What do you think should be done with remnants of a relationship that is now bygone?!

Photos, cards, gifts, messages, letters etc. that belong to a relationship that exists no more (eg a marriage that has ended in divorce or a relationship that never proceeded into marriage)...


Would you throw away those items?! or would you keep them for some time?

When is the right time to dispose the traces of a relationship that has now ended?!

Is it right to keep hanging on to memorable items as they were once upon a time an integral part of you?!


Share your thoughts :)

I wouldn't dispose of them unless my husband asked me to.

When is the right time to dispose the traces of a relationship that has now ended?!
when you're in another one.


if these memories ended there wouldn't be a point of holding them for too long... unless whoever still has feelings for the other.but even then... if it ended... it ended. it's better to move on.

Time will get rid of unwated items automatically.

I'd keep them.
holding on to them doesn't necessarily mean you're not over it..

i like memories..good or bad, once you're over it, they make you umm,..smile :)
or thats just me :angel:

Im with nella...

i keep them, even if im over it, bcuz they were good times, and i want to look at those stuff and smile :)

^ or cry.....

i think i'd just put them in a box ... i dont think im gonna check them anyways :)
unless im still not over it ..

to the left to the left

i never cry, i might have tears from happiness...

even a relation that ended up badly, wont make me cry when i remember the good times :)

I am the kind of person who doesn't like keeping stuff that are not used, whether they are college notes or receipts! So I guess that answers your question, I throw them away. But, when I do that, it's not out of anger or hate, it's just that I don't like keeping unimportant stuff around.

Time will get rid of unwated items automatically.

WOW! Icetea and i agree!
Time does heal and eventually time itself tells you whether or not to throw these items away or keep them as a memory of something that you once experienced.

I'd keep them, just because I'd like to look at them sometime in the future to remind me of where I've been, and how much I've grown as a person. I'm a pack rat and I have a hard time throwing anything away.

I have a shoebox of random things, and the oldest items in it are the notes my 7th grade crush used to pass to me in class. I still have them now, 8 years later. I keep it just because it makes me smile when I read the things we used to write, it reminds me of how silly and childish (and cute) we were at that age.

^^^^ +1

even when im alone i laugh so hard on some stuff we used 2 write (we had a gang) :p

They are part of my life, I can't throw my life easily :)

I'd keep them..don't see what good will come out of throwing them away.

i dont have any so its not a problem to me ! :)

(eg a marriage that has ended in divorce or a relationship that never proceeded into marriage)...


1- Marriage, yes

2- Relationship, of course not, I'm done with her for good, she was never meant to be for a serious relation

i find it hard to throw anything away...

as relationship memories, either keep it or give it back...

marriage... dunno... depends on how it makes you feel i guess...

i dont have any so its not a problem to me ! :)

but .......

imagine u have stuff like that, what will u do??

(i know it's hard but try 2) :p

I get attached to things easily, and so it's hard to ger rid of stuff.

I'd keep them, even though I'd probably ache when I see them, if it meant something big to me, but still, it's better to keep it rather than to throw it away, after all, throwing it away won't erase the memories, might help you move on but I'd want to have the chance to go back and have a look at them later in my life when I've truly moved on and just smile, and remember.

I'd want to have the chance to go back and have a look at them later in my life when I've truly moved on and just smile, and remember.

so it's not just me :angel:

lol, nope, but I guess it takes a loooong time before you get to a stage where you can look at them and smile without feeling bitter!

Thats what shoe boxes are for.

The most reasonable answer will be keeping it .... Memories of your past .. Not all people want to erase such thing from their minds ... They are still part of your life .. Each partners should also respect their partners as well ..
Not everything could be a good idea to keep ..

ok somthing to add here:

i wont go into details, but believe it or not, one of the stuff that i kept had a direct affect on my dad and made him buy me my car!! :omg:

Of course I won't get rid of them! No friggin' way. I'd cherish our relationship and every single moment we've spent together. I mean I was in love with that person once upon a time how could I possibly throw away stuff he gave me.

I've never thrown anything sentimental away. Cards, little trinkets, stuff we made together, even a little pet rock, they're all still with me.
These things, good or bad, in one way or another, were and are a part of my life. There's no way I could bring myself to get rid of them.

Time will get rid of unwated items automatically.


Time or you? :p

I second Lym if you move on *get married* and get asked to do that then so be it.

When it is time to move on it is time to move on. I would delete everything, coz it all needs to be deleted. Except there may be a few specific selected items. Although if it is a marriage, that it would be nice to keep if you have children. For instance, I am glad my mum kept her wedding pictures even though my parents had the worst divorce, so at least I can see my parents´wedding pictures.

I don't think I can..I mean, if I'm with someone else, he should realize those 'memories' made me who I am. Just getting rid of them won't change the fact that they DO exist.

.. physical memorial things can be deleted/left behind but other things just try to lock them inside ur heart n try not to make them effect ur new life.. maybe u can implement them in the new life.

Memories are more than objects you throw, they cannot be erased so easily.

I don't think I can..I mean, if I'm with someone else, he should realize those 'memories' made me who I am. Just getting rid of them won't change the fact that they DO exist.

^^^^^ soooo true

my relation with other people made me the person i am now, so a person who likes what i am now should b thankful for those other people ;)

i wud personally throw away all the stuff he got me or reminded me of him... no point in keepin em... life goes on!! Nevertheless, i agree with Phat memories wud be hard to get rid of!! So throwing away the objects really wudnt let the memories dissapear but at leat in ma opinion wud reduce the memories...