Would you accept someone as your husband/wife who's only a high school graduate?

Presuming he/she is wealthy already, rest of the desired qualities are present as well

If I loved her, then why not.

BUT

She should have a higher education certificate .. I wouldnt marry an uneducated blondie who forgot whatever she took back in School..

No. It's is not good enough. He needs to have some sort of education basis and backbone. Something which will aid him in climbing the business ladder.

i don't think i can marry him, since my parents think it's essential that he's at least a university graduate.

and i wouldn't like it anyways,

most men take being better than their wives in almost everything very seriously..therefore, it'll create some sensitivity.
it might be ok at the beginning, but later on it'll show :rolleyes:

Since I did high education after school, so I expect her to be on the same level.

No problem will be good as 2nd wife.

Nope. Who isn't bothered to get a degree I wouldn't be bothered to marry him.

Would you marry a degree or a man?

Would you marry a degree or a man?

OK...look who's talking though :p

When he doesn't get enough education, and of course I will. IF we get married, our mentalities will be different. I might get a better job or be even be respected more for my education...this will make problems in the marriage, don't you think? plus..I don't like those people who don't want to be highly educated..if you're a man or a woman, you should get your education. I don't want to talk to my husband about something he goes like :"Oh, we took that at school!" how cool?

A 'man' who isn't bothered about education, it might mean he's lazy, doesn't have a goal and just wants to get married...which something I don't like. If he IS planning to get a degree and then marry me, then I'll wait. I won't just marry him depending on his words.

So, I think marrying a degree is better than marrying a slave or marrying for sex...since I don't want him to suffer during that period, Icey!

When he doesn't get enough education, and of course I will. IF we get married, our mentalities will be different.

she's got a point :rolleyes:

I might rethink marrying a man with only high school level if he is from those who studied in life school and have a good way of thinking and managing things and very understandable man

But you know what, there are many men who reached a very high degree of education even PhD but at home they still think the way the Rock Man think !

So, in fact it depend on the man himself !

So, I think marrying a degree is better than marrying a slave or marrying for sex...since I don't want him to suffer during that period, Icey!

That is not fair to call people who don't have higher education as slaves or they only marry for sex. There are many scholars who have great knoweldge you don't have enough contrainers for it and they are smart, etc they don't have degree but they have studied on their own. I think muslim women should first seek how religious the man is and how close to Allah he is in his life. Marrying a degree sounds a shallow way of thinking because a degree will not bring you happiness.

No, and my parents wouldn't agree anyway.

i wouldnt , im still 18, but when i get married in the furure i would like my wife to have a decent salaray,
i cant pay for everything !

That is not fair to call people who don't have higher education as slaves or they only marry for sex. There are many scholars who have great knoweldge you don't have enough contrainers for it and they are smart, etc they don't have degree but they have studied on their own. I think muslim women should first seek how religious the man is and how close to Allah he is in his life. Marrying a degree sounds a shallow way of thinking because a degree will not bring you happiness.

Oh My God! please, tell me you got what I meant and that you're just acting...otherwise, I'm really worried about you!

I might get a better job or be even be respected more for my education...this will make problems in the marriage, don't you think?
So if he had Master degree and you had Ph.D, you wouldn't marry him? :think:

I mean, if you had a better job than his, you wouldn't marry him?

www.highschoolwives.com were a big NO for me

So if he had Master degree and you had Ph.D, you wouldn't marry him? :think:

I mean, if you had a better job than his, you wouldn't marry him?
No no, not this way...I meant, if he doesn't finish his education, he 'might' not be respected 'by others' because of this and by education I mean, at least college. And, the job thing is another thing...not that I wouldn't marry him because I have a better job, but this 'might' make problems in the marriage...because of the subject which have been discussed MANY times...the job thing wouldn't stop me from marrying him, but it might lead to trouble in the long run.

When you are making a supposedly life long commitment ... you should do everything to get the type of life partner you would feel most comfortable with.

