend!!
Its just a thing I keep for myself!!

And I dont want to know about any of my friends sex lives!! its none of my business.!

I can help when it comes about relations. but not sex!!

I don't mind listening (it can be very interesting sometimes), but I wouldn't share that aspect of my personal life with anyone. If someone else chooses to share, then that's their choice, and I'm not a prude and I can find it entertaining or informative, although I don't know why they'd be sharing it when it's about your "PRIVATE" life. Well whatever floats their boat.

I wouldn't mind sharing some of that stuff with my closest friends, but then again I'm definitely not gonna rant about those elaborate details of whatever intimate moments we shared.

There are some things that we should keep to ourselves :)

to avoid embarrassment, please refrain from posting such ignorant assumptions? :) instead..try to post some FACTS like how the United States has the world’s highest rape rate of all countries-It has a conviction rate of 12 times higher than the world average. Google it
In Your America, Every day four women die as a result of domestic violence, " the euphemism for murders and assaults by husbands and boyfriends. " (Violence Against Women: A National Crime Victimization Survey ). .
poor american girls. Thank God I'm not in America

Honey, I'm being realistic. Guys are gonna talk regardless. And as someone else stated, people cover up rape in your regoin because it's always "the girls fault".

I wouldnt mind it at all again i second dam3eti, i would get annoyed if i heard anything from a close friend/family of mine. I would totally accept it if she was not from our culture ie an arab. Everyone has their own culture plus i accept ppl the way theey are. However, if she started talkin a lot about it i wud put a full stop to the talk lol!!
hehe i enjoy lsnin 2 tha whole story!!haha there funny sometimes,haha funny how they get all nervous and mess up:P

I'd slap him/her

I wouldn't mind if a friend told me but I wouldn't want her/him to get into too much details I might joke about it but that's about it, I myself would keep what happens in the bedroom between me and my partner...

I'd slap him/her

:os why the hell would you want to do that? They trust you and feel comfortable talking to you about it. And if you don't feel comfortable, you don't have to get physical, just tell them. Weird!:think:

Some ppl are just Strange its a sex life and were all going to go threw it..S0o0o therefore it can be a lesson for u or it can be something else...Like i didnt know poppin ur cherry would hurt as much until i heard it from my friend saying it took a week L0oL


someone sent a rep askin how old my friends are and wut not my friends are my age and some a lil older some a year younger, dont matter about the age..we laugh when needed and serious when needed

i dont mind it at all to speak about my sex life.. if it was to a friend i trust..
and it has to be a girl.. i never open a subject like that to a male friend.. :S .. it would be lame and disgusting! and probably makes him think im showing off!

most of my female friends speak and tell me freely how they felt when they had it.. i dont mind it at all.. even married ones talk to me about it at times.. (not in details :p)!
i agree that its private.. but when a female friend tells you about her sex life.. i guess it means you mean somethin to her!

I've heard stories that make me wanna puke...
I do not need details, especially not 'those' kind of 'extreme' minute by minute details...

#3 if a person comes to me talking about it I'd shut them up and tell them it's just too much information that I have absolutely no interest in at all. It happened before and I don't care how rude I might sound by saying that, but some lines should not be crossed and I WILL make sure that they don't.

I agree dear brother.
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Though I am not too religious but I am not even ultramodern. Sex should be kept private. And if you guys are interested in others stories, someday you might try to experience the different sex life. Monotone might make you fallen.


Honesty, listening or watching sex stories make me feel furnish the seen and happening. So mentally I get disturbed. I believe same happens to most of human. So….!?