Sallam,

Is it true that:

If you are deeply in love with some one, you are meant to scarify every thing you have for this love and this person, no matter how far you can go in your scarifies. You are not meant to set limits to any thing and you are meant to leave every thing behind you for the one you love, despite the value of things that you will be obliges to lose. Even if these scarified things are so precious and mean a lot to you like your family, wealth, name or your career…

Or is this true:

That if you set limits to have how far you want to go in the matter of scarifying and you put your self in a position of trying to balance your relationship and not to give it the all or to keep it off. And if you give values to things that are precious to you and you tend to scarify with the low valued and try to keep the high valued aside and not to scarify with them that means you are not really deeply in love and that you are subject to change your heart to some one else, if they came along your life… [in brief the opposite of the first case]


How can you justify these two cases of two different people?

The first scenario happens usually in movies & not reality

you are meant to scarify every thing you have for this love and this person

I want to hear a realistic act that can be based on the above

The first scenario happens usually in movies & not reality


I disagree. I believe that true love and sacrifices exist in real life, not only in movies!

The first scenario happens usually in movies & not reality



I want to hear a realistic act that can be based on the above

Sallam Doc,

To give you simple examples:

If a lady fall in love deeply with a guy, but the family refused for some reasons, say because he is already married and with kids. She is a professional person that means she works in a very good position and she every thing she needs, such as a car and a good salary; the same situation with the guy who wants to marry her.

Is she meant to go against her family wish, and leave her family and her job to end up marrying this guy as a sign of scarifying every thing for this love?

Or

The same lady who works and had every thing as above, but she had set her limits to her far she can scarify, as for example she can scarify her job but she can’t scarify her family?

Will this mean that she is not deeply in love with this person and that she is not giving her love the valuation that it deserve to be given?

I disagree. I believe that true love and sacrifices exist in real life, not only in movies!


I will call this to be a blind love…

That personally I don’t believe that it does exist, although many women try to live in such love and they fail to survive!

It depends how much you are ready 2 sacrifice, some people do it more than they should and I believe many of those end up living a not so happy life.

If I was in such postion where I have 2 give up on something I'd think about if the other half deserves what am about 2 do. Alot of people think about others and forget themselves than if anything goes wrong they have nobody 2 blame but themselves.

Sometimes things can be unclear cos you love the other person much, it's not so easy I guess, plus I never been there am just talking from what I see around me. Need real experts here :p

It depends how much you are ready 2 sacrifice, some people do it more than they should and I believe many of those end up living a not so happy life.

If I was in such postion where I have 2 give up on something I'd think about if the other half deserves what am about 2 do. Alot of people think about others and forget themselves than if anything goes wrong they have nobody 2 blame but themselves.

But how will you know that this person really, really deserves your scarifications?

If you did not go with your scarify to that far, will you think that you haven't loved that person to that extend?

I guess some people get a shock after marriage when they realize that their partner is not who they expected :os

Some poeple face problems on 1st years of thier marriages which is normal cos they are adjusting 2 a new life but the problem is when they don't get along very well and some1 has 2 sacrifice something, I think that's the only time when you can tell if your partner desrves what you are doing for them!

Incase you didn't then @ least you know in your heart that "they" didn't love you enough so you can easily pull out of it which means no sacrifices need 2 be done since the other person don't deserves them.

But if there is a strong bond between the two and they support and love each other than why not sacrifice?!!

Although sacrifices are essential, I think there should be a limit. For instance, it is not fair when only one person is making the sacrifices and the other doesn't give up anything. Relationships are all about giving and taking.

This is how I'd go about making sacrifices: if I think it is worth sacrificing something, and I am still going to be happy even after making that sacrifice, because I am with someone who I care about and love, I will go ahead and make the sacrifice. If making that sacrifice will make me miserable, and I will really feel the loss and start to resent my partner, then I won't make it.

Sallam,

But is it fair to say to the person whom have set limit to scarify " You are not deeply in love, this is why you are not scarifying. I am in deep love this is why i am ready to scarify every thing i have no matter what it is, or how much it means to me."

" for a real lover scarifying is nothing and they should not set limits"

Of course people sacrifice for love in real life.

I just read about one woman in Poland whose husband was in a coma for twenty-years and he finally woke up.

She had kept him at home and washed him and changed him and sat with him every day. Her husband was astounded and could find no words for his gratitude: "I will never forget what she did. I love her," he said.

It's not as unusual as you think.

Of course people sacrifice for love in real life.

I just read about one woman in Poland whose husband was in a coma for twenty-years and he finally woke up.

She had kept him at home and washed him and changed him and sat with him every day. Her husband was astounded and could find no words for his gratitude: "I will never forget what she did. I love her," he said.

It's not as unusual as you think.



Sallam,

That’s for sure a nice genuine thing to happen, but I can say that this is a different type of scarifies.

Although every thing is possible in this life and nothing can stop some one from doing or getting what they want if they have the will for it.

i think it is just unfair and not right to generalize that unlimited sacrifices made for love, will not make it last for long. I know of many, boys and girls, who even deserted their families to be with their partners and they are leading a happy life. Jeff's example is only one of many.
There are as well many loves that don't survive when one of the partners set a limit. It is unfair for the other who is willing to sacrifice with no limits.

I do agree though that there should be a limit for sacrifices.
However, I truly admire love with no limits,,,,,

I don't think that having a limit as to what you sacrifice is an indication that you love the person less. Making sacrifices and love are interrelated but it's not right to say that if someone isn't willing to sacrifice everything, they can't truly love the person. Love is different for everyone, and we show our love in different ways. Sometimes not being able to sacrifice has more to do with the person's personality and nature, rather than how strongly they feel about their partner.

Maybe the people who would sacrifice everything aren't necessarily more in love, but just more dumb than those who set limits and sacrifice within reason.