Whether that would be race, tribe, religious affiliation, social status etc ... and yes even gender for some of our liberal friends :p

no i dont want someone who is kind of lazy to finish his studies. Money finishes but minds stay till the end! and besides am sure my parents dont want an un-educated person as my husband.

Oh My God! please, tell me you got what I meant and that you're just acting...otherwise, I'm really worried about you!

I'm not a good actor.

Why you are worried about me? :rolleyes:

Yes but he must not be ignorant like a donkey

I'm not a good actor.

Why you are worried about me? :rolleyes:

So you really don't get it? :os ..acting is waaay better! why I'm worried? oh God :bored:

Anyway, read it again if you can..you might get it :p

Read what again?

I hope you didn't edit your post to ask me to read it again, I'm worried about you now!

So, I think marrying a degree is better than marrying a slave or marrying for sex...since I don't want him to suffer during that period, Icey!

This Icey..does it click?

Don't get worried about me..you just leave me alone and all will be good :hyper:

Still didn't click well, what do you mean by you don't want him to suffer during that period?

Do you feel I'm behind you to ask me to leave you alone? we are just discussing, I thought you are a mod!

Still didn't click well, what do you mean by you don't want him to suffer during that period?

Do you feel I'm behind you to ask me to leave you alone? we are just discussing, I thought you are a mod!

Man..please, I'm still young to die!..what do you mean what period?! you say things then forget them?! whatever..

I am a mod?! :omg:

So anyway, still no for me.

I think you are the one saying things and forget them:

Originally Posted by Oblivious

So, I think marrying a degree is better than marrying a slave or marrying for sex...since I don't want him to suffer during that period, Icey!

so my question above:

what do you mean by you don't want him to suffer during that period?

Ah, please!

Anyway, that'd be off-topic, if you have any questions, you can contact me.

Now..we all can stick to topic.

Yeah i don't mind that at all. The main criteria for me is that I like the way she thinks and the way she looks. End of story.

Ah, please!

Anyway, that'd be off-topic, if you have any questions, you can contact me.

Now..we all can stick to topic.

i did not understand ;)

my-self ... she needs to be educated , since the potential to understand each other will be btr ....

i did not understand ;)

Sorry, what don't you understand?

That he will suffer at the end of the period.

Off-topics deleted. Jeff, I hope you haven't gone crazy like some ppl :p

Icy..check the other thread 'No way' then read what YOU wrote..then roll your eyes as much as you like. How sad.

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i wouldnt , im still 18, but when i get married in the furure i would like my wife to have a decent salaray,
i cant pay for everything !

hmmm, the OP said she/he is wealthy, so do will u cahnge ur mind if she is rich??

4 me i want her 2 have higher education, people change in those few years, they learn more than thier "major certificate"

unless im crazy about her! and that's unlikely if she hasnt been to college...

hmmm, the OP said she/he is wealthy, so do will u cahnge ur mind if she is rich??

4 me i want her 2 have higher education, people change in those few years, they learn more than thier "major certificate"

unless im crazy about her! and that's unlikely if she hasnt been to college...

what she'l take money from her daddy and give it to me ??!!
that'l b lame .. i want us to make our own money .. a few thousands wont harm though :p and yeah higher educatrion is necessary as you siad

no, she's wealthy, not her dad, her dad is dead and she got 5 millions from him :p

hey nathan and haley from "one tree hill" did it :p

no, she's wealthy, not her dad, her dad is dead and she got 5 millions from him :p

hey nathan and haley from "one tree hill" did it :p
in that case ill marry her,take the money,divorce her and then marry an educated woman :D

^^^^ l0o0ol good plan :p

Icy..check the other thread 'No way' then read what YOU wrote..then roll your eyes as much as you like. How sad.



Ok now I got what you mean :os

But I have to disagree with you because in such situation having a high degree has nothing to do with that issue, imagin that the guy just came back from abroad with his PhD degree (after one year being away from home) and find his wife on that state, how would he feel?

Let us stay on topic!

