If you're with someone, do you carry on the relationship even if after a while you see no real future between the two of you because you enjoy their company for the time being, or do you break it off when you realize you wouldn't want to be with them for the long haul?

Personally, if I enjoyed someone's company alot, but didn't think they'd be responsible enough for to take on a marriage + family, I would stay as long as it was what I wanted and he knew that it's not going to develop into a serious relationship like that.

Hypothetically speaking that is. It's too late for me now. lol

Once I realize he can't withstand the long haul, he should be dropped like a huge bag of potatoes. Well, you can remain friends, you just don't have to take it to the next level.

Planning for the future has always been my thing.

I wouldn't start something that has no future in the first place.

Once I realize he can't withstand the long haul, he should be dropped like a huge bag of potatoes. Well, you can remain friends, you just don't have to take it to the next level.

Planning for the future has always been my thing.

Ditto! :yes:

well it depends, you wouldn't know if the person suits you or not from the beginning, you have to know the person well to determine whether s/he is the one or not..
so for me, in the beginning, nothing will be planned for the future, but after a while I start planning for things, and to see whether we take this relationship further or not.. Once I know that there's no hope for us, I end it immediately

Ah I so can relate to this. The thing is, I always think with my heart that's why I tend to live the moment. Why do you have to sit there and ponder the future when you can enjoy your time and have fun. I don't like to think think/plan ahead I just wanna live the moment.

So personally speaking I wouldn't worry and fret about the future I'm still young anyway and marriage is like light years away.

It seems pointless to me to carry on a relationship if I realize that we don't suit, or if I can't see myself with someone in the long run. I don't see why I should put in a lot of time and effort into something that isn't going to last. Also, as more time lapses, the more attached you get to the person, so even if you enjoy being with them now but don't want to be with them in the far future, I'd still think ending it would be the correct option.

I wouldn't even start a relationship unless I felt that there could be a future, if after a while I felt that it's not working out then I'd make that clear and wouldn't mind remaining as good friends.

For the present.

I wouldn't get into a relationship if I don't see a future for it.

if there's no future... there will be no present for me. i'll have him as a friend...and that'll be as far as it would get.

nothing like a sweet quick one night stand ! :)
ok no seriously:
im always looking for someone i would never mind and would WANT to grow old with ! :)

Ah,...this has always been one of my personal demons.
In my opinion, life is too short. I'd say make the most of it. If you meet someone you get along with superbly, why not let it lead you where it takes you. If I kept worrying about the future, I'd never have time to enjoy my present.

Ah,...this has always been one of my personal demons.
In my opinion, life is too short. I'd say make the most of it. If you meet someone you get along with superbly, why not let it lead you where it takes you. If I kept worrying about the future, I'd never have time to enjoy my present.

When you meet this person who you have 'fun' with...are you going to be faithful to her or just have fun?

If you be faithful when you know it's not going anywhere...wouldn't you be missing the real thing?

I wouldn't start anything with someone if I know it's not going anywhere.

When you meet this person who you have 'fun' with...are you going to be faithful to her or just have fun?

If you be faithful when you know it's not going anywhere...wouldn't you be missing the real thing?

I'd be completely faithful. I'm not the type to fool around when I'm attached. No sir.

To answer your second question, how do you know it's not going to go anywhere for certain? Maybe what you have IS the real thing, maybe later on you settle for someone else.
I certainly cannot see the future, who knows what could happen. I'd treat her as THE ONE as long as we have each other.

I'd be completely faithful. I'm not the type to fool around when I'm attached. No sir.

To answer your second question, how do you know it's not going to go anywhere for certain? Maybe what you have IS the real thing, maybe later on you settle for someone else.
I certainly cannot see the future, who knows what could happen. I'd treat her as THE ONE as long as we have each other.

But the thread was about relationships which have no future. So we answer based on that. Not being certain is another thing, I guess.

But that's my point exactly. How can you be absolutely certain that there is no future in that relationship? There is no way. The only way is if you yourself have resigned to accepting that.

There's always a way. The cost may be high, but nothing ever came cheap. And certainly not love or happiness.

I don't even consider 'the future' lol...
I ahte it... it's like..that new song by Natasha..

If it's meant to end then there you have it, if not then get married..take it step by step and it'll end this way or that..

Personally, I'm a committed person, and I believe if you arn't gona be staying for the future, then, the door is right there, I think you should use it and don't return.
Why waste your time with each other, you wouldn't know what will happen to you guys, and if something big, and you won't be able to leave each other, wouldn't that create a bigger problem?

What's the poing of being in a relationship knowing you will not last and you see no future with one another ? It doesn't make any sence what so ever.

Being in a realtionship would tell you more about the other person, it will also clear your thoughts and determines what the next step is. I'd attempt 1 if I feel that the other person is the one. No playing around no time wasting is what some of us want and the others would just play and then might settle at the end.

I'm completely with DiNGBAT on this!

I would never start a relation for a future, it's purely for fun thus I avoid virgins