Ok now I got what you mean :os

But I have to disagree with you because in such situation having a high degree has nothing to do with that issue, imagin that the guy just came back from abroad with his PhD degree (after one year being away from home) and find his wife on that state, how would he feel?

Let us stay on topic!

Oh God!! please! don't do this to yourself and to me! THAT WAS AN INSIDE JOKE!

What would he feel? if he's stable and not crazy, he'd say..."one week won't harm, I shouldn't start like Ice tea, it's a normal thing". There you go.

If I was already committed to that person, then I would.

What would he feel? if he's stable and not crazy, he'd say..."one week won't harm, I shouldn't start like Ice tea, it's a normal thing". There you go.

Everyone will say that at the end because there is no choice at least he will not question Allah rules and say why this made haram or I need a reason first.

But if he got a second wife then there won't be problem.

I dont care..
I dont know..

.. a high school graduate .. her brain is still fresh.. u can accommodate her with her new life.

.. someone with higer education n stuff.. will always try to be a boss of her own life.. especially thos ones who r used to high living standards.. which is a real pain for the husbands.. i dunno that what i hear!!

Icy..check the other thread 'No way' then read what YOU wrote..then roll your eyes as much as you like. How sad.

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Actually I have seen that, but u were very to the point when u said I don’t want him to suffer during the period ...
:D

I’m with Storm on this! :cute:
It depends on the person
And since Hitman said
Presuming he/she is wealthy already, rest of the desired qualities are present as well
Then he must be great :p and I like everything about him (including his mentality)
And so, provided he’s got some work experience already, then yes, I think it’s ok.
Some people get good jobs with just a high school education ne (or so I read in the ‘Salary’ thread in Business Sabla :p)
And organizations sometimes provide training/ further education etc
He can go for further studies later too :p
so basically since he's got all the qualities I like already.. I think it's ok.. but he must already have a decent job.. and it's likely he'll work his way up..
or else I might wait for him lol

No, I would not accept someone who was merely a high school graduate. I'd expect him to have the equivalent of what I have, or better.

I just think that someone who has the same educational level as I do would probably be more likely to share the same mentality and goals.

I would. I know people who only have a high school degree and have jobs (and make better salaries than people with a college degree). A degree is not everything in this life and It's stupid to judge someone by their college certificate because it is not necessarily a measure of how capable he/she is when it comes to dealing with real life issues and family responsibilities.

^^^^^^ true...


it's not a fact, but in most of the cases (maybe 85% or more), people with higher education have better mentality, better understanding of the world, better judgement then ppl with only high school digree...

people learn alot from life, but they also learn alot from college...

I would. I know people who only have a high school degree and have jobs (and make better salaries than people with a college degree). A degree is not everything in this life and It's stupid to judge someone by their college certificate because it is not necessarily a measure of how capable he/she is when it comes to dealing with real life issues and family responsibilities.
I don't think it's stupid to want to be with someone who has something to fall back on (just in case), and who makes you feel safe and secure. I'd never feel at ease with someone knowing that if something were to go wrong, they wouldn't have their education/degree to depend on.
I agree that a degree doesn't say much about how good of a husband/father someone will be, but I think that a degree makes someone a safer and more reliable option than someone without one.
One of the important things people look for in a relationship is stability and/or security, and that comes with knowing that they have a decent education/certificate(s) in order to get a job.

^^ I agree...

a person with a degree is more likely to get a job.
I want someone to match my mentality in any case, degree or not, but I would prefer him to have a degree and to be as good in earning with his job as I am, if not better.
As Libellula said... it is more reliable... it is always better to have a degree, ESPECIALLY when raising a family.

I don't think it's stupid to want to be with someone who has something to fall back on (just in case), and who makes you feel safe and secure. I'd never feel at ease with someone knowing that if something were to go wrong, they wouldn't have their education/degree to depend on.
I agree that a degree doesn't say much about how good of a husband/father someone will be, but I think that a degree makes someone a safer and more reliable option than someone without one.
One of the important things people look for in a relationship is stability and/or security, and that comes with knowing that they have a decent education/certificate(s) in order to get a job.

All I'm saying that it's harsh to dismiss whom could be a very good person just because he/she probably didn't get the chance of any higher aducation but is working at the time of the proposal , working hard to slowly reach a better status and accomplish his/her goals. It might be a slow progress but it's still a progress and should be credited for it even if he/she doesn't have the degree to show off.

^ I agree that we should at least acknowledge that someone is trying to fulfill their goals, but I would still rather look out for my best interests. I'm sure there are some people who wouldn't mind, but everyone can tolerate/accept different things.

I know of someone who started working straight out of high school. He is now married and has a kid, and I think he finally realized that life is not so easy and he won't be able to support his family and give his kid a good life with what he has now. He's enrolled in college and is currently a student. He's struggling because he's been out of school for years, and it's not easy to go back to the routine of studying. I imagine he's also quite a bit stressed out, which only creates tension at home.

I'd rather avoid all that, if possible.

I believe that being close enough to my age marriage is the best that would happen for many reasons and one of the reasons that ride the others is understanding each other so she would've finished high school already.

about the graduate, I really don't mind as we are understanding each other, but like anyone would say, preferable a good degree so that she can be educated, but when it comes to men this point is more essential because he is the source of what the family needs (accommodation, money, food, ..etc) so I think it would be a bit difficult for some family to approve man who has a high school degree, but the chances increase as he has a decent steady job.

^^But now it is not only the man's job. Women are contributing to household expenses because life is getting expensive, and if you want a good life, financially speaking, then a degree graduate is preferable. After all, it is an asset.

Why Not !! It's not a matter of wealth . .. It's a matter of what s/he is Now and wut s/he do now ..
I knew people who got a Uni degree and got married to someone who has not finished their high school coz of his family situation after the death of his father but after they settle down, He was working in the morning and studying in the evening til finished the high school .. They did not stop there, He went to college while working as well and finished his degree and now they are satisfied with wut they got ..

It's not who s/he is now but how they think and how their desire to learn new things and sacrifice their so many thing to achieve wut the are now .

I'm kind of shocked that you only mention the Job, financial stuff..etc. These ARE very important..

How come not many mentioned 'mentality'?

To me, personality, mentality and their financial aspect is the most important.

To me, personality, mentality and their financial aspect is the most important.

Ya...no matter how good he was, his mentality will be different than mine if he doesn't go uni. I've always admired those who 'care' and work hard to achieve their goals..specially the academic ones. But, if he doesn't give a damn, that's a turn off for me.

So my wife would be a highschool student? lol No way! Why? I understand that she's perfect for me, but don't people go through alot of change in the few years after school?

Who would I know that her qualities would be the same?

How come not many mentioned 'mentality'?

What exactly do you mean by mentality ??!!
So What do you think of my if I joined the Air Force with HighSchool degree rather then going to Uni ??!! Is that going to make me different person than the real I'm ?!

What exactly do you mean by mentality ??!!
So What do you think of my if I joined the Air Force with HighSchool degree rather then going to Uni ??!! Is that going to make me different person than the real I'm ?!

Uni changes you, whether you want it or not. Not necessarily to the best, but you DO change. So, I want someone who cares about his future enough to go to uni and get a degree. I don't like people who don't have 'academic' goals. Girls or guys..I like it when a 'person' wants to develop and be intellectual. But, that's me..you don't have to agree you know.

I went to Uni and got a degree :p hehe

^^But now it is not only the man's job. Women are contributing to household expenses because life is getting expensive, and if you want a good life, financially speaking, then a degree graduate is preferable. After all, it is an asset.

that is true, but not necessarily if the man can provide everything ,actually its a part of spoiling the lady and I bet no one loves work -_- but education is wanted by everyone ofcourse.

Many are highly educated but behave as illiterates. And many are uneducated but behave like highly literates.

Many are highly educated but behave as illiterates. And many are uneducated but behave like highly literates.

True...but we're not just marrying ANY highly educated person, are